Guys, Would you expect a girl to tell that she's a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Lets say inexperinced instead of virgin because I am not a virgin in the physical sense if you get what I mean but I am in the sense that I have never had sex with a man before.
So there is definitely no way for him to "feel" that I am a virgin. But still I am an emotional virgin through and through so it will show in my behaviour, nervousnes etc.

Also my complete lack of any skills. I don't know what to do with a guy honestly.
So what is your advice?
I am seeing someone now and we kissed already and I think I could pull it off without him noticing it. But I don't know if I want that. Maybe he would feel uncomfortable after knowing it or leave.
But I am also anxious if I tell him beforehand he will leave as well because he doesn't want to deal with my newbie problems. He is already over 30 and much more experienced.

[cicchis0]

I don't get what you mean (maybe that you are a virgin but your hymen is not intact?), but it doesn't matter.

No, I wouldn't expect a girl to disclose her sexual history, virgin or otherwise. It's up to you - do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. You aren't going to get found out for not knowing some great secret that everyone learns when they have sex because there is no such thing and everybody is different, anyway. You could tell him to be gentle with you and he should respect that. You can decide whether you want to tell him that he's your first or not but I really don't think you would scare him off by telling him that. Men can be insecure, too, and he might like that you can't compare him to anyone, and possibly enjoy a fantasy of teaching you about sex. Communication is the best way to have good sex, so give him feedback and guidance by letting him know what you like and don't like. You'll enjoy yourself more, and that will make you seem like a natural or like you have already had experience - even if you're only just experiencing these things you are giving feedback on for the very first time.

[Dargil]

I would want to know she's a virgin if...
*She anticipates physical trauma her first times. I would prepare for that.
*Has a known physiological condition, like vaginismus that could come into play.
*If she has a psychological condition, such as from precious rape or molestation.
Otherwise, so long as she is enthusiastic and not inhibited, she can be a complete, incompetent klutz and I would be good with it.

[scott_90]

It shouldn't really matter , if your unsure what to do , just ask him to show you what he likes , I'm sure no guy has a problem with that

[R4vedave]

No, if she wants to tell me, that's her choice, but she doesn't have to. It'd help explain lack of skills though, if it's obvious

[jspl90]

I would want to know because it would make feem happy and special because you chose me to be your first guy or something like that, also it would let know to be extra gentle and considerate🤔

[Dchrls78104]

Yes, I would; if she hid it from me and I had to find out some other way, I'd dump her for lying to me.

[Twalli]

You are a virgin if a penis hasn't gone inside of your vagina.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women lie so, so, so badly about being a "virgin". I have heard women joke about being "born again" virgins, or telling each new guy they are a virgin. I would just assume a girl is lying if she told me she is a virgin.

[Reddwolf]

If a guy truly loves you it shouldn't matter if you are inexperienced because it was me in the situation I'd would go slow and teach her

[Plitty-Tank]

No. It's not something I'm concerned about. I just hope that she happens to be a virgin but I'll never ask. I want her to be willing to tell if she does and never coerced or feel forced to tell me.

[corvettebill24]

I would expect a girl to tell me if she is or not. My advice to get to know some moves, honestly, is to watch some dirty movies..

[NaWaF_98]

Virgin So what? I don't care. Why it is a problem.