Girls, would you date a guy who was saving sex for marriage, but was still willing to do some romantic and intimate things with you?

Would you be in a relationship with no sex if the guy was willing to do other romantic, intimate, stuff with you?

Allowed:

Kissing

Cuddling

Giving you body massages

Sleeping/showering/bathing together

Kissing your body incl. kissing/licking breasts

Watching/reading erotic content together

Discussing sexual fantasies

Watching you pleasure yourself incl. with toys

Watching you getting naked/pleasuring yourself somewhere outdoors/public if you are into it

Not allowed:

No sex

No oral sex

No fingering

No mutual masturbation

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“It would suck in some ways, because some of us do enjoy intimacy.” There are some quite intimate things on the “allowed” list. I’ve also included fun activities like the outdoors stuff. Discussing sexual fantasies is mentally intimate. And why do you need to have sex to be emotionally intimate with someone?
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SueShe: The things included on the “Allowed” list are allowed IF YOU WANT to do them. The point is that sex is not allowed. So, IF you wanted to fill that void (so to speak) with other intimate things, you can choose any options from the Allowed list.
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  • No of course not.

    Not because I would save sex for marriage but simply because I don't date and it makes no sense to perform all those things, knowing that there is no future with that person.

    Furthermore, I am not into manipulating my body uselessly to induce spasms and muscular contractions. Also, I am not into pornography and most of those topics enumerated relate to pornography including watching porn, discussing those topics and using toys.

    Finally, I don't really see a guy watching all those things happening without at least attempting to rape the girl or to motivate or coerce her to be sexual. This is simply something that men are incapable of.

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  • I'd probably never go out with someone who's saving themselves for marriage. Since I don't believe in that. Premarital sex is very important, in my opinion.

    But if I really like this guy, yes I will. The thing is, there are some sexual things on the allowed list that I wouldn't do. Like let them watch me pleasure myself, what the fuck? Or them licking my boobies, yikes.

    I don't have problems with taking it slow, I just don't see a point in being hypocritical.

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  • It would suck in some ways, because some of us do enjoy intimacy. However, if I really love the person, I would be willing to abide by their wishes.

  • I do not want to have sex ever, so this would work out fine.

  • Wtf... no.. why? That's obsurd

  • No. I think that would be a clear sign that we are not aligned and not meant for each other. sex is a important part of a healthy relationship and I need to know me and him are sexually compatible if I’m considering on spending the rest of my life with him. Loving someone doesn’t equal sexual chemistry and vice versa

    • So you are saying you wouldn’t marry someone without the sexual chemistry, even if you loved them?

    • Yes. Putting it like that sounds shallow though. Wouldn’t marry someone without sexual chemistry just as I wouldn’t marry someone that didn’t respect me, have morals, value me etc even if I loved them. Sex is just as important

    • Ok, that’s interesting. Thanks for your answer.

  • While I respect your decision and principle, I don’t think we would be compatible. I can hold the sex thing perhaps if oral is allowed but you mentioned no oral as well.

  • Not a chance. I'm fine waiting until they're ready, but if they are waiting until marriage, then sexual contact won't ever happen, which is a non starter.

    • Why not…because you don’t want marriage or because you’re not marriage material?

    • I don't believe in marriage

    • I see… You may not be compatible with someone waiting for marriage then!

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  • noooo... i also don't engage in premarital sex and only kissing and hugging i allow no touching whatsoever hands off 🙂

  • No, I am not stupid enough to take that gamble.

  • I am also saving myself for my husband so it sounds good to me.

  • Yes I would.