Girls, Would you ever judge a man for having slept with other men?

Question

So I have noticed a few things.
When I speak to men and women about the LGBTQ relationships, there tends to be a difference of acceptance between gay and lesbianism?

For example, most men I speak with tend to find lesbian sex hot, and are repulsed by the idea of gay male sex?
Yet, most women I speak with are exactly the same? Many of them find lesbian relationships and sex acceptable, and tend to view gay relationships and sex in a more negative way

why is there this double standard?
and as a female do you hold that standard as well?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don’t think I’d be happy to find out if my boyfriend told me he’s slept with men before, but I’d respect and appreciate him for saying the truth and would try not to judge him but I am def not attracted to the fact that my man, the man who I fu**, has been fu*ked by a man before.

It’s just not attractive to think about, he’s so manly in my eyes and if he wants to be fu*ed in the butt he can ask me, we can always try to peg. I just don’t like the thought of another man being with him, cause I am a weird case of demisexual, I am repulsed by all the other men but him and would find it gross to even think I slept with someone else but him, not to mention he sleeps with someone else.

However, if he told me he has done that in the past, I would try not judge him that harsh, I ‘d appreciate honesty over everything else. I like to be shared the secrets and because if that I am not a very judgmental person, who’s gonna share you their secrets if you judge them?

And I am a person keeping secrets of many people.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sigh, I don't care about how anybody else feels about who I want in my bed or in my life in terms of relationships and dating. It's exhausting to listen to other people try to say you should or shouldn't feel this or that way about a potential partner or actual partner or their past. If you are gay or bisexual I am happy for you, I support you, go love whom you want, but straight guys float my boat. I don't need to justify or explain anything because it is what it is in the same way they don't need to explain to me why they love or like who they do.

CourtneyJane2 · Answer

Hell no. My boyfriend's bi and I've watched him go down on another man during a break in our threesome night, pretty much ate his cock out with the same passion and lust that he had when he did the same with my pussy less than an hour earlier.

This was back before me and my boo became an official couple and I still rank that as one of the sexiest things I ever witnessed. The other guy, the one getting his balls sucked off and the cum slurped right out of his manhood while enjoying every second of it, was my "as straight as a ruler" fiancé at the time.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I'm bisexual, and one of the only ways I'm dating a man again is if he's also bisexual.

To me, it doesn't matter. The past is the past, unless the other person keeps living in it.

I wouldn't care. I'd be very accepting of it.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

No, not at all. So he slept with other men... big fucking deal.

WinterWaves · Answer

I wouldn't judge them Being a switch for both genders is kinda nice actually you'll never run out of options in the bedroom

jst4fun · Answer

Yeah I’d definitely not be in to knowing a guy I’m seeing has fucked dudes. Im keen at sensing liars too. Unless on a rare occasion it happened in prison, which is a different topic all together. Women are different, women are hard to say no to I think.

katiesmuff · Answer

To each their own, however I would never want to be with them. Just my personal view.

dustybiker · Answer

The person that stands before you that you have fallen in love with is that person because of their past. People can get so wrapped up in history. It’s unchangeable and often forms some pretty amazing people.