Guys, Would you get offended if a girl asks you to get an STD test done before sleeping without condom?

[Anonymous]

Even if it is only oral sex

[1CentWorth]

Yup. Just because commercials say you should, doesn't mean it not absolutely kill the mood or cause an argument in a relationship. Condoms do not prevent the transmission of STDs, they only reduce it, so consider NEVER sleeping with someone unless you trust them to not have what you don't want. Condoms work better for birth control than for bacteria/viruses.

[AustinMan]

I'd be offended is she didn't have us both get tested and make a pledge to tell the other if we have sex with anyone else.

[1CentWorth]

The question wasn't targeted to homosexuals.

[AustinMan]

@1CentWorth Where do homosexuals enter into this? I'm talking about straight couples getting tested.

[1CentWorth]

sorry - my bad. I assumed you were making a joke as a homosexual. sorry about my misunderstanding.

[AustinMan]

@1CentWorth I appreciate your apology. Easy mistake to make. Accepted.

[AustinMan]

To the Asker: yes, just tell him it's a requirement before you have sex with someone, particularly bareback. That you're getting tested as well. Then you both can just get down and nasty!! ;)

[jalas4612]

Hell no. Show me a dude that gets offended and I'll show you you're husband. Only someone who would be your husband can rightfully get offended. A stranger or new recruit, that's protocol. Test that ugly fleshworm. Twice, just to be sure lol

[OlderAndWiser]

I would not be offended as she is only being careful to protect herself and it would be foolish to blindly trust what a guy says on that subject. He could have a STD and not even know it. I have been tested three times in the past 10-12 years (and my partner also got tested) and was totally clean each time.

[standingUP]

NO I would not be upset and have been asked and complied. It is the smartest thing one could do.

[summiter]

Not at all... good for her and I might and have already asked long term girlfriends who are on birth control to get tested so we can have sex with no condoms.

[masterdm001]

I'd take one

[pierre7i]

Not at all, I'd be impressed & pleased !

[cicchis0]

No, it seems pretty sensible.

[cicchis0]

Re: update - maybe try to use the same terminology that doctors use, which normalizes testing and doesn't apply judgement. They ask something like "have you had unprotected sex since your last STD test?". Maybe go to a clinic yourself and ask for the best way to approach it.

[Lynx122]

No that's smart.

[slatyb]

No, and if a guy objects then dump him. He’s not old enough to date.

[TadCurious]

No, I would be really impressed with how smart and responsible she is.

[Barry88]

I think that's only normal if you're having a serious relationship.

[Goma15]

No, I actually think that's very responsible. I would want the same.

[Reaperbot666]

I would be fine with it. since I know I don't have any myself. at least not from past sexual partners.

but since she asked. I would ask her to also get tested to be safe. even if she believes she is free of std's.

because you can get them for other ways besides just sexual interaction.

[Dargil]

We make a date and both get tested. Later, we celebrate good results.

[1CentWorth]

Sounds like a fair approach, actually.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope would be fine with me as long as she would do the same for me?

[jspl90]

Nope, its normal at least for me🤔

[jspl90]

Well for penetrative sex I meant although if they have herpes that can spread from oral so 🤔

[NewZion]

Hahaha! This fucking question!

[Nik1hil]

I Would gladly Do it for her

[Nik1hil]

Be. blunt

[chriscdi]

no i can't blame her, actually i would do that type of shit too, even tho im a virgin im 100% sure i dont got an STD, id still take the test but she is paying for it tho, along with one for herself 😂

[Browneye57]

in my opinion both should get tested before unprotected sex. And get on some kind of birth control - pill, iud, whatever. Then fuck your brains out!

[Browneye57]

On update... "If we're gonna get naked and do it we have to get tested. Period."

[TheGrandOracle]

I wouldn't be offended but I probably wouldn't want to have to.

[TheGrandOracle]

If you see the addition to this hopfully I can be of some help. Do be blunt about it but perhaps explain that you just want to be cautious. I doubt he would be offended and if he does get offended he probably isn't someone you would want to do it with

[ChiTown33]

Only if she was unwilling to do the same. There's nothing wrong with being safe.

[ChiTown33]

Girl never be ashamed to ask this question! I'd flat out be blunt. I would respect that you're being safe. You think guys aren't concerned about that? If they're not their an idiot that you don't want to be with anyhow.

[AynonOMouse]

How dare she assume that I am anything other than the epitome of purity and goodness. :)
She should get tested too right?

[Asker]

Of course

[EAThomas]

Nope. Very mature decision. To me a sign of someone who can and does take care of herself.

[genericname85]

no. i'd be impresse actually but then i would demand her to show me a test too xD

[hellacray]

I want her to be tested too so her saying it would save me the time of me asking her to do it.

[one1wild00]

Somewhat, But I can understand her caution.

[Kinky_Daddy_Henry]

Not getting one done for oral. I'm tested regularly, will even show my paperwork. However, I ain't got time for that.

[JimboGB]

No but it does kill the mood lol.

[lucas262]

Being a virgin I'd play along and think it pretty funny