Would you date someone with a high body count (Past Lovers)?

[wilcross]

[flower92]

Actually I had. I don't really care about the number, i actually like it when a guy has a high body count because he has experiences and likes to try things, maybe it gives me signs for infidelity too. But i prefer men who have done things and tell me about it, than keep it secret and be very close minded in the sex field. I always ask about STD's and their last time they were checked before we have sex and always insist we wear a condom. Actuallyii would be more concerned about a guy you has been with 1-2 girls and doesn;t want to wear a condom than a guy who has been with 40 and wears it every time whitout even considering asking me to do it without condom.(yes i have been with men, who asked me on the first time if i want to do it without a condom, without even knowing anything about my sex past and i really hate it when they even considering doing it without)

[morimeme1]

Right now - no, because I prefer guys aged 20-25 and if he has a high count now, he's been playing around. When I'm older (like 40) then it's undertandable for a person to have had experiece, but anyone with count past 20 would still be a no-go. Plus I am afraid of std so anyhow would have to get checked.

[Cynicaldreamer]

It depends-

I'd ask them how long each relationship lasted and why things ended. If most were just flings, hookups, or one night stands, or he doesn't have many relationships with a long duration? No. I'd assume he's just a player or not able to settle in a relationship for long.

[Ellie-V]

Yes because I don’t care about someone’s sexual history or lack there of, except in the cases of assault and/or STDs and STIs.

[DizzyDesii]

I rather not. I prefer 3 partners or less

[anupamagrawal]

Never,

Honest speaking why someone has so many past lovers, because that person just doesn't know how to hold a relationship.

Or, the relations are just a piece of cloth which he/she likes to throw and wear a new one.

And I am no mood of being a use and throw thing

[Logorithim]

Depends why they have a high body count. If it is a lack of impulse control or a psychological problem, no way.

[Logorithim]

Thanks for the MHO

[Little21]

I don't really care about how many partners they've had. What's important is that they're honest about any STDs or STIs they might have and that they're willing to get tested and use protection. Sexual health is way more important than a body count

[Screenwriter]

Do you even think someone with a "high body count" is going to reveal that to you? I would think there would be harsh judgement against someone like that.

[Felinegirl]

I made the choice/mistake of telling. I value honesty over all else in a relationship. Turned out to be harsh indeed. Relationally, he feels like he shouldn't care, but emotionally, he has a lot of trouble with it.

[Screenwriter]

@Felinegirl I believe this is just about always true. Don't reveal anything about past lovers in number counts, that they were better lovers or not, or what size they were! All of that is proprietary information that leads to hurt feelings and helps no asker. People who are asking these things have self-esteem issues and are seeking validation. Validate them by confirming you love them and none of your past matters. And THAT is true.

[Felinegirl]

I always want to know because I'm curious, I feel like knowing about their life before we met makes me know them better, and if possible I could learn from their past. Like, do find out what they like, don't make the mistakes their exes made. I wouldn't say past lovers were better. But even if they might have been more skilled in certain things, I always believe my current partner is the best on the planet when I'm in love. That said, my current-current partner actually is quite skilled.

[AustinMan]

Sure. Why not?

[AuroraRoseat]

Nope. I find it repulsive actually. I don't judge anyone that has a lot of notches on their bed post but I wouldn't be attracted to him.

[CuChullan]

You "find it repulsive" that's making a judgement.

[AuroraRoseat]

@CuChullan No, it's not. The action is repulsive, not him as a person.

[Sakiyamoon]

Honestly No because in my opinion that would mean they may have a problem that I just dont have time for.

[MissKittyz]

My current boyfriend does and it doesn't change anything. The past is the past. He is still a very loving, caring and perfect boyfriend. Just with more experience so he knows how to please me in bed ☺️ so ya, I would.

[Felinegirl]

Why are people disliking this? I think it's awesome you two love each other for who you are, regardless of the past.

