Im talking to this guy 33 im 24 with intention for marriage. he didn't realize I'm a virgin. I thought he might be into the fact that I'm a virgin lol but he seems scared.
I asked if its a red flag. he's like i would hate to be the first if we didn't work out. Is that good he said that or does he think we won't work out huh. I told him to not say wouldn't work out. he said I'm rlly just laying it all out there. and then i switched the convo.
Honestly, everyone thinks the first time is perfect, but really, no one's first time is. The first girl I had sex with cheated on me a week later. My best advice, don't wait until you're married. As long as it's with someone who means something to you, that's all it matters. If you wait until you're married, the guy you married might be bad at it, and you might end up believing that all sex is bad.
Don't wait until you're married, but wait until you find someone worth doing it with. Someone who will care about your needs, rather than just wanting to have sex with you. It sounds like the guy you're talking about is considerate because he obviously was worried about it not working out. He's probably worth giving it a shot with.
Just make sure you do foreplay first, and have him eat you out first, to get you relaxed. A lot of girls tense up their first time and it makes it hard to get it in, but foreplay will prevent that from happening. And the more you explore each other's bodies first, the better the sex will be. You can even go down on each other a few days before, and then do it again the day you plan on having sex.
The sex will feel good. Trust me! Foreplay first is the key though!
I think it means he has morals in that you are intending to be a virgin till marriage and if he takes your virginity then he should marry you. That's how he is reading it.
A virgin would be exciting to me. I would get off on my penis being the first you have seen ( I am making an additional assumption). And non-penetrative sexual activities with a virgin would be all the more exciting (another underlying assumption). Of course I would dearly love to be the first to penetrate you.
But it is not exactly an obligation free try before you buy deal morally. I would respect your decision to be a one man woman and value that. Most men would. I would have the same qualm he does. I should marry you if I take your virginity.
I might also feel concern that maybe it turns out I have a wife that isn't very interested in sex afterwards. Maybe I can judged that from non-penetrative activities.
I'm sure all this can be worked through with him. Good luck.
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LOL omg
So I have, and it was the worst sex ever. For about an hour I was starting to think I can't even get my dick inside. So I finally get in there (literally just the tip) and because of all the sexual tension, I felt like busting right away. So, I pulled out and there was blood. She didn't let me get back in it and it was a long night of not getting to finish.
I promised to meet up with her the next night and she was trying to get help with her rent money. So I ghosted her. I had to find a new place to pick up chicks the next night.
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There's no way to know if it will work or not. You can say this say that. Doesn't mean it will actually happen.
I would not be scared, no.
I've never found it particularly exciting, but to each their own I suppose.
No, and not particularly.
Oh yeah if you're waiting for marriage it's great the he respects that. I mean, isn't that kind of common sense?
Been there and did that. Later, she resented me, and told around that I "raped" her, which infuriated me. To do over, I would not have broken her hymen, and found some way around not breaking it.
It would be a challenge to give her a fond memory.
I'd probably be nervous that I was going to hurt her, but beyond that I would be excited.
I might be a little nervous about it. I might worry that she might not like it.
Inorefervyi be with a virgin.
In my wild youth I avoided virgins. I knew I wasn’t ready to commit so I wasn’t going to use someone who had been saving themselves. I felt like I didn’t deserve her.
I think I'd be excited at the idea. Always wanted to be someone's first
Definitely very excited not so much about the virginity but that I would be a participant in the most healthy act man and woman can do.
I have had a couple virgins when I was younger and was never really scared and mostly excited. Maybe if I was a virgin myself I might have been scared but I think since I had experience I think I could make the girl comfortable and enjoy her first time. With your boyfriend he might not be scared but maybe shocked or surprised your a virgin at 24 cause most women around that have had sex already.
Nope.
Statistically speaking, you probably won't
Wouldn't bother me.
He being honest
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