Girls, Would you care if your boyfriend had gay relationships?

[Choices2b1]

So, I have noticed there tends to be a double standard?
Most people could care less if a woman has same sex relationships? Even most men seem to find it appealing?

However, many people do not hold the same perspectives for male same sex relationships?
Even a lot of girls I meet who are open to female same sex relationships, do not share the same acceptance of male same sex relationships?
Lots of girls I know are unwilling to even date men who have had relationships with men before?

What do you ladies think about this?

[CurLyF]

Well, I'm straight, I like straight men and I'm monogamous. So no, I wouldn't be open to be with another woman or man while being in a relationship with a man I'm supossedly in love with. The base and limits, I think, need to be discussed individually in every relationship right from the start, because everyone is different and you can't just assume stuff. So I don't see a problem if Jon Doe tell his girlfriend he in particular has no problem with her having sex with somebody else as long as is a woman too. And I don't see anything wrong if Jane Doe tells her partner she prefers complete monogamy. Everyone needs to decide that up for themselves in their relationships. Hell, maybe I/you/they want to change bounderies from one relationship to the other because the person and context is different and that's ok too, no room for any outsider to judge what goes on behind closed doors.

[Choices2b1]

That is fair! :) Do you personally find lesbian or gay male sex hot? MOST girls I ask say lesbian is hot, but gay is gross?

[CurLyF]

I don't find lesbian sex hot per se, I think most girls, and men, are ok with seeing it and even like it because the attractive traits of a woman are preserved in lesbian sex (like being delicate and sensual, at least when it's not extreamly hardocre I imagine). And gay sex between two men is different, the appealing trait of a man is usually his dominant and strong behaviour in the bed, so in gay sex one has to be dominated (penetrated, for example) and thus looses that appealing trait. Of course I'm just talking from my point of view, and this is strictly sexual and what each like and dislike, has nothing to do with homophobia. I have very good gay friends, it just doesn't do anything for me to see them do anything sexual. And I dislike anal penetration, it really grosses me out, done by men or women in homosexual or heterosexual sex, so that's why I find gay sex more repellant. But I have noticed many women preffering gay sex over lesbian or straight. For example, in fandoms of tv series, a lot of women fantazise about some clearly straight characters becoming gay, and I don't get it, but to each what they like, right? hehe :3

[Choices2b1]

Haha that makes sense I also saw according to pornhub that lesbian porn was the number 1 for women to view? thats crazy! would you mind giving some advice? or just talking to me for a bit? it might be gross stuff to you I don't know. up to you message me if its okay

[yolo18]

It would definitely be a deal breaker for me. I would still date a guy even if he was seeing guys before me. But if my boyfriend tell me he had a fling with a guy before our relationship, I would still be with him because I this point of our relationship, I'm totally in love with him, so there's no going back. I would just be more wary of he's friendships not just with girls but ALSO with his pals. Yhh, that would be stressful. Thank goodness that's not my situation: my man is straight, I'm straight, we have less to get jealous of, hahah

[Choices2b1]

Haha, thats fair! Do you find GuyxGuy relationships icky? Most girls I know personally do

[yolo18]

No, i don't have a problem with men who like sexual relationship with other men. by the way, I'd love if you'd give me your opinion on my latest question, since is aimed more at guys, I'd appreciate

[Choices2b1]

Sure! :) and could you give me some advice?

[yolo18]

Yeah, let me message you then

[Choices2b1]

okay :)

[amadimal]

I would date a bisexual man if we'd be in a monogamous relationship.

[Choices2b1]

That is great! have you ever?

[amadimal]

No. I don't even know one :)

[Choices2b1]

Ya, that is understandable Out of Lesbians, Gay Men, Bi Women, Bi men Bi men seem to be the least numerous Bi women seem to be the MOST numerous

[Hannah_le]

Aaa well hm I guess it’s a turn off tho.. maybe it’ll be shocking to me? But yea I wouldn’t know how to feel about that. No offense of course tho.

[Choices2b1]

Oh okay! No worries! So you find it a bit wrong? or gross? Or is it just strange? I understand though! I suppose, I am just mentioning there seems to be a double standard on this because very few care if women have past relationships with other women

[Hannah_le]

Oh well I’m straight tho and wouldn’t have a relationship with another girl cuz emotionally or anything I wouldn’t have attachments yeh know. I don’t know I just find it strange I guess. It’ll make me have more trust issues If they are still curious to still explore those areas.

