Would you hide the details of your past sex life from your current partner if they were slutty?

[Girlygirl97l7]

What if it involved a friend of his? Anyone has experience with this?

[Anonymous]

I don’t typically share any details of my past sex life with anyone, regardless of whether anyone might think it’s slutty or not. The bottom line is, that’s personal. It’s no one’s business but my own and that includes my current partner. Guys in a relationship often press for details of my past sex life and I don’t budge on that. If they don’t like it, they know where the door is. If I had been involved with someone he knew, he’d find out anyway so I might mention up front that I had a past relationship with this person and leave it at that. Then he could decide if it was too awkward for him or not. That would probably be the only scenario where I might volunteer something.

[Girlygirl97l7]

But what if he don't know him until after u guys stayed dating

[Jman001]

What if it were your husband? Would you share then?

[Opinion Owner]

If our relationship predated him knowing the guy, I’d probably maintain privacy. If my ex wanted to tell him he could.

[Jman001]

I meant would you tell your husband your body count

[Girlygirl97l7]

@Jman001 I did

[Opinion Owner]

@Jman001 No. He has no right to that information. It’s private and doesn’t involve him. I would not ask him his count either. That was before me and is irrelevant. If he can’t judge our relationship based on its own strengths then I don’t want to be with him.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Look in think it's stupid to ask women their body count but if someone does ask you, and you stand tall and say you won't share, that's often seen as worse then just giving the typical lie. Over enough time, it becomes pretty apparent what kind of past she likely had

[Jdjfjcjj]

I'll clarify, I think it's stupid because it's pointless, you won't get the truth. I don't mean that I do not consider a woman's past. I just figure it out based on what I see and hear from her

[Opinion Owner]

@Jdjfjcjj My actual number is probably much lower than what you’re thinking. I just don’t like to be scrutinized over something that is my business alone. The fact that men place so much importance on something so irrelevant makes me pull back even more. You’re even reading into my non-answer. I force guys to judge me based on the strength of our relationship, not on what private things I may or may not have done with other people. I won’t play into the insecurity that fuels that sexism.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Well you see it as irrelevant but what if I said I see most of the preferences that women have in men are irrelevant?

[Jdjfjcjj]

And my preference is not rooted in insecurity. It's rooted in understanding my value and knowing I don't need to settle

[Opinion Owner]

@Jdjfjcjj You’re free to walk away if you feel you’re being scrutinized unfairly for something irrelevant. People do crap like that all the time. We all have free will to reject BS. I disagree with you on insecurity though. Men are jealous and possessive and that’s why they place value on chastity (for women anyway, not necessarily themselves). Sex is a basic human need. Whether someone has had sex 5 times or 500, it doesn’t change their appearance or personality or their strengths and weaknesses. It only has an effect on his mind. It’s always rooted in insecurity.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Can I ask you this then? Why is that women will shame other women by calling them sluts then? I agree with you though, it's women's choice to decide what they want to do or not. It doesn't affect me at all. Iim fact, I love hoes. They're fun! I just don't want to commit to them

[katiesmuff]

Not if he asked I wouldn't lie, but if he didn't ask I sure as hell wouldn't volunteer the information.

[Miristheiss]

Be honest.

Do not be a liar.

Face it, a sutty past will eliminate a lot of guys from being intersted in you. Just accept it. Actions have consequences.

[MrCommodore]

This is a dangerous one, I'd say no, because if he finds out later, he could dump her even I'd they are married

[KarinMcDonald]

I wasn't that provocative before I got married. That part of me has happened more recently.

[Sirenboobzilla]

No. I've been 100% honest of my exploits with my boyfriend.

[Girlygirl97l7]

We're any of them very extreme and did honesty ever cause a issue

[rachel776]

i'm private about it

[Girlygirl97l7]

So u would keep it to yourself

[SnowedIn]

Well... past is past. I wouldn't volunteer it. But if they asked, maybe.

[OatmealMuffin]

No, just get it out in the open.

[Amegz]

Past is past.

But if

- any impacts may appear and leads to misunderstand

- these details affecting you till now

You should be clear with him, at least with no much details

[Jdjfjcjj]

Past is past? Hmm. Interesting. If I was a pedo in my past, you think women would look past that?

[Amegz]

@Jdjfjcjj If it is affecting you till now as I said above -could you take it all?” , you should tell her. Just to fuck you up 🤷🏻‍♂️

[boggboss]

I'm always of the mind set of if it happened before me I don't want to know although it comes with the understanding I personally wouldn't want to date someone who has been with a friend or family member

[Jdjfjcjj]

A friend of his? Damn that I don't think you should hide.

[Dargil]

I would leak certain things but not give her a feature length history.

[bowenw]

I usually never discuss this kind of thing, but in your case you may want to ask your friend for her opinion and to find out if her fiancé has told your partner what happened.

[AsaKyo]

I have nothing to hide because I'm not a slut

[Still-alive]

Should they?

[KrakenAttackin]

Guys have radar for hoes, we know you have been fucked a lot.

[strlb]

Why hide the truth. Either they accept you or they don't. The past is the past.

[iSensei]

Past belongs to past

[majorzorf]

No, i wouldn't date somebody who is that conservative.

[eagle1951]

friend and coworker

[riverrat3]

not their business, it is in the past

[Jdjfjcjj]

Right...

[Byuser]

If you want to talk about it, follow me and I will offer your ideas.

[Girlygirl97l7]

What?

[Byuser]

look at my message

[Anonymous]

My husband knows pretty much all of my past as we have been friends since he was 12... he's witnessed my hoeing phases and I hoed with multiple of his friends

[Girlygirl97l7]

That's nice I wish that was the case

[Jdjfjcjj]

Wow... Have you cheated on him?

[Opinion Owner]

@Jdjfjcjj no I have not cheated on him it was way back as teenagers that I dated/slept with his friends at the time

[Girlygirl97l7]

Oh really how did he handle that information

[Opinion Owner]

He handled it fine... its in the past not the present... plus we were friends back then