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Would you be weirded out by your partner’s lack of experience?

I’ve started dating someone but we’ve not had sex. There have been times it’s seemed things were going to progress but I don’t let it for the reason being that when I did have sex with my previous partner, which was my first time, I was basically made to lay back and that was it.
there was no foreplay or letting me do things or anything. Was pretty much me laying there and him doing whatever which is what he wanted and I went with it as I didn’t know anything.
I feel embarrassed to be like, yeah I’ve had sex a few times but I don’t actually know what I’m doing and this is why.
i think I just feel scared and just embarrassed to be judged because I look back and think it’s weird.
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  • I want to thank you for this question or my take. What ever it is I hear you loud and clear. I think its might be something I needed to hear maybe. When I lost my virginity it was with a 19 year old girl home on college break

    When we finished she loved it I didn't say it out loud but I was pissed off I was disappointed because I didn't see the fireworks

    So I felt I was going to go to hell and plus the sex sucked at least for me but I didn't know what it was supposed to be
    2 days later she called me back and wanted to do it again agreed and it sucked she said it was great the third time same thing

    I could not understand why I was not seeing these fireworks that I was told I was going to see when having sex
    The four time she called me and all week long that's all I ever thought about what could I do to make it better
    The 4th time that she called me she said that she would be leaving in a couple days her mom is going to be gone this weekend. She wanted me to come over. I agree to

    Once I got to her house it all came to me I knew what I was going to do I knew I was going to make it all about her
    And that's what I did I took over and I made it all about her when we were finished
    We both had the best out of body experience ever I saw the fireworks all she can say is oh my God you're kidding me she told me it was the best sex he's ever had in her life
    She told me if I did not like that then there was something wrong with me and I said no I absolutely loved it and from that moment on every time that I had sex with a girl that's what I did I made it all about her and I've done that all my life until my age now and it is worked out every single time
    I have done nothing but make it better each and every time and then I hear your question and feel your question and it makes me rethink a lot of things I've also learned how to read people pretty well I can look into a girl's eyes read the color of her cheeks how she moans how she moves her hips and by doing this keep telling me what she wants without saying one word
    And in reading your question I felt you so deep that you reminded me of me
    I reread your question a few times and each time I felt your words deeper
    But I don't understand is why this guy could not feel you I read your emotion are you body language and why didn't he take you to orgasm after orgasm after orgasm
    Because I don't care if a girl doesn't know what she's doing I would be able to read that I don't care if she was shy. I would be able to read that and I would make you feel comfortable it just my touch or the way that I would pull you closer into my body and hold you I think would make you want to do a lot of things I basically had this flash of exactly how I would do it and by doing this there's no way in this world you would not have been a part of it I would have made you a part of it just by the things that I would have done
    I'm sorry that your experience was not the best but whatever you do don't look at it like that making love with somebody and experience it was somebody that cares you can actually feel that deep throughout your whole bones your inner core who you are as a person your energy whatever you do don't give up you have the desire in the passion in the desire it sounds like. I think one day you going to make a guy very happy guy just because of the way you think and what you looking for

  • I would be more weirded if she had too much experience. Most men aren't picky about sex like women are because majority of men think any sex is good. As long as they aren't cheating or have permanent contagious viruses. Honest open girls are wanted because we all like it in different ways instead of guessing what people like we're not psychic

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  • no its fine, we all have to start from somewhere. you could turn this around and make it more fun for both, by admitting that you are wanting to learn and experiment. be honest and tell him that you previous experiences haven't been that great and let him take the lead, but also join in when you feel you want/comfortable and it will build as you get more experience.

    could also watch a few porno's to get some ideas?

  • I think we all just know the basics when we start and have a similar experience. If you find the right partners, you can learn as you go and have fun learning from each other.

  • No not at all, everyone has a different level of experience or knowledge with sex.

    also every person is different, this means what worked with one partner may not with your new partner.

    the important thing is discussing sex, what both like, and during sex talk to each other and importantly listen to each other’s audible and non audible signs.

    definitely would never be weirded out by them having more or less experience.

  • Well a lot of girls just lay back. :)

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MenActWomenAre

    • Yes but that’s not a choice I made. Now I’m left with no proper experience from then

  • No I wouldn't be weirded out at all, while my preference is to have an experienced girl I would never object to having an inexperienced girl. Especially if she asked me to teach her, that's kind of hot.

  • Being with an inexperienced girl is a guys dream. Less pressure on him to “out perform” the previous guy. Also it’s hot in general to see a girls reaction when she feels something for the first time.

    • Tell him you’ve never had REAL sex and that’ll be a turn on for him.

  • I never had actual sex so I don't know. But it's funny that my one time experience was kind of like yours but in reverse. I mean she wanted to lay back and did nothing till her orgasm which I did orally and I was so turned off that I did even left my clothes on and I did nothing although I tried to hide that from her and pretend I'm not in the mood.
    But to answer your question, I don't think a girl not having experience would be a turn off for me even if I was experienced myself. I would like to teach her haha but again don't take my word for it.

  • Not at all. I will coach her on what I want her to know and do. Easier than breaking old habits.

  • I wouldn't be weirded out. I'd be impressed by her honesty if she just told the truth and we then learned what we like together.

  • I did not have a great deal of experience either so it all worked out.

  • Not weirded out, but I have to change my mindset before having an encounter with her.

  • Teach me obi wan... In other words you talk to him. Tell him you want to learn, and you would love it if he helped you.

  • Here's the thing. Men are going to get off and pretty much all you need to do is be present.
    There are some things you can do to make it more pleasurable, but men do not need that like women do. If you were there and you t least appeared to have a good time then he is happy.
    However the lack of foreplay on his part and that inconsideration he seems to have shown you is not good. A more experienced lover will know how to make you happy. The best ones focus on that more than on themselves because they know that the better it is for you, the better it is for them.

    • Yes my ex wasn’t great at all and wasn’t a good experience in my opinion. Thanks for the feedback

  • No. It just be weirded out, if they didn't wanna make experiences.

  • I’m waiting until marriage, so no.

  • Well i am a virgin so no not really

  • I don't care if the girl is inexperienced or even a virgin

  • No. Would you if he was older and inexperienced.

  • Just the opposite. I love to teach

  • I prefer lack of experience.

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