Would you consider these things to be cheating?

Where would you draw the line?
Where would you draw the line?
  • Talking to an ex (not romantically)
  • Meeting up with an ex (not romantically)
  • Deleting chat messages with certain people (even though it was a regular chat)
  • Muting/hiding notifications from specific people
  • Taking selfies with the opposite sex, just the two of you
  • Not posting your S. O. online (want to appear single)
  • Liking suggestive photos on social media
  • Having an OnlyFans subscription
  • Having a separate social media account to follow suggestive accounts (but not hiding it)
  • Saving porn where you find the porn star to be super attractive
  • Only masturbating/jerking off to a specific porn star
Yes to some
Vote A
Yes to all
Vote B
No to all
Vote C
Other
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  • I said no to all because me and my wife have a very liberal mindset and it works for us.

    We both still are friends with our exes/friends with benefits on social media and have no issues with one or another talking to them. If we talk to them, we don't necessarily have to share it, however, if we were to meet up with one of them, out of respect to the other we would obviously tell each other.

    As for deleting chat messages, muting and hiding notifications, liking photos on social media, having separate social media accounts, we have no issues with this. We love and respect each others boundaries and don't go through each others phones/texts etc. We express to each other if we find someone attractive/hot despite their gender and we both take selfies with just us and the opposite sex.

    Neither of us have onlyfans subscription but have individually P-hub accounts and occasionally (me more frequent than her) do pleasure ourselves to a specific pornstar or porn theme. She knows that I know the names of several pornstars and she smiles it away. We've even watched porn together and me telling her the names of some actor to search for.

    As stated very liberal mindset and lifestyle. However, there are things we don't do such as having sleepovers of opposite sex, going to hotel rooms of opposite sex no matter the relationship (with the exemption of direct relatives) and travelling alone with the opposite sex (with the exemption of it being work-related).

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  • since they are not hiding anything from me... I do not consider any of this cheating

    I am assuming that we would have had a conversation about this, and I would understand the why or where is coming from, and I had issues or concerns... I would communicate these to her, and she would consider my concerns ( and maybe she would share hers, about anything I might do or won't do myself) and then we would take it from there

    if she or me, continued to do things the other do not appreciate, then we would have a compatibility issue, but I would not call her a cheater, because she's not being secretive or hiding things

    • Does that mean that hiding and deleting chat conversations would be considered as borderline cheating in your book then?

    • no, not cheating per se... but hiding things and being secretive is still, not an honest thing... and I might have a problem with that, because they're actively hiding stuff from you

    • That males complete sense, I feel the same way as you do. Thanks so much for sharing your opinion!

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  • If the last point damages the intimate life, I would consider it as a problem, but not cheat.

    • What if he’s imagining his favorite porn star while having sex with you?

    • I assume that as long as is with me, loves me and initiates intimate situations, it's OK. People are different and different things drive them. So, as long as our relationship is not damaged in any way I won't judge

    • That’s cool, I appreciate you sharing your input. Hope you have a nice day/night! xx

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • None of these are really cheating, but they are still serious red flags.

  • Honestly, it really depends on the rules of the relationship. I'm fine if my boyfriend does any of these and he's fine if I do.

  • Using the word "cheating" obscures the real issue. Are these things that you would do if your partner was present and observing, or are they things that you conceal from your partner? If these things must be hidden away. . . why? Because doing those things violates your partner's trust in you?

    • Yes I believe if you wouldn’t do it in front of your partner then you have no business trying to do that thing in the first place. Might not necessarily be considered as cheating but crossing some boundaries for sure

  • NO / NO / NO / Maybe / YES / NO / YES / YES / YES /YES

  • Sounds like someone has been doing some serious investigation work... just end it now.

    • No my boyfriend doesn’t do these things, it just came up in a conversation with my girl friends and it was so interesting how different the threshold for what we each would consider to be “cheating” is.

  • side from porn things the rest is cheating for both gender.

  • I wouldn't consider any of them cheating, though a few are questionable if you're in a serious relationship.

    It wouldn't surprise me, though, if some people think some of them are cheating.

  • Only the last two qualify.

    • Oh that’s interesting. I personally consider paying for an OF subscription to be cheating but not the rest lol. The rest I wouldn’t consider to be cheating but it’s definitely not cool.

  • 1. Yes unless its telling them off and is a one time thing.
    2. Yes.
    3. No.
    4. No.
    5. No but in some situations its disrespectful.
    6. No but its disrespectful.
    7. No, unless she us talking to/interacting with those people.
    8. Yes.
    9. No if just folllowing, yes if interacting with/talking to.
    10. No, viewing porn is fine.
    11. No, liking specific kinds of porn is fine.

    As long as I'm the only guy she's touching or flirting with, I'm good.

    • Would you consider meeting with an ex for work as cheating though? I can understand if they’re meeting just to catch up or hang out that it would be high key sus but what about if it’s strictly professional?

    • I'd still consider it cheating, but the thing is thats never going to happen. Her joining my work from home business and leaving her old job is a requirement to be with me. If her personality and hobbies matches mine, it would be a dream job for her, so if she doesn't want it, we aren't a mental match, and if thats the case, I'm not dating/marrying her.

  • The OF is pretty bad.

  • Some of those are suspicious, but not cheating.

    • Yep I agree! Which bullet point would you consider to be actual cheating then?

    • Only Fans.

    • Couldn’t agree more

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