[Choices2b1]

So you are saying youd be afraid of a boy that way because of the extra challengers to you? basically? that makes sense I suppose

[Hannah_le]

Yea lol.

[Choices2b1]

Haha well that is fair! Honestly, the majority of women I speak to just find it a bit weird if a guy swings that way. Many think it makes him "less a man" that is just my experience though

[lexylynn29]

if I was in a relationship yes I would care.

[Choices2b1]

I don't mean for multiple relationships i once I just meant that he had a gay relationship in the past

[lexylynn29]

yeah no its what his past is.

[Choices2b1]

Hmm I see cool!

[Little_Bumblebee]

As long as he's not having those while with me.
I don't are if he has been with guys before me. As long as he's not with others when we're in a relationship.

[Choices2b1]

Oh okay! Would you say more girls you know share your views?

[Little_Bumblebee]

I think it's mixed. Some would find it weird or off putting that he has been with men as well.

[Choices2b1]

I see! Just seems like a double standard I find often these days

[Little_Bumblebee]

Only assuming they would be with a woman. I'm fine with a guy having been with another guy prior to a relationship with me. A big part of that is because I'm into women as well and because I accept different sexualities.

[Choices2b1]

See, and that is something else I have noticed in my own life I meet plenty of bisexual women, who are obviously open to being with other women! BUT! at the same time they don't want to date a man who is bisexual, because it makes him "less a man"

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well... I'm not saying that? It doesn't make him any less of a man just because he's also into men. As long as he's into me, we're good 😅

[Choices2b1]

Haha good!

[loves2learn]

I’m not open to either. I’m not open to any sort of open relationship. That’s me.

[Choices2b1]

Oh, I don't mean open relationships Just that his past relationships included that

[loves2learn]

Ohhh. Past. No. I wouldn’t be bothered by that as long as he’s into me.

[Choices2b1]

Great! I have just noticed a double standard in my area. Even Bisexual girls would avoid dating Bisexual men because of it making them "less of a man"

[Choices2b1]

Would you be comfortable giving me some advice?

[loves2learn]

Sure. Pm me

[stupidteen19]

dnt judge me bt i would love to see it ,

[Choices2b1]

Haha I think most girls would find it a bit icky? Though, I think most men would love to see a girl get it on with another girl

[stupidteen19]

im nt like that, my boyfriend is my first, i dnt wanna loose him, he has a nice job and nice degrees to back it up. im honest and dnt see other guys. bt if he is secretly bisexual i will be heartbroken. but if he wnna try it, i would ask him to do it in front of me.

[Choices2b1]

Hha cool! would you mind giving me some advice?

[weysally]

a one off not sure how I would feel more then a no

[NopeWhatTime]

I wouldn't care

[KimmyKimchi]

I wouldn't really care if he's had boyfriends before, but I'd generally prefer to date someone who is also a virgin 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Choices2b1]

Oh! that makes sense! I suppose I am just trying to discuss the double standard that seems to exist in society today on this topic.

[Hurlyburly]

Umm no, I would not care. Its actually kinda cute 🤷‍♀️

[Choices2b1]

Oh cool! Where I am from I meet a lot of girls that tend to avoid guys who have been known to have past relationships that way. So I was just curious! I thought it was weird considering so many girls do it too. Not to mention a lot of the girls I knew that were against it were also bisexual themselves? So it seems really hypocritical.

[Hurlyburly]

Well I'm not bisexual xD far from that.

[Choices2b1]

Oh cool! Well I am glad you support it!!

[Choices2b1]

Wish I could post more than 2 questions its a silly rule Is there a way to message people on here? Or do I have to wait until im a 2xper Sorry if you don't want to answer. You are just the last person to reply to me

[Hurlyburly]

You have to be lvl2 exper to message, and you can also post more questions a day with a higher level. Getting to lvl2 is quite fast as far as I remember, you just have to answer more questions.

[Choices2b1]

Oh okay! well I tried answering a bunch :P Guess ill have to wait to message people I was hoping to find some people that I could talk with in private about some issues but its largely on topics I think most would find icky anyways