Would you do a soft swap with your partner?

We know a couple who are swingers. They've indicated in the past that they'd like to have sex with us. What they are into are"full'swaps." Basically that's the same as "wife swapping." They know that we aren't interested in that. So now they told my husband that they'd be willing to do a "soft swap."
It's basically the same thing, but oral sex only. There's to be no penetrative sex at all. We have a great sex life, but we think a little spice might be nice, but just not too much spice.

Have you done either of these? Would you?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • We've done foursomes before, but not really a coordinated swap like that. I think in that type of situation, the couples swap partners, and play separately. And sometimes they aren't even in the same room. (not that I'm defining it that way) Our thing was just more of a group play. We found that those things didn't work out too well for us. We now only do threesomes. It's much easier to lineup personalities.
    But, I've never heard of the soft swap. I think it could work well if you all four get along well. I still wouldn't want to go back to the foursomes, though. But I could see a couple trying this out with a soft threesome first, and testing the waters. Try FMF, and then MFM. If that works out, then MFMF.

    • We could try this same with just another guy. I could give him oral while my husband fucked me. If we did it with a girl my husband could give her oral while I ave him oral. lol The trouble is finding these people.

    • That's it! I think you've got it.

  • No.
    I don't see what either of us would have to gain from that. We're both perfectly happy with just each other so there's no need to complicate things without any obvious gains.

    • There would be no gain for you guys, if this wasn't your fantasy.

  • Sounds like you're both up for it, already. If that's the case, go for it. I would.

    • Are you open and/or Polyamorous?

    • @Skalliwag I'm bi and pretty open.

    • May I pm you some time?

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  • I never done nor would I. I am open minded but hate the idea of sharing my partner.

    • You wouldn't be sharing your partner. He would be sharing you. She couldn't touch him and he couldn't touch her.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Look dear all this kind of stuff are Sexual fantasy, for Swap sex & cuckolding, couple need an extremely high understanding. Some people also done this type of things only with the people or friends they are closed to, just to be safe,
    So it's all about your understanding & fantasy, talk to you partner & think about it , whatever you do , you shouldn't regret it after.

    PS: I personally will never ever share or even let anyone touch my partner, I'm very much protective & jealous about her.
    this kind of fantasy is only acceptable in porn not in real life for me.

    • Thanks, dear.

    • no problem 😋

  • Perverts. No loyalty to each other. Why do they even bother? Personally I don't want another man near my girlfriend, I know I'll want to kill them. It'll end bad if you do it. Won't be long before you break up as the trust will be gone no matter how onto it you think you are

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  • I haven't and I wouldn't. They both have the same pitfall. A maelstrom of emotions and risk to the relationship.
    ~JSmith

  • Never ends well.

  • I have friends that are ex swingers... it nearly ended their marriage

    • Unfortunately, about 50 percent of non-swinging marriages end also.

  • I haven't, nor would I.

  • I wouldn't.

  • Sharing is not always caring. My girl is mine and that's it. Not gonna share her with anyone as long as we are committed to each other.

  • This never turns out like you think it will - someone ALWAYS gets their feelings hurt. And consider you'll likely blow up your primary relationship as well. It's all just a VERY bad idea.

  • I've done full swap. But if you think (and your other half agrees) it will spice up things, by all means, do it.

    • After commenting, I read the other comments. Holy shit you guys. You have no fucking clue what you are talking about!

    • Are you talking about the negative stuff?

    • Yes. I am. I commented positively and almost everyone else answered negatively

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  • I would not.

  • Hmmm thats a interesting one.. you do this all together like a big 4some?

    • That's what I hear. It's a milder form of swinging.

    • Hmm... yea im jist not much for group stuff I don't want to be in a room. talking to my friend whilr she's sucking that would just feel strange.

    • And she would't be able to join in on the conversation.

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  • Nope. Smh

  • Hmmm

  • I have do something similar to swap.
    And I love it, it all depends on your mind.

    • I think we will try it.

    • Okay

  • It's an idea.

  • Oral sex in couple/wife swapping is the first step to penetrative sex.

  • that would be boring, full swap or no swap.

    • I think that no swap would be more boring than soft swap.

    • soft swap is like just teasing.

    • I don't think there's a law that you couldn't fuck your wife after the teasing. lol

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  • i won't

  • I would love to do that but a full partner swap! It's just a matter of finding a partner as well as another couple who are open to this 😉

  • have a big fucking orgy with multiple couples would probably be better than just a soft swap lol