Guys, would you feel turned on if you're bound during sex?

[anon1903]

Sorry for the bad picture. My net isn't working well.

#bdsm

[HighlyVolatile]

No way in hell. I'd be frustrated. That's tempting the most violent and angry side of me, and I don't want to be angry and violent during sex. I want to be connected. I can't enjoy sex becoming an angry bull breaking out of my bonds (either physical or otherwise) and charging into the woman. Some women do but I don't. Some exes in the past even seem to try to bring that side out of me even though they didn't restrain me, and they got it, but I didn't enjoy it. I hated them and sought to destroy them in spite of their ecstasy.

[HighlyVolatile]

As a caveat, I'm almost entirely dom and 0% sub. I test like this on some BDSM test: == Results from bdsmtest. org == 97% Dominant 73% Vanilla 67% Daddy/Mommy 54% Voyeur 45% Owner 42% Experimentalist 37% Exhibitionist 35% Brat tamer 34% Master/Mistress 31% Primal (Hunter) 16% Ageplayer 1% Rigger 1% Brat 1% Non-monogamist 0% Rope bunny 0% Slave 0% Degradee 0% Boy/Girl 0% Primal (Prey) 0% Submissive 0% Masochist 0% Degrader 0% Pet 0% Sadist 0% Switch

[anon1903]

Fair enough.

[anon1903]

You aren't into bdsm?

[anon1903]

Not my type. But I understand now.

[HighlyVolatile]

No sadism/masochism stuff for me. But I am prone to violent rages and submission is the way to put me there. If a woman handcuffs me to a bed and I start banging and breaking the bed frame, it's like a tightrope balance between wanting to hurt her and retaliate and resisting because I want to protect her. It puts me in a state of total confusion, and I can't enjoy sex in that state of mind.

[anon1903]

I understand

[HighlyVolatile]

I think one exception is if the woman is a match for me physically, like say she's an MMA fighter, same size, and we beat each other up a lot and don't consider it domestic violence (consensual) giving each other black eyes and bloody noses all the time. She can kick my ass as much as I can kick hers, largely nullifying that side of me that feels I need to protect her. Then I might enjoy these kinds of games more like tying each other up. I think it's the protector side of me that makes me so vanilla.

[anon1903]

Sounds hot

[TickleMe4ForFun]

I had a weird dream last night. Can you imagine us naked in my swimming pool... my wrists cuffed to my ankles behind my back, so my cock and the front part of my body is out of the water, but my ass, hands and legs are under the water... and you pull me around the pool by my cock, occasionally teasing/tickling it... and each time you tease it, it makes me squirm and my head goes underwater... so in order not to drown, I have to control my body when you tease it! I have to fight with all my being to control an involuntary reaction!!

(Nope, never had a thought of bondage during sex) 😜

[Кураж]

I would humor a partner if she is into it, but I wouldn't enjoy it in any way.

[anon1903]

Humour her?

[Кураж]

Yep. verb: humour; comply with the wishes of (someone) in order to keep them content, however unreasonable such wishes might be.

[anon1903]

Are you into bdsm? If yes, it's kind of double standard that you'd tie her but wouldn't want the same.

[Кураж]

If you think that, you don't understand BDSM. Dominance and submission have profound psychological impacts and implications. Most people who are either subs or doms cannot possibly switch, they would feel very, very uncomfortable acting the opposite role. I can fool around with someone I like romantically, which is why I said I would humor a partner who wants to act a dominant role. But you can't expect me to intrinsically enjoy a role that I derive nothing from which pushes all my boundaries, because I simply won't and at best you will get pretend insterest.

[anon1903]

I understand

[RobT312]

Yeah it’s a turn on…we have some cuffs and blindfolds we play with but haven’t tried ropes

[TheUniqueOne96]

I've never had sex, but yeah.

In theory, I'm submissive, so the idea of a woman dominating and wanting me sounds hot AF.

[Bluemax]

Certainly not. Nor would I be interested in binding anyone.

[DonkeyDan]

Not for me thanks, I don't do tying up.

[ImDusty]

No, I'm dominant and like to bind women. I can easily overpower women so it's hard for me to suspend that. Maybe for a little if I break out and then dominate her

[slatyb]

I would LOVE that. Rude aren't very many women into that. More want to be tied. I've done that many times

[Avt9560]

No I wouldn't

[UniquelyBasic]

Yes please

[SlothySlob]

Not my thing.