Would You Break Up With Your SO If They Said They Have Fantasized About Being R@ped By You?

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note : they used the r word, they didn't say anything about you dominating them

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No I would not I'm single right now. So I like to flirt with the right person there are so many girls who ask to role play this scenario at first it kind of blew me away and I didn't know how to respond and it's the same time it kind of blew me away because there was no possible way that I could even think about it how to go about it because I'm not that person I can't take my mind there
I got into some heavy conversations with girls about it
Every single one
Explain to me they never wanted this to happen to them in real life or anybody else it was just a fantasy of Make Believe and I understood where they were coming from so we both would try it and play it out it was still hard for me because I still could not keep my mind wrapped around it but I kept reminding myself it's a role play this is what she wants this is what I will do for her I have had girlfriends who that's the same with me before and I felt the same way but now I see it a little bit different now because of talking with girls about it so no I would not break up and I would probably help her with it do it with her so she can experience what she wants to experience like I said it is totally amazing on how many girls are women want to experience this the down deep they do not want any harm to ever happen to them like this or anybody else

Shadowrunneruk · Accepted Answer

I honestly wouldn't. Although I would be concerned.

There are a lot of people for whom this kind of roleplay is a fun (if extreme) way of enjoying a partner's company and they are, as a rule, well adjusted. It's certainly not my thing, but there you go.

But it could be a warning sign for significant trauma and abuse in the past that's manifesting itself in the only way that person can control- through sex- as it's all about control.

If I were you, I'd probably sit them down and just make ABSOLUTELY sure there's nothing in the background that could be a really bad trigger for them and bring up some horrible memories and it's just genuine play. In which case, consent is even more important as this can be an absolute minefield.

Although if it's just a dream, and nothing further will come of it, just check if they are OK and carry on if they are, support if they don't :)

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

No. If you look up genuine doctor articles rape fantasies rarely mean involving wanting actual rape.

It would be a conversation. And ask if they want to find someone to talk about it to figure it out.

TacosRAwesome · Accepted Answer

Yes. That's a huge turn off and makes me wonder if they see me as the man in the relationship.

HelloImGoodThanks · Answer

That's a tough one because I have been raped.

NamerOfStars · Answer

No. It WOULD be kind of off-putting, but a fantasy's just a fantasy- and I'm certainly not going to toss out an otherwise-fine relationship over one poorly-phrased comment. Building a relationship that's worth a damn is HARD (and it's a matter of building, *not* of finding), and it never ceases to amaze me how quick people are to forget that.

Vanidal · Answer

For me, that translates to forced domination. She wants to try being used out of nowhere. It means whatever you will do, whenever, in what situation, she'll be willing to be used sexually and she will try not to be angry. It's in itself is a consent for you to use her. It's a nice sudden sub-dom play if you're into it. A kind of reckless sub-dom play for the girl. Do it in a way that she might feel forced and disturbed. Say that you want to 'rape' her to make her remember what she wants. If she let you to continue, no complaints, that means you're doing a good job.
For example like when you're having a deadline for a job that you shouldn't pass. I may 'rape' you and could end up with you failing to finish that job, getting some trouble. If she doesn't stop you that means: continue. Maybe she's the kind of girl who has the sex thrill of being reckless.

Sour-rose · Answer

I don't know, it sounds like a trap or just a fantasy that will probably never happen

Bolty44 · Answer

Fantasy is not reality it is made up by a person for pleasure in this case, so as long as they don't think I'm rapist but have kinks and fetish, fantasies they are for fun and delusional and i wouldn't mind a bit and fulfill them it's also a way of loving a person, if they really feel like I'm rapist in reality then they have disrespected my love and my whole existence in their life and i would leave them as soon as I hear this, I've already broken up my 6 years first love relationship because she thought i was there for physical needs and disrespected my innocent love it's wasn't hard for me to leave and i don't regret it after 6 more years have passed from separation

GoldenDragon · Answer

Making mountains out of molehills much?

slatyb · Answer

No, I would talk about what they imagined.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nope that sounds hot lmao. And I would reply back sames!

AviatorTom · Answer

No, I wouldn't break up, I'd just make sure it was only a fantasy.

Spotifyplaylist · Answer

No but definitely would need to talk about that with them.

bowenw · Answer

No. I would see if they wanted to do try the roleplay.

Wubs3000 · Answer

No I wouldn't but I would tell them that I wouldn't play into a rape kink. A bondage, or extreme domination kink sure, but not them telling me to stop and trying to get away from me like someone actually getting raped

JessJJ · Answer

No. I've been a victim of this already but I wouldn't leave someone over a fantasy.

exitseven · Answer

No, everyone has fantasies.

Anpu23 · Answer

Can't happen. By definition rape precludes consent. You can't want someone to rape you because that desire itself turns it into a domination fantasy not a rape. It's an important distinction as some rapists use rape fantasies as an excuse, so let's get away from the terminology