Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Would you dump a guy if he can't make you orgasm?
Anonymous
I've recently started dating this guy and he wants to have sex all the time. The issue is that I never have an orgasm with him.. He doesn't go down on me and his fingering technique sucks. We have only been seeing each other for two months but I don't think I can stay with him any longer if the sex continues to go on this way. What to do?
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18 25whatever you decide, he needs to improve his game.. maybe buy a vibrator and introduce that when you have sex with him..
why dont you be mature and tell him that try these things with me so i can orgasm
But how? He thinks what he does is enough id damage his ego if I said I haven't been enjoying what we have been doing for the past month..
you have to tell him and dont care about his ego.
i dont know how this can happen i never had problems with this.
train with him work with him
its not like he having sex with himself give him some feedback
and dont tell you friends about this issue
I haven't told my friends but I probably will to see what they think. Why shouldn't I tell them?
dont do it hear me out its embarrasing moreover his dignity in front of them will be low
in the eyes of men this is the worst kind of betryal
I second what @NajemEddine said. Imagine a guy saying you are terrible, pretty much either pitying or making fun of you to his friends. How would you feel? If you do that you're the one to be dumped, no questions asked.
@RedHood7 i ended a good relationship in the past bc my girlfriend kept telling everything to people she thought her friends she told them about even private details not anything to be ashamed of i m quite rude to most people but she betryed my trust and i dont forgive that
Okay I won't say anything. The only reason girls tell their friends is to her advice. We would never make fun of a guy we like. I'm not making fun of this guy either I like him I just need more...
yes they will make fun maybe not in front of u but girls like gossip
They'll gossip, and if you're asking for advice then he has a big enough problem that can ruin his social image and pretty much make a lot of women lose respect for him.
We only tell our close friends not random people. Don't guys do this to girls?
If anything I wish he would say to his friends "man why won't this girl come" lol maybe they'd give him tips
@RedHood7 If anything I wish he would say to his friends "man why won't this girl come" lol maybe they'd give him tips
No. At least not in detail. The "worst" thing a friend ever told me is that his girlfriend has a huge sex drive and that they did it like 10 times in the first weekend they were in a relationship. I never got details, I never got to know who gives a good bj, or who loves to get her ass stretched. This kind of thing is only talked about by assholes, between assholes, because they're all accomplices in a sense, and they frequently have sex with the same girls. At least 90% of men are not like that.
They won't. They'll make fun of him. A harsh truth is that unexperienced men get shitted on by everybody. You're his girlfriend. If you're not there for him, be sure, nobody else is. Are you really gonna drop him like that?
@RedHood7 We have been dating for two months I am not even sure if I am his girlfriend.
Whatever. If you're just there for the sex you might as well leave him be and stop wasting his time. He could be with someone who genuinely appreciates him and who'd be willing to teach him stuff on the bedroom.
listen in the end do u really trust those friends more over even if i have issues in my love life i won't even ask my friends for help its a matter of dignity and pride
Lol hell I don't think I've made any chick orgasmed and never got dumped eigther so
I'd say dump him, since he doesn't want to go down on you
He never said he doesn't want to be just doesn't willingly I've never asked.
Don't ask, tell him to ;)
try communicating him about it, if u two couldn't resolve the issue then dump him
We've only had sex about like 8 times now so i don't know if I should wait it out?
8 times is to much to know about a man in bed , its time to talk him about it
I just feel like I shouldn't have to ask someone to go down on me it should just come naturally
can we talk in messages?
well if you are not in love thing the answer is dump
The fact y'all research on how to orgasm really makes me question
It's a fact most girls can't orgasm from p to v penetration. The fact that most guys STILL don't realize this makes me so angry haha.
I'm saying guys don't have to massage there dicks with a vibrator to " orgasm"
Neither do girls I can use my fingers and it works just fine
But y'all are widely known for vibrators
Are we? lol or is that the solo girl porm you watch.
@Jennyg123 what about femdom porn?
Any kind of porn isn't a good representation of real life lol
If there is no love fuck with those who make you orgasm
Wow. Everyone here thinks a womans orgasm is the guys responsibility. i'm really shocked how hypocritical people on here are.
Every girl who isn't able to orgasm and put the blame on the guy has earned to be dumped.
Show him what you want and how to do it right
don't dump him
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Only if he didn't even try at all.
Did you talk about it? If not then you should leave , because you would never be satisfied..
We haven't talked about it
Then you shoukd talk about it first
Tell him before you dump him, maybe he'll try harder... or bring up JimmyJane.
But if you don't really feel anything for the guy just dump him already.
If he doesn't go down on you and yet he expects you to go down on him, drop him. It's not worth it.
He doesn't expect it I do it willingly.