Would I be wrong if I ask for an open relationship?

Question

My boyfriend and I have not always been sexually active as of recently. We’ve brought sex back into our relationship. However, we seem to come across the same issue after we have sex I am experiencing abnormal discharge. I’ve gotten tested for it and it’s not an STD but it’s something going on with my partner because every time I sleep with him I am experiencing it. He’s told me that he’s went to the doctor but he doesn’t want to wait to see a doctor he’s giving me so many excuses. I’m at the point where sex is important to me so I want to sleep with someone who doesn’t send me to the doctor. I’m tired of going to the doctor after sleeping with my boyfriend.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I think you should see a doctor together since it is a joint problem.

I did have a problem once where I woke up with my penis stuck to my underpants. Of course I immediately thought the last girl had given me something. Got tested and it wasn't an STD but a bacteria that is normally present in a girl's vagina. I don't know how that works if it is normal but I didn't ask as I was too relieved to think of asking that.

So I guess this could happen in the reverse. Has your doctor given you any info on what is causing this?

Partly in jest, perhaps you should supervise penis washing; better still you wash his penis to make sure it has been done thoroughly.

Aside from that perhaps a doctor might be able to prescribe an antibacterial cream to fix the problem and at the least he could use a condom. Incidentally I was using a condom with the girl I mentioned but I must have been careless in taking the condom off and touched myself with her juices on my finger. If he touches himself then fingers you, he could still infect you. Hand cleanser?

I wouldn't want an open relationship because I would expect it to be problematic and I like a simple life. Maybe you could be OK with it but I doubt your boyfriend would be OK with a situation where he doesn't get to have sex with you but you have sex with other guys. So I think you need to fix the cause.

The other solution is to dump him. I never went back to that girl.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

you're out of your mind. Fix the problem, not avoid it.

Sex is important... either get a new mate or fix the issues with this mate.

This whole entire process, the reason you want this, the reason it's important for the last 15 years and very important the next 5... is to make offspring.

That happens outside of supportive relationship and you, and he, and the little one suffer.

That's why ya gotta do this right. open doesn't solve anything. Only way that works is there is no chance you can make kids, then I don't care, it's your lives.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm in an open relationship, but for a different reason than yours. You need to make a new plan, Stan.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

Perhaps not wrong in asking, but be prepared for not getting the answer you're hoping for.

boggboss · Answer

No harm in asking but it would end many relationships

slatyb · Answer

He needs to be tested. Id he won't, dump him.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

How about using a condom?

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. No harm in asking

Dargil · Answer

An open relationship is simply a joint hall pass. Its to keep a steady supply of sex available when the fishing is not showing as many results. It's a lie.