Would this be seen as rape if she told authorities?

So I helped a friend of mines escape from her abusive psycho ex. She has so much evidence against him but is refusing to press charges. She has a knot on the back of her head from him hitting her head against the ground like a maniac. She has bruises on her legs, hands and lips from him kicking at her face and her trying to block the kicks. Bruises on her arm from him punching her and to top it off she said after he did all that, as an apology tactic he started to kiss on her. Lay her down on the bed. Pulled her pants and underwear down, while she was still crying and in pain trying to mentally recover from what he just did and obviously didn’t want him touching her especially not to have sex and he told her that it turned him on more to see that she didn’t want to have to sex with him and that she should be upset more often when having sex with him because it made the sex feel better. That’s just sick and I can only imagine what she’s going through and dealing with and a lot of things are possibly stopping her from pressing chargers but she needs to. He doesn’t need to just get away with those horrible things.
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  • You are a very good and dear friend to take on this challenge. You are absolutely correct that this behavior was wrong and needs to be addressed.

    First thing, make sure you friend gets the intense counseling she will need before she can ever move forward in her life. The counselors will be the ones who move this in a legal manner. You need to make that appointment and get her to it!

    Your friend has been traumatized beyond what any person should ever have to suffer. That "ex" is not going to suddenly become a wonderful passive individual. If legal action does not take place, he will be off the streets where he is going to continue doing this to other ladies.

    Call now! Save your friend and save the net victim.

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  • It's rape and abuse, and possibly felony assault. As for not pressing charges, it's not unusual. In a way it can be seen as a powertrip. She holds his freedom in her hands. She can press charges and as long as there's still documentable evidence he is at her mercy. If she takes it to trial, once it's over the balance of power is restored or he has more depending on the verdict. I hold the freedom of two guys in my hands, and the statute of limitations on torture doesn't run out. They probably don't remember it or me since it was over 10 years ago, but I do and I am pretty sure if it's brought up others will too.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Yeah absolutely because it is rape. He literally beat the shit out of her and ignored her desires, and forced sex upon her without consent.

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  • Yes that was rape

  • It sure sounds like rape to me, she needs to report him, if she doesn't she's just allowing him to get by with it and he will do it to somebody else

  • Definitely Rape

  • (1) DROP the MF!
    (2) Drop a dime on this MF and charge him with assault.

  • Yeah, it seems like it.

  • Put his ass in jail and let another man do that to him

    • Absolutely, I agree but you know her and I have been friends since freshman year of high school. We’re both 24 years old now and we’ve had our fallen outs and fights and went days without talking but I would come running whenever she needed me even during those times where we weren’t on the best terms and vise versa. That’s how solid our friendship has always been and how close we are so to see that she has experienced something as traumatic as this hurts me so I can only imagine how it’s hurting her seeing as though she was the one who actually endured the horrific things he did to her and out of all of my years of knowing her I never seen her so out of reality. I never seen her so mentally and emotionally drained and hurt. She isn’t herself and I know for sure she needs counseling but she’s gonna turn that down just as she is turning down turning him in but I truly hope this is only one part of her phase of dealing with this and when she comes out of the traumatic trance she is in now, she’ll make the right decision.

  • Yes, it is rape.

    • And there’s no doubt about it either. It’s also clear that he knows very well he raped her considering he’d said it turns him on that she doesn’t want to have sex.

    • Yea although that’s not exactly what she said he said but in other words that what he was saying. He really said, as she was fighting to get him off her, “That’s turning me on even more.”