Would you date someone who has sexual trauma from childhood?

(by the way please don't be like "i'm so sorry" or whatever i hate that kinda stuff just makes me feel embarassed & uncomfortable, so please don't. don't troll either please, that shit really hurts)

assuming you liked them ofc & they had moderate ptsd (but at times can get worse to the point where it's really bad and they can't function). they are ok with having sex with you pretty much whenever you want mostly or doing that type of stuff but they can't really enjoy it either & it will trigger them in some way usually but they'll suck it up for you
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  • The impact of childhood trauma can take a toll on your partner’s ability to function in a healthy way. As a result, they may experience seemingly irrational emotional reactions—including emotional numbness or mood swings—or the inability to participate in “normal” behaviors, including sexual situations.

    Supporting a partner in healing from childhood trauma can be emotionally complex. From the tremendous love you feel for your partner to the to the anxieties, sadness, and resentment your partner’s trauma can bring up to the exhilaration you experience as progress is made, the journey is rarely simple.

    Obviously I will date her BUT I can hear the bitter truth. Just she shouldn't hide anything from me before dating.

    "they are ok with having sex with you pretty much whenever you want mostly or doing that type of stuff "

    Relationship is more than Sex. There are thousands of ways to love partner than Sex. Sex is part of Relationship. She should do if she is comfortable with It. Having a romantic movie and dinner also count in dating.

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  • Honestly I don't k ow if I could do that. It's one thing to love that person, but it's another thing that you would also be causing them pain and trauma because of it in the long run. Sex is an integral part in a relationship and if one party is suffering over it m, but sucking it up to please the other, not only is it counterintuitive to them, but they aren't really doing it because they want to either.

    I would rather she have a life she can be happy with and enjoy rather than me adding to that trauma with wanting sex.

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  • Of course. But if sex makes them uncomfortable or triggering, I won’t do that. They’ll have my love, and I can get sex elsewhere if need be. It’s ok

  • If having intercourse triggers them in any way, i simply wouldn't have intercourse with them. But I'd still date them tho

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  • There are a few things to consider.
    Follow me if you want to talk about it.

  • Hope so bc I have sexual trauma from my childhood.

  • If they can't enjoy it then that's a clear no.

  • I have had exes with traumatic sexual past in the forms of rape or molestation - and always via a family member. Love is love. It did not stop either of us from getting involved. Meeting the right gal or guy to make them completely at ease around one another will make this all the easier moving forward with another.

    • Exactly!

    • They way I see it, this trauma doesn’t make them any less open to love. After all, they are still human.

  • I did too so...
    There were a few times that I'm with a girl and we fall asleep together and I wake up to her pushing and scratching me because she's having nightmares about when she was raped. Talk about a cry fest.
    Both times (two different girls) that's how I found out they'd been raped.

    At that point they just needed a listening ear or shoulder to cry on. Patience on my part.
    It's not easy to deal with trauma but if you have already built up some trust, that's the best thing a guy can do if his intention is to help, if he even cares, if she's not just a cum receptacle.
    Therapy is almost always beneficial ( depends on the therapist).

  • That would suck if she couldn't enjoy sex. I know it's not her fault. But it would still be very unfortunate.

  • Yes, I would definitely try it.

  • would be complicated, but as long as she doesn't want/try to kill me, it can work

  • no, there are too many complications.

  • I don’t understand it so I don’t feel sympathy or bad for them,
    If a woman touched me as a child I would absolutely have loved it, I would not have been traumatised

    So I don’t understand how a lot of people are “traumatised “
    From young sexual expierences?
    Isn’t sex a good thing?

    Even if a man touched me I wouldn’t care, I wouldn’t enjoy it since I’m not gay... but if a man fucked me in the ass as a kid I wouldn’t traumatised, I’d jus be like “meh” “jus something that happened... don’t care”

    Maybe I’m just a psychopath

    • Jus to be clear I don’t encourage adults to do that sorta thing and I am no way for pedophilia... I’m jus saying... when I was a kid... it wouldn’t have bothered me... so I don’t understand how it bothers others... and for that reason I don’t care about them and have no sympathy or bad feelings for them... it’s jus something that happened.. who cares...

  • If she can have sex I would do it no problem

  • I think the most important is go slow and only do it if realy are enjoying it, just doing it for the other person it's not the way you want...

  • yeah i would and i would be ok with it

  • Maybe , it just depends

  • Best sex is with a girl w daddy issues.

  • Maybe. Depending on how her trauma affects her. I'm not really a "people person". I'm blunt and honest to a fault. I'm the kinda guy who piss people off because they asked me questions thry did not want my answer on. Just don't expect me to be able to comfort you.

    The description you gave, I could date you. But I would be celibate. I don't really need sex myself, it feels good but is not really a need so eh.

  • how old are you?

    • i'm 20

    • is sex important to you in a relationship?

    • i don't really care that much about sex, don't have much of a sex drive lol

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