Would you have a 3 some with your significant/wife or husband?

My friend told me that her mom’s neighbors are “swingers” which means that couples have sex with mainly close friends of theirs that are interested. I think is so dehumanizing like why can’t one person be enough for your sexual pleasure? This goes along with open relationships and more lol.
Would you have a 3 some with your significant/wife or husband?
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I sound like a preacher I know aha but I’m thinking deep about every detail from us how our bodies are made for one person to produce with and etc. :)
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  • There is so much to cover with this question...
    Okay let’s start.

    First off why do you feel it’s dehumanizing or that it somehow makes people less than?



    Secondly why can’t people have their cake and eat it to in way of having someone they love and cherish, but at the same time accepting that to be human in small part is to lust?


    I mean look Sometimes people want to lust apart, but love together. What’s wrong with that as long as they’re being safe, and making sure to be tested properly, wear condoms, do the obvious safe things.


    I mean hell even the Bible says be fruitful and Multiply, if you’ve already multiplied why the hell would you stop being fruitful especially in a world where you can do so safely.
    Moreover if you have a spouse that feels the same I mean it makes no logical sense
    to not be fruitful. One should count their happy stars, and thank God that they found someone in the vast world who feels the same as they do and loves them.


    That being said I totally get that people are different, and I’m sure you totally get that as well. Sometimes the differences are vast, but just because people are different that doesn’t mean they love less than anyone else.
    Keep in mind love and lust are two different spectrums of thought over a subject but confuses both so easily, But that’s a conflict that is normal to life. The conflict being of course the understanding of the difference between sex and love.


    So two people that lust hard in the world that maybe doesn’t lust as hard find each other, and find a friend group of people that shares their understanding. Why not congratulate them in finding their own little niche of joy.


    Look the world is hard enough, and if they found a system/ method in which to be happy, and in reality it’s legal which it totally is. Why would anyone want to stop them from that, and furthermore when did it become anyone else’s place to tell people how, when, and who when it’s peoples romance and love has nothing to do with the person complaining.


    Me personally I believe that people can believe and practice different things, and still be good with one another. Moreover people can even be happy for each other just for the simple fact that they found happiness even if it’s not one’s own thought of what happiness is.
    One side of the coin isn’t the only side of the coin, and me personally I thank God that our coin is more like an endless sided ball with endless spectrums of people, Possibilities, and endless differences. It’s the differences that make us unique, and because were all unique none of us are really special which makes us all equal. Understanding that we are in fact equal and what a weird concept it is to all be odd, but even. Really even now in days it’s the conflict of human nature, but One shouldn’t let that conflict dissuade them from treating others well and wishing them well.


    I think if in part if they have found away in a human condition that not only has endless ways, but it’s also endlessly confusing and it works for them then who the hell am I or anyone else to tell them they can’t be happy even though they’re being completely safe.


    Either way that was my two cents in the bet that people are way to complex. Nevertheless whatever conflict you may be having over this matter hopefully my words have brought some sort of clarity. If so I wish you luck and even if not I still wish you luck in life, and that happiness find you every single day.

    • Ok, we have every right to act however as citizens obviously it’s your body & sexual relationship. Anyway we as humans also have a one hole made for one person to engage with and reproduce with lol. I’m not trying to sound like some preacher of course we’re human but I feel like theirs levels to lusting and doing an act like that is a bit more extreme than just looking at someone in public some type of way.

    • See you’re assuming things for procreation yes absolutely women have, but one hole. Yet it’s not the only hole that’s meant for sexual pleasure. Oral, vaginal, and anal sex has been had on the basis that it is pleasurable; because the fact of the matter is that we have pleasure spot in our anus both as men and women. On top of it we frequent oral for pleasure. Scientific fact females frequent a vagina, males a penis both can stimulate directly the production of hormones via glands located in the brain. Yes god, in put many millennia in the form of evolution to think that one up The catch is that he also thought up of one for anal stimulation. So proving that being fruitful and multiplying are two independent actions. One will get pregnant if one is fruitful incorrectly with those who one does not want to be plentiful with. However if one dose choose to be fruitful yet not plentiful one should do so correctly in an age where technology and common since lives. If so one should be fine. Understand everyone has the right to do what they want to do, you have the right to only choose to have vaginal sex with the person that you love/ want to marry, and do all those things in that order. I’m not knocking on your freedom to do that nor am I knocking the fact that thats the form of life, and sexuality you appreciate and want to have. Truly good for you I’m glad that you found a method, and a path or understanding in life that makes you happy. Moreover I hope that you found somebody that understands that, and whom you are be happy with or that it happens for you in life like that if it hasn’t already. I am knocking however on The fact that at one point or another you were given incorrect information and that information has made you believe that sex is the same thing as procreating when they are not the same things at all.