[MissKittyz]

I have no idea lol maybe those girls and that guy are just insecure or jealous.. Who knows. Doesn't matter to me cause I agree with you :) it is very awesome!

[anonnnyguy]

Sure. The reason for the high body count might affect how much I can trust 'em, but just because theirs is higher than normal it's not a bad thing.

[Marrry]

My ex had but I didn't know at the moment so I guess it doesn't count. But I learned from this experience and I consider it a HUGE red flag.

[HomoFuge]

It would depend on the situation. If it was because of psychological problems like depression or something, then I would. If it was just because they're a horn dog who has commitment issues then no.

[MrKinktastic]

Sure, though I'd want a bit of time between now and the last time they were sleeping around with a lot of people just for safety's sake as a few things take 6months or more to show up on tests.

[Secret6620]

No I would not. Odds of them having an incurable disease is higher.

[markscott]

I would consider it, but I'd chose someone with a low body count first, if I found them equally attractive.

[ElissaDido]

no way
i want him to be virgin

[MoneyBeets]

Best answer

[Lyndsielee666]

My ex lied to me about his body count and I was pretty pissed off honestly. Probably because I was a virgin and wanted it to be special and it wasn’t 🙄🙄🙄

[Phanta]

Yes, because I would probably not ask the person about their past. I would likely just accept whatever.

[LoU_Hades]

yes...
I hate hypocrisy...
something like "I had 30 partners but want a virgin. LOL"

[up_64]

They I as a virgin can keep that as my requirement

[LoU_Hades]

@up_64 be realistic with virgin only demand is finding a partner for you like pairing of two unicorns

[up_64]

Oh I'm not gonna lower my standards. It's simply a case of either I get what I want or I'd rather not get anything at all. I females don't consider me of said value well... I've spent 7 years of post puberty without the slightest hint of a romantic relationship so I think I'll survive

[Jenny4455]

I would never even ask someone's body count

[Kas19]

"High" is different per person. When I think of high, I think of like...10 partners I guess. But yeah, I would. As long as they were safe and such.

[Ámayas_20]

Yeah, as long as they can prove they're clean.

[SirRexington]

Absolutely not. It's a deal breaker in fact. It shows the kind of person they are. It reveals their own values or lack thereof.

[morningsunshine0000]

No way! He’ll never have a chance with me.

[Anpu23]

I'm nearly 50, have over 25 lovers myself. There's not many virgin women at my age, and how hypocritical of me to demand that! No people's pasts are behind them, and as long as they're with me now, who cares who they did then.

[FakeName123]

Absolutely not.

[LittleRedKat]

Yup. I am.

[MoneyBeets]

Sounds like the start of a classy romance.

[lara8]

of course, i’m not shallow

[SirRexington]

That in no way makes you shallow. That's part of the problem today is we feel guilty for feeling uncomfortable about people having lots of casual sex. We shouldn't. We shouldn't feel bad that we disapprove of that behavior.

[lara8]

@SirRexington if you disapprove of something because you don’t like it you’re wrong. for example if i have sex a lot why should i disapprove of people not having sex a lot?

[SirRexington]

Because one behavior is worse than the other? Why should a person who doesn't smoke disapprove of people that do? And vice versa. Because smoking is unhealthy and is a gross behavior. So is having casual sex. People need to get over the fact that our actions have consequences and not everyone will stand for some of your behaviors. The shaming of people with more reserved values needs to stop.

[lara8]

@SirRexington see. hypocrite; why do you get to decide which is worse? neither is worse sex isn’t unhealthy so you can’t compare it smoking. you’re disgusting

[SirRexington]

Yes i can. As an individual with my own beliefs and opinions i can.

[lara8]

@SirRexington factually wrong but ok

[SirRexington]

Factually wrong? Nothing I have stated is factually wrong. But you tell yourself that if it makes you feel better.

