Would you rather choose a girl who had a lot of hookups or a prostitute for a long term relationship?

[CubsterShura]

She won't be hooking up or seeing clients when she is in the relationship with you.

Don't say 'neither' or some other answer.

Let's assume personality and looks wise they are same, so they are equally good people and they look equally hot. So please don't say 'whoever is nicer' or 'whoever is hotter'.

I saw a poll like this in Twitter and wanted to see what responses I get on g@g.

[ManOnFire]

Wow, this is an interesting question. Ummmmmm, I'm really not sure. On the one hand I might almost say the prostitute, because while she's slept with lots of clients it was all for money/business. But then on the other hand, the hook up girl has done it because she wants to and likes getting fucked. And even though the prostitute is doing it for money, that still doesn't mean she's not hooking up when she's not working.

Really tough question but interesting.

[0112358]

I don’t know. In both cases id be concerned but perhaps okay. I’d be wondering why she’d been in that situation. I’d wonder how it had impacted her feelings around sex today. I’d wonder how she felt around sex with me, around how I met her needs, on how she felt about meeting mine.
so... maybe either. But both I’d be seeing how they were today. I suppose though the same would be true in its own way of dating a virgin or any other girl.

[CubsterShura]

So who do you think is a better candidate for an LTR in your mind? I know this is a tricky question that's exactly why I asked this. It can really make you think of things you never thought before.

[0112358]

I can’t answer because the question is specific to the individual - what does it show about them, how has it shaped them as an individual? Basically whichever one has come out of it ready and able to have a great sex life in a relationship going forward. I have slightly different concerns for each. The hookup may simply enjoy sleeping around and struggle with commitment. Or she may have “had her fun” and be ready to settle into boredom. Or she may have thought she had to sleep with those guys to get their attention, and interpret love as... not having sex. The prostitute may have learned to find male sexual needs gross, or to have conditioned herself to be disconnected and just “let people” have sex. You will notice what I’m not worrying about though - whether she’s a “bad person” or worthless. I am not concerned about those things.

[CubsterShura]

And that's the point. Both have their pros and cons and you have to make a decision based on who you think has the edge. You have to do some generalization here, and make assumptions like other factors such as personality and looks are same/equal.

[Ally247]

two sides to this, a guy may pick the prostitute if she was only in that position because it was her only method of earning and making a living, she had no choice/was forced into the profession at a young age, on the other hand a guy may pick a hook up girl if he too has had many hook ups and therefore is in no position to judge, or sees the hook up girl as someone with experience/its not her way of earning a living so she can stop

[DevikaButts95]

Hook-up girl. There isn't much difference though, but I'm a hook-up girl myself. Though, namely all my hookups just sucked my toes and ate my ass, but still.

[Herbie_Otch]

Is a prostitute not a girl who's had a lot of hookups?

[CubsterShura]

No!!

[Herbie_Otch]

Ok, let me be more clear. The only reason I can think of to not want to be with a former prostitute is if you prefer a woman who's had fewer partners. A woman who hooks up all the time has had a lot of partners as well. As long as she was safe and clean, it would make no difference to me. To me, there's no shame in having a lot of partners, and and there's no shame in earning money as a sec worker if that is what you want to do. Prostitution frequently comes with all kinds of other issues, like feeling trapped (so... maybe consensual, but maybe also kinda forced), or human trafficking. But assuming that's not the case here and we're just talking about sometime who decided to sell sex for a while, I don't have a problem with either one.

[cheapshotbob]

hook up girl because she woulds be easier to trust since she won't ALWAYS be about the money i would have issues with that.

[Sonorous]

I chose the Hook-up girl because of the motivational difference. I feel like if she were to actually fall in love, it would e less likely to be for the money.

[Sonorous]

it would be less likely for the money*

[Kurαȷ]

Realistically speaking, I would date neither.
But I view the "hook-up girl" much more positively than the prostitute.

Not sure who would date a prostitute, or why.

[CubsterShura]

The Twitter poll had majority vote for the prostitute.

[Kurαȷ]

That seems like some very misguided logic to me. What arguments did the posters provide in support of that choice? I imagine it takes a great amount of insecurity to pick the prostitute. Perhaps they naively idealize prostitutes as someone who is "only doing their job" rather than being willfully promiscuous. Or perhaps they are simply bitter about and feel threatened by the ability of the "hook-up" girl to have sex that often, and they see the prostitute as someone who they would be more "adequate" for.

