Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I don't like having to sit in my knees in front of them and it makes me uncomfortable when they like... f****k my mouth. I feel like all the guys i've been with (I'll admit it's not many) want this kind of blow job and then to cum in your mouth which isn't my favorite either... I wish I could enjoy it more but I guess its not supposed to be about me anyway... I think id like just going slooower (if they don't take control as much and just let me explore and... I don't know do stuff!) and not having to choke and gag on one but that seems to be what they want...
All the other sex feels way more looooving and enjoyable but blow jobs have become something I dread. I know a lot of guys are into the gagging sound which I dont get... choking doesn't feel good and makes me cry when it happens cause wtf I'm being choked. It's hard to say no while its happening cause they're kinda in the zone.. but if you were to say before hand that you dont want any of these things is there even any point in a blow job? Would that just be a terrible blow job?
Would this make a bad blow job?
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11 37You're a victim of a porn-addict. Sad, really.
when i hear the gagging sound in porn, it detracts from my enjoyment 99% of the time. an occasional is ok though. of course am 1 of the guys out there that really does not care about getting blow jobs anyways. often i skip/fast forward through those.
Sit on their face 69... then you're in control. Porn has caused face fucking
Or bite him hard see how he likes it.
Omg hahahah I don't want to hurt him but that is funny:p
You can have a go with mine if you want... take as much time as you need
If they start fucking ur mouth as I put it.. it probably means he going to too slow for them.. try doing it faster and they won't have to do anything...
I mean it probably means you r going to slow... not them
Besides.. I like it when a guy shoves his dick down my throat.. I had an ex that would pull my hair gently but firmly and tell me " I told u to I like when I look at me"... when I wasn't making eye contact when I sucked his dick and it loved it when I choked his dick got harder and I just loved making him happy.. it wasn't a big deal a little gagging never bothered me
There is no terrible blowjob. You can do it just don't be impatient.
Men have an instinctual urge to be sexually aggressive and dominant. It comes from millions of years of evolution. Not all are in touch with those instincts, but many are. That's why rape is so common, for example. For many men, aggressive, dominating sex is more exciting. That explains (even if it doesn't excuse) this behavior.
Best advice I can offer is don't have sex with men that do things that upset you.
I’m not into the gagging sound at all, and would be perfectly fine with her going slow. I have no experience to know how effective it would be, but I would never want to make my partner choke.
I hate the forceful/choking/gagging type of blowjobs. Horrible. I LOVE slow, sensual blowjobs where the woman is visibly enjoying herself and her control over my orgasm. BUT - a blowjob without cumming inside the mouth in the end is just terribly frustrating.
I keep hearing that :p haha I guess that would be the thing I'd be ok with keeping
“I dont get... choking doesn't feel good and makes me cry when it happens cause wtf I'm being choked.“
lololol i never had that kind of bj sounds amazing only under the covers. Sucking sounds are fine gagging, coughing, choking are huge turn offs for me. I like to just sit there and get sucked not “face fuck” just let her do the work
by the way a forced bj is a horrible bj. 90% of our pleasure is you hungry for our penis if you are not having fun we feel like rapists 😫
I think u may just be dating the wrong kinda guys. There definitely who are way more into being teased and going slow and gentle and giving control to the girl. The guys ur dating may just be to rough or dominate. U can still give a good blow job. I suggest learning how to incorporate ur hands good and to use lots of spit or lube. U can definitely focus in the tip, make good eye contact, use ur hands to make it feel like it deeper, and do things like lick up and down and suck on the balls. So lots of tools to use that dont involve gagging or getting face fucked. Are u okay with spitting. I totally understand mot swallowing but if ur not okay with spitting u really need to get good with ur hands. Tbh if a girl won't let u cum in her mouth and is not good with her hands it can kinda ruin the bj. Imagine if a guy was eating u out and u said ur were going to cum so he stops what he doing and runs or vagina awkwardly to u finish it's kinda like that. The tight guy important u need a guy who fine with giving u control. Gotta realize that a lot of girls like getting choked so if u guy has experience with girls like that u hating it may be a surprise
I know what you mean. But tbh i don't like that type of blow job either. The kind i like is her affectionately and maybe even hungrily making love or enjoying my cock and balls. I want her to enjoy it as much as anything else in lovemaking. The same way i go down on her. If i can make her tremble and orgasm and want me down there i have done my job. The same way i want her to treat me. It's not about throat fucking or gagging or trying to degrade her but her affectionately enjoying my sexuality the way i enjoy hers. If i cum and if she swallows it or plays with it or licks it that is the most erotic ever. The same way i do her. We can connect the most intimately.
If a guy is forcing you to chock by going all down your throat its wrong an you should just do what you like an not let a guy make the choice its your body an a gug guy should care enogh an do whaf you like
Just tell them how you feel its not just about what they want its about you too. Go slower take your time trust me its fun when you get into it with the right person that cares about what you want and how you feel. If you need anymore advice hit me up
The way you want to give a blow job is great. I think if you explain what you like to do and not do might help
Just explain the way you feel, if the guy complains, he’s not the one you want to be with anyway.
Sounds like a very bad blow job.
So, I think blowjobs are amazing, I do hate the spitting and facefucking trend. Now it does feel nice to be able to get the whole thing in and most women gag with that, although most can’t take mine anyway 🤷♂️
You should be the one in charge when giving a blow-job. You should do what you want, and tell him that. My girl wants me to cum in her mouth, maybe she doesn't like the taste but she does it because she loves me. I always make it a point to kiss her as soon as she is done, and I mean a deep tongue kiss so that I can taste myself. If she is going to have MY dick in HER mouth, I'd better be able to kiss her. Also, I have no desire to choke her or make her gag. When I'm laying down and she's sucking me, she is in charge. She mainly pays attention to the head and the first few inches, that's where all the nerve endings are. Of course she licks and plays with me balls. When I'm on top, fucking her mouth, I like to go slow and easy, just going in a few inches so that I have constant contact with the head and a few inches against her lips for the friction. Guys that do it the way you say don't respect you or your wishes. Explain how you want to do it. It's your mouth. You are in charge.
Try taking control when giving a blow job, lay him on the bed and go at your own pace. You will be less likely to gag if he’s lying down and you are in control, this way you can take it as fast or slowly as you like, and explore more
you are with the wrong guys, they expect life to be like porn, it isn't. find some one that will let you do it your way