Would you do a soft swap with your partner?

Question

We know a couple who are swingers. They've indicated in the past that they'd like to have sex with us. What they are into are"full'swaps." Basically that's the same as "wife swapping." They know that we aren't interested in that. So now they told my husband that they'd be willing to do a "soft swap."
It's basically the same thing, but oral sex only. There's to be no penetrative sex at all. We have a great sex life, but we think a little spice might be nice, but just not too much spice.

Have you done either of these? Would you?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

We've done foursomes before, but not really a coordinated swap like that. I think in that type of situation, the couples swap partners, and play separately. And sometimes they aren't even in the same room. (not that I'm defining it that way) Our thing was just more of a group play. We found that those things didn't work out too well for us. We now only do threesomes. It's much easier to lineup personalities.
But, I've never heard of the soft swap. I think it could work well if you all four get along well. I still wouldn't want to go back to the foursomes, though. But I could see a couple trying this out with a soft threesome first, and testing the waters. Try FMF, and then MFM. If that works out, then MFMF.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

No. I don't see what either of us would have to gain from that. We're both perfectly happy with just each other so there's no need to complicate things without any obvious gains.

michelle3685 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're both up for it, already. If that's the case, go for it. I would.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

I never done nor would I. I am open minded but hate the idea of sharing my partner.

Rex005 · Accepted Answer

Look dear all this kind of stuff are Sexual fantasy, for Swap sex & cuckolding, couple need an extremely high understanding. Some people also done this type of things only with the people or friends they are closed to, just to be safe,
So it's all about your understanding & fantasy, talk to you partner & think about it , whatever you do , you shouldn't regret it after.

PS: I personally will never ever share or even let anyone touch my partner, I'm very much protective & jealous about her.
this kind of fantasy is only acceptable in porn not in real life for me.

Dale1982 · Accepted Answer

Perverts. No loyalty to each other. Why do they even bother? Personally I don't want another man near my girlfriend, I know I'll want to kill them. It'll end bad if you do it. Won't be long before you break up as the trust will be gone no matter how onto it you think you are

JSmith925 · Answer

I haven't and I wouldn't. They both have the same pitfall. A maelstrom of emotions and risk to the relationship. ~JSmith

bawfar · Answer

Never ends well.

mattmanyah · Answer

I have friends that are ex swingers... it nearly ended their marriage

momo770 · Answer

I haven't, nor would I.

rgb008 · Answer

I wouldn't.

FakeName123 · Answer

Sharing is not always caring. My girl is mine and that's it. Not gonna share her with anyone as long as we are committed to each other.

Browneye57 · Answer

This never turns out like you think it will - someone ALWAYS gets their feelings hurt. And consider you'll likely blow up your primary relationship as well. It's all just a VERY bad idea.