Would you agree that the most vulnerable person during sex is the one who gives up control?

I hate the stereotypical roles of women being passive in bed and men being more passive. But i read recently about a guy who said when he gives up control and say let’s a woman go down on him he feels more vulnerable. I do agree receiving physical pleasure can make you vulnerable. But what about GIVING. There’s a whole new feeling of intimacy when I’m causing my partner to moan from what I’m doing. Which type of intimacy do you think is more intense?
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  • Once a girl indicates she has said yes she has essentially become vulnerable to the guy.

    Any of his touches will affect her body and mind.

    The act of the penis being inserted into her vagina affects the woman emotionally and physically a lot more than it does to a guy,

    • I really get anxious when I read this kind of stuff I don’t know why I just feel like that mean so even when you’re in love sex is only emotional for the women, I know some men who find sex emotional I’m so confused

    • It may or may not be an emotional thing for the guy. For me personally, whenever I insert mine into a woman I do it purely for physical pleasure and in my mind it is to dominate and take ownership of her.

    • and what about if the woman is giving you the pleasure? and it switches? Or wouldn’t you do that’s without emotional investment

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  • I guess my take is that both partners are very vulnerable during sex period. As to who's more vulnerable, I'm guessing it depends on the couple.

    • Do you think giving in to receiving pleasure is likely to make you more vulnerable?

    • I see it as accepting rather than giving in.

    • One thing I found interesting was a bisexual guy mentioned he would have a “swooning feeling” during foreplay with a guy as he was letting go of all control and just feeling all the pleasure. I couldn’t understand what he meant do you?

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Most Helpful Girls

  • I think the one being penetrated is most vulnerable... unless teeth are involved.

    • Surely if you 100% trust your partner and feel safe with them though you don’t feel that? If I trust my partner I don’t feel vulnerable just close

    • Oh I didn’t say I FEEL vulnerable. In a loving relationship, neither should feel vulnerable. Both shots feel safe and protected. I’m just stating which partner IS vulnerable.

    • *Both should...

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  • I think both are equally vulnerable but just in different ways

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  • Since both cum aren't they both loosing control?

  • oh yes indeed

  • There are milion of ways to make man submit to you ;-)

  • Disagree. It takes more courage to surrender than to conquer.

    • When can a guy ever feel vulnerable during sex then?

    • Depends on the guy

  • When his honey you will know 😊

    • What do you mean?

  • Usually No one feel vulnerable all the time... sometimes like when they are in some worst mood at that time they may feel...

  • Yeah!

  • I never feel vulnerable either way, it’s all about trust and feeling pleasure

  • I agree that being the more vulnerable partner during sex is really not gender based. I think there's a lot of vulnerability and increased intimacy for both just based on neither of us having any clothes on. Being the giver of oral has always felt somewhat more vulnerable to me. I love the intimacy it makes me feel with her and the pleasure it gives her, but it also involves either lying or kneeling below her for the purpose of giving her pleasure.

    • You feel more vulnerable giving pleasure rather than receiving? I’m the same I feel more emotional giving him pleasure hearing his reactions if that’s makes sense

    • Yes, that makes sense to me because I feel the same way about it.