    • Like don’t get me wrong I understand that’s something people tell their children just; because they want to have the illusion of control still happening until they reach a certain age, but you know the reality is people are gonna be who they are regardless. Like is it something that you just grew up with; because like I’m from the south so i grew up with it, but the reality is that that’s not how things actually work.

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  • It's never like you think or hope it would be. And the number one rule for marrieds is - NEVER BRING A THIRD PARTY INTO YOUR MARITAL BED.
    It just won't work out like you think.
    People who fuck around are simply not committed to their partner. Period.

    • So if my wife and I both want to have sex with the same person we should take turns and go to a motel? I don't know man it kind of seems like something we could do together.

    • @Ogopogo Why don't you just have sex with each other? Don't be a fucking dumbass.

    • Who said we don't also just have sex with each other? That is what we usually do. I'm with you on the marital bed, though. Extramarital sex belongs in a hotel room.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah, been there, done that. Seems more people are giving this a try.

    • Huhh

  • Not for me. if I love somebody I Don’t like sharing

    • I dont like sharing my tacos of asada either theyve gotten expensive in my area no way I'm giving away $2.50

    • Think about it 5tacos 2.50 each 12.50 total bag of tortillas is like what $3-5 for 20 or 25 tortillas? Not enough meat is added its mostly cabbage back in the day yes they were good now its shit

    • @bismarck_96 LMAOO true

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  • he’ll yea it’d be super fun 🤣 it’s not about someone being “enough” for the other person, it’s about experience.

    • I could see that if I was in Las Vegas and I was having a “yolo” after a breakup lol just kidding, but in a relationship Never, I just don’t see the point of having 2 dicks for a good time or using one girl for the experience when she could have someone to herself where they could explore & learn each other’s bodies.

    • oh yea nah i’d rather have another female than another dick in the room

    • @sugarkexo u sound super fun! have u had a thressome? nice bird by the way!!

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  • For me, sex is a private endeavor between one male and one female participant.

  • Nope.

  • I think it can be messy, but if it was something my girlfriend wanted and was willing to compromise I would do it

    • Really, even if i had a guy who wanted to I would turn it down quickly. It can be messy too like you said but I dont see the point other than the “sexy” experience lol, I would feel so ashamed afterwards. I feel like with one person you can learn each other’s bodies and more and be satisfied most of the time.

    • You can have threessomes and one on one sex with your partner, you don’t have to pick one or the other, I think it comes Down to communication, if Both people know the other person boundaries or can be fun, look at it this way, you can have sex with your boyfriend as well as a guy who you think is hot in a threesome. Does mean you love your boyfriend any less, if it’s a desire you have there’s nothing wrong with it, After you finished the threeesome you can kick out the second guy and reconnect with your boyfriend, or maybe have more sex one on one

    • So basically I’m having sex with a hot guy for double pleasure in bed lol.. either way you’re seeing another persons body in person & indirectly telling your significant something off with your bond mentally and physically. That’s how i look at it

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  • As long as it is with consenting adults, i dont see a problem.

  • Yes i mean love is not the same as sex. so in the right manner yes, but if it wasn't good for all then no.

    • I feel like sex places a huge role in what right manner , if it’s consensual the of course it’ll be. But for me I feel like relationships though are different Because your allowing another person engage in both of y’all’s “sacred” bodies & intimate actions loll i dont know.

  • yes i will, if she want as well.

  • Not anymore. Went bad in the past.

    • How?

    • @YOussefElAdl She ended up sleeping with the guy and going to him for emotional support behind my back. And that crossed the line.

    • Yikes sorry about that i guess.

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  • No. Threes a crowd. And i don't like sharing. If i have a man, he's MINE and MINE only

  • Nope, too much effort

  • If that's what they want but it does cause a lot of problems in the relationship like jealousy!

  • I do and on valentine I'm gng to do threesome with my female frnds. Ffm

    • Lol thanks for telling Me that so you’re married or in a relationship or is it just with your female friends?

    • Just with my frnd Ffm What about you?

    • Lol no and what does Ffm mean?

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  • No way never

  • Are there insignificant wives and husbands?

  • I agree with you. I believe in one man and one woman only.

  • That takes the “significant” out of “significant other” in my opinion. I’m only doing it with my future wife, and she’s only doing it with me.

  • If my wife wants to try a threesome with another girl, I'd give it a try.

  • Oh yes, with second wife and her girlfriend.
    We did it twice. I was great fun.

    • Interesting.

  • I already do it and love it

    • Are you married or dating someone? That’s interesting

    • & it’s with a girl most likely huh or is it a guy?

    • It’s with a guy

  • Most likely not, I'm open to discussing it but it'll likely not happen.

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