Would you feel offended if your SO didn't want to hear your past sexual stories with others because imagining them is disgusting?

For example when he/she wants to talk about their past but his/her SO refuses to listen.

-Why don't you ask what's my body count or ask me to tell you about some of the fun I had?

-I'm not interested. If I know i might feel disgust. It will only make me lose some of my lust for you.

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  • Concerned, as it implies my SO is hiding a past herself. I didn't like hearing about the experiences of the girls I've dated, but I know it's a necessary conversation to have to determine what this person has learned from it. It can strengthen or weaken our emotional bond, it's a risk that I think is worth taking.

    I think there is a double standard here in expectations. I don't dare call it fair. I admit that I do like to brag on how I've made women feel good by making myself feel good in the most efficient way possible. I'm not the purest of pure, but I am purER than others in some regards.

    Virginity is an ideal that is very hard to preserve for some. I find it ironically delicious those who were promiscuous dismiss the value of it but are then are ashamed to discuss their past when they state virginity is meaningless.

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  • I would feel offended if she felt I needed to hear it, or if she felt I should tell her about mine. Whatever she did with anyone else prior to me is none of my business. Anything I did prior to her is none of her business. Because of whom ever that other person was, was not me and we are both completely people today compared to who we were with them.

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  • I'm not interested in details of sexual encounters of my partner. If he wants to share it, ok. I won't be thrilled, but probably would listen to.

    But I wouldn't easily share such details from my past. And not because it was something gross. Just it was a private thing between my ex and me.

    • @islathewitch Same with me

  • I dont think its disgusting honey... u r trying to open up to ur partner n thts it

    • But those stories are about his sexual contact with other women. That is disgusting. It kills the enticing vibe that bonding gives.

    • What enticing vibe? Ideally you will be married to this man for 50 years or more. If he got drunk 6 months into a marriage and said a story you disagreed with would that kill all vibes for the next 49 years?

    • @BarryLiverstone it's not about disagreeing. I want him to be only mine. Imagining he has belonged to other women weakens my desire for posessivemess hence kills the bonding vibe

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  • My wife (when we were dating) was curious about my past and asked plenty. I did not. I don’t need that in my head.

  • my so can't have a past, if there is a past there is no ME.
    if they don't wanna hear my stories fine i can live with that.

  • Something that should be discussed about past relationships is what caused problems/incompatibility, such as morals and expectations for each other in th he relationship. For example, how much time they expect to spend together daily, who is and isn't allowed in the house and when, what is and isn't acceptable behavior with friends, etc.

  • Nope. I'm more likely to be disturbed if she asks me to tell her about my past in detail. That's a red flag - and so is using the term "body count" unless she's under the impression I'm some kind of serial killer...

  • No, I wouldn't be offended. If she doesn't want to hear about the past and would rather concentrate on us in the present and future, that's fine with me.

  • I prefer for. her not to know and for me not to know

  • Why would you want to know? I don't want to hear anything about my OH ex's let alone sexual stuff

  • I could understand that. I might feel the same way

  • No I wouldn’t either, any normal human wouldn’t.

  • I don't want to know and I don't ask. She's curious about mine, though. She also wants the pictures of me with my exes up in our home which is weird to me.

  • If they refuse to listen when I want to share? Yes that’s being close minded

  • No, I would not be. I'd think her a wiser woman. LOL I've never found it necessary to quiz someone I'm dating on her sexual past, nor bring mine up without being asked about it.

  • If you don't want it to be ugly then never asked about the past especially when a woman/man has had divorce or widowed. It means something was sad that happened. If someone tells you without probing then respect it but it never brings anything good as comparisons start

  • As long as I’m getting the fun sexual stuff in our relationship.. then we are good. I don’t mind. But if you taking about them like they are Gods, but I’m getting scraps as far as sexuality from you… then no, I don’t want to hear that shit, that’s a red flag

  • Well said

  • I don't think I could be intimate with a person that finds my past to be "disgusting".

    I would not disclose the sordid. details unless she requested me to,. but that is different from saying "I don't want to know because I will be shocked and disgusted"

  • So. e people want to know and others do not. Respect your partners wishes.

  • I wouldn't want the details about my SO's past.

  • I like hearing about them it’s a turn on

  • Even if she will ask me to hear her past i will not. Why do i need to hear who she fucked with and what she did.
    Also, i will not be telling her about my exes as my past does not concern her.

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