[CubsterShura]

Their argument is that she's the smarter one who made a business out of it and she most probably likely did it out of necessity than someone who just hooks ups and has done it for fun hence she is someone who doesn't take relationships seriously or is incapable of commitment/settling in a long term relationship. And also some pointed out the prostitute has better skills and hygiene.

[CubsterShura]

But also, the original poster is quite conservative and possibly even redpill so that's why I wanted to see how men would generally respond if the target audience isn't specifically to people with one kind of mindset.

[ManOnFire]

@Kurαȷ Dude, that is a really sharp observation. Nice.

[Jjpayne]

As long as she is checked for std's and she finished with. Her experience could only help our intimacy to be better. But I will say, it is much better to share a girls first experience with her or be one of few because that makes you even more special to her

[WhiteShoulder]

I voted A. Prostitutes are gross.

[arefin]

the reason i would chose prostitute over hookup girl is that hookup girl don't have control over her sex drive

[Shiver]

Either or. I guess I'd pick the prostitute cuz I never actually dated one before.

[oldguystillhasit]

A prostitute in my opinion may be "numb" to sexual pleasure because of doing whatever kinky and sick weird stuff her clients want. A girl with a lot of hookups chooses to have sex for her own pleasure, not someone else's fetishes

[ManOnFire]

I was thinking that too, that she might be numb to sex.

[Passinggas]

Well the hooker certainly has more business sense, so that would be a plus. The hooker might have money too. Besides, how is a hookup that I paid to go out, or fed, or whatever I spent, that much different from a hooker?

[ManOnFire]

Good point.

[Danny_dan92]

What kind of question is this?

[CubsterShura]

Ask the original person on Twitter who asked this. I simply got curious and wanted to see how the results compare on g@g as there is a more diverse range of guys on here.

[Danny_dan92]

I see... well I don't know. Definitely not a prostitute tho... but a girl that has hooked up a lot? Mmm... I don't know bout that one

[CubsterShura]

That's what's interesting about this weird questions. Both sides of the argument are quite strong, but because of the particular community on Twitter I could only see one side of the answers.

[Massageman]

Probably neither, but at least the whore is upfront about her downlow.

[genericname85]

A prostitute no. Someone who had lots of hookups maybe... If she has convincing arguments.

[CubsterShura]

What kind of convincing arguments?

[genericname85]

Well if she used to have hookups, why does she want a relationship now? There has to be a reason for this shift in lifestyle. I expect her to have reflected this and explain in more elaborate words than "because I want to".

[Ianto]

Neither is ideal. I think the "Hook-up girl" has the edge, in that she is at least likely to enjoy sex. Prostitution does psychological damage, and I can't imagine leaves her with any capacity for joy in sex. Even if she felt enough for you to simulate enjoyment it would not be fulfilling.

[Shamalien]

fuck this would you rather shit, so if I don't want a prosto or a slut I don't like girls? Eaaaat shitttt I'll be celibate for life before doing either

[CubsterShura]

Too many words for 'i can't think'

[Shamalien]

I can think outside your little box lol, I've heard so many stupid would you rather questions in my life and all I have to say is this: FALSE DICHOTOMY tell me what that expression means assuming you even understand the term and then tell me I can't think

[CubsterShura]

You're getting triggered over a question oh lord 😂 don't answer if you don't want to. No one wants you here.

[Shamalien]

You can’t think

[GreenGold1992]

either way, they gotta be totally clean

[bklynbadboy1]

To me their both that same thing I can respect the prostitute more than the hook up. girl. cause at least she's getting paid for it

[TheFirstMan]

IF SHE CHANGE after meeting me, it was a luck. I got a hot, pretty, and expert. I might taking care of her as queen. I didn't see any problems as long as she can accept me🙄

[the_sinner]

The prostitute might have heartless and emotionless sex with me while in a relationship as she does with her clients which is not ethical.

So I'd sadly go for the hook-up girl.

by the way good question!

[Cage4]

Prolly a prostitute cause most of the time they only work as that because they wanna live