Would he have had sex with me if he wasn't attracted to me?

There is this guy I had sex with tonight. I'm a bigger girl, but i have an hour glass shape and a pretty face. I'm super self conscious because he is super fit. I just need to know would he have had sex with me if he wasn't attracted to me? This isn't the first time by any means. I'm in an open relationship and we've seen each other off and on for awhile now.
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  • If he's having sex with you, then he almost certainly finds you physically attractive at some level, even if you aren't necessarily his "type." While it's true that there are a certain percentage of guys who will have sex with ANY girl, even if she's not attractive to him at all, that's actually a pretty small group of guys, and it's usually guys who are desperate and well aware that they aren't particularly desirable, and/or who are drunks or drug addicts and just have no standards for those reasons. It doesn't sound like this guy is one of those.

    Now, it's important that you understand that physical/sexual attraction does NOT equal romantic attraction - most guys are perfectly capable of having casual sex with a girl and NOT having any romantic feelings for her. Obviously guys have feelings for some girls, but they have sexual attraction for 20 times as many girls as they have romantic feelings for, so you cannot equate the two. Romantic attraction is not expressed by guys sexually for the most part, but in other ways that he would treat you outside of the bedroom.

    I don't think you need to worry about the physical attraction part, though. If he wasn't physically attracted to you, he wouldn't have had sex with you, especially not multiple times.

    • We have been on and off for about 3 years and he hasn't been with anyone else the whole time, even though I know there are other girls that have been interested in him. We spend a good amount of time together not in the bedroom and text just about daily, so I think there is more than just a warm hole in it for him 🤷‍♀️

    • That's certainly possible - I just wanted to make it clear that sex by itself doesn't mean romantic interest. Obviously the fact that you spend time together and talk a lot and that he hasn't pursued other women ARE the kind of signs that suggest that he may have interest in more than just casual sex. It is THAT that you should be looking at, rather than the sex part. But it's nice to know that you guys must be sexually compatible, as you're enjoying each other that way already.

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  • There has to be some level of attraction... i mean i dont look at the golden girls are start rubbing my legs in excitement :)

    • That was my thought lol he gets plenty hard and gets off

    • I think we are all our worst judge, i spent 30+ years thinking i was super ugly, even now am not 100% sure how i feel. I think people dont give each other enough compliments on a side note I once had a friends with benefits i was not that fussed on and i ended up pretending i came :s... so that might give you an idea

    • He's cum in my mouth can't really pretent lol

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  • Yeah that can happen. It's actually pretty common for guys

  • I think yes it's possible

  • of course he can have sex with you without emotional or even physical attraction. People but especially men can endure anything to get their dick in some warm place

  • Maybe if he was desperate and didn't have any other options, but otherwise no.

  • Yeah, he would

  • If he wasn't attracted to you then you should not sex with him because sex is the way to show your feelings towards your partner and always do sex with passionate then you feel good

  • I wouldn't have sex with someone I'm not attracted too

  • He may just like sex with you because you don't deny him.

  • Probably yes

  • Hard to say- but he had to be somewhat attracted to you to have sex with you. I hope you enjoyed it!

  • Yes he would. Sometimes ya just gotta bust a nut.

  • Yeah some guys are desperate and pussy is pussy.

  • Everyone is different but my guess is no. But only he could answer this. I know I personally wouldn't sleep with anyone I didn't find attractive, at least somewhat in some way.

  • Yeah

    • How could a guy do that, how do you get turned on if you aren't attracted to them? I mean he gets super hard and has orgasms

    • That’s just the way it is.