[lara8]

@SirRexington sex isn’t unhealthy, you’re factuslly wrong

[SirRexington]

I never said it was. But sex with random people snd lots of people greatly increases the potential for STIs, that is a scientific fact. Sex when done smart is perfectly healthy snd beneficial. But casual sex can also affect us psychologically

[lara8]

@SirRexington not a scientific fact at all. if you have sex with 20 peopl and wear a condom, you’ll more than likely be fine. if you have sex with one person and don’t, you might catch something

[SirRexington]

What? Ok. I'm officially done with you. I originally commeted to defend you and help you not feel shamed by people who shame those that aren't comfortable with casual sex. Turns out you are one of them.

[lara8]

@SirRexington lmao what? i don’t shame people for having said lmao fuck off

[SirRexington]

You're literally doing that.

[lara8]

@SirRexington i’m not lmao

[SirRexington]

You said people who care about a person's sexual history are shallow and need to get over it because they are hypocritical. That's shaming.

[lara8]

@SirRexington what😂😂😂

[Felinegirl]

@lara8, you go girl! (But maybe don't call people disgusting, that is bordering on hypocritical if you are trying to explain to them why they shouldn't call people disgusting)

[imurdercats]

nope, I'm not a cuck

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

What is a cuck?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Yes I would. Having many past sexual partners doesn't stop a person from being a loving, loyal and caring girlfriend.

[SirRexington]

I don't believe that os often the case ans data kinds reflects that.

[Jersey2]

No, no and fuck no.

[Thatsamazing]

I'd rather not, no.

[scgurl2016]

Yes I wouldn't care

[MoneyBeets]

Herpes?

[Americanteengirl]

Nope

[Lance1965]

Depends on what you call a high body count but generally speaking I would stay far away from such people.

[lara8]

‘such people’ , grow up

[MysteriousDarkness]

As long as they do not have any std/sti.

[Thotkiana]

No, I would not. Doesn’t make me insecure or overly judgmental either. Our values just don’t match up.

[MoneyBeets]

Anything over 1 outside of marriage is 1 too many times.

[Dchrls78104]

Probably not. It can be dangerous. Recently there was a botched assassination attempt on a guy in my country by the ex-boyfriend of his lover.

[up_64]

No. Pair bonding demonstrably goes down with each relationship

[LuWe22]

Nope.

[Putinyaplace]

It depends. Has to be an understandable amount for their age... hopefully she used condoms for all of them.. guys gotta remember some girls have good hearts and get “played” or fucked and left, keep having it done hence why their body counts are high.

[bamesjond0069]

No. In part because I don't have to. As long as I can get young women with little or no sexual history, no other girls have a chance.

[TheSpartan]

No, I wouldn’t date somebody with a body count at all.

[jss123]

I don't care. As long as she is disease free and stays faithful during the relationship.

[Pulimuli]

I dont care about it really

[EmotionOfFear]

No, I'd feel more secure and just generally safer with a body count of maybe less than 3... maybe I'd push it to 4 depending on the situation.

[Tellme]

I married a girl with a high body count, myself having a low number. I don’t regret anything after 6yrs of marriage.

[JamesBlackDragon]

Yes i would

[Tim-loves-it]

Absolutely.
It wouldn't bother me if she talked about em either!

[intjgamer]

I try not to.

[Nachowedgie]

Never

[lsjr16]

Yea I would

[MoneyBeets]

I’d prefer a murderer over a slut.

[Kdude010]

Nope.

[luciusmalfoy1]

Basically every single girl in 2019.

[Brieezy10]

For me personally someone’s sexual number doesn’t matter. We all have pasts, and I would hate to be judged on all the decisions I made.

[Askingforafriend87]

What is considered high anyway?

[MoneyBeets]

If you gotta ask that’s a red flag.

[BeaverLovingLad]

No way. Too much baggage!

[Anonymous]

As long as everyone is honest, having a past doesn't mean someone can't have a future.

[Anonymous]

I don't really care about that stuff. Who he fucked doesn't concern me.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on the count.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't matter to me.

[Anonymous]

I’m 28 I’ve had 2 partners
My husband is 32 and has had 7