Guys, would you prefer a girlfriend who already knows what she likes or one who still needs to experiment a lot?

Does it make a difference if she discovered what she’s into through masturbation versus experiences with other men?
So far I’ve only fantasized about what I would enjoy doing with a guy and I haven’t figured out, alone or with anyone, what it takes to satisfy me. I think it would be fun to explore and find out what I like with a boyfriend so we can share that experience, but I also see how it’s easier if you get into the relationship already knowing what works for you.
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  • You know, I'd never actually thought this through. I'd just figured "if she knows what gets her off, she can tell me what she wants". Experimenting might be fun, but just like in real science, most experiments fail. Putting in the work to learn can be time-consuming and exhausting, especially when both of you have other things you'd rather be doing. Remember that there's no real upper limit to what you can learn on this subject, but there is a lower one; you'll probably be doing the odd bit of expermenting anyway. I strongly suggest that you start playing around now and at least getting an idea of what you like, and how, so you'll have a base to work from. I foresee a lot of frustration if you're fumbling around in the dark while you're, well, fumbling around the dark.

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  • For most guys, it is important for them to know that they have pleased you sexually. It makes us feel better about ourselves as men. Since every woman is different, we depend on you to let us know what gets you aroused and what is 'meh, not so much.' It's great to ask a boyfriend to try new things with you but you need to at least be able to guide him to bring you to orgasm at some point during the encounter. At least learn a few basics through self-directed study and then ask him to teach you more.

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  • I've always been happy to teach, so, it really doesn't make too much difference to me. Mainly, if she's enthusiastic and open-minded, then it really doesn't matter - it's going to be fun either way.

  • Not a big deal... you'll naturally figure it out. Biggest thing for me with a girlfriend is that she's comfortable with her body, has a natural sex drive, and is open to trying things without being overly shy. Does that make sense?

  • Find what you like or think you like do it with your boyfriend do it with the guy next door. Do it with me each one of us will do it different. Same as if I had a fantasy and did it with 3 different girls it would be different so any I do like a girl that knows what she wants but not as much as I like a girl that needs or wants to experiment. And experience and that's because everyone is different at least I hope I am I don't want to do it like anyone else and I would hope you feel the same way

  • The ones that know what they want, and like, make it easier, but the few virgins, were interesting, having to show/teach them so many things they didn't know!

  • Things change with each person you have sex with you can know what you like but it may not exaclty line up with your partner. Experimentation and communication with sex is a recipe for a Amazing relationship and sex life..

  • I find this concept a slight fallacy.

  • When I was 20 I preferred a girl who still needed to learn a lot.

    Now I'm older I'd prefer a more experienced girl who knows what she wants.

  • The one who needs experience from my point of view that gives you more motion and feels than the one who is already pass through a lot

  • Relaxed sexual exploration and discovery in a setting where there is fondness is about as exciting as things can get. A fantasy I have is to go back to my "virgin" days, but with a little internet head knowledge and explore with a virgin girl.

  • A girl who already knows what she likes.

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