There are two components to this, I think: the first is that a woman is, of necessity, going to have less experience handling a guy's penis than the guy will. Yes, there are women out there who will object to that, but it's true. (And to the husbands and boyfriends of the women who take that as a challenge and seek to prove me wrong, I say: you're welcome!). Many women don't have a good sense of handjob technique, and since many guys are so reluctant to offer them constructive criticism, they don't have much ability or incentive to improve (and some probably don't have much to do it in the first place; they figure "he knows his penis better than I do; he can just do it himself", and don't want to). To my mind, this is doubly unfortunate: sex is as much about interpersonal connection as applied friction, and it seems silly to me to deny yourself options both to please your partner and to learn how they like to be touched- especially when they're ones that can be done with a minimal expenditure of effort and chance of soreness or injury. I mean, you LIKE this person... right?
The other is that masturbation isn't just about sex. Sometimes all you want to do is get yourself off; clear out the pipes and keep the hormones in check, and get back to something else you were doing (this doesn't mean you don't like sex, but sometimes other stuff comes up that is, or feels, more urgent). Sometimes you just want to recenter yourself, or focus only on you for a bit. That's rarely a long-term, thing, though; usually it's just some kind of "I'm feeling frazzled, and want to do this alone for now" situation.
Obviously, I'm not going to say that everything should do things the way *I* like to do them, but I do think it's an option more people should consider. Sex doesn't always have to be a big production, after all, and the odd casual handjob during a cuddling session or during a movie you're watching together for the umpteenth time can add an element of playfulness that a lot of people's sex lives are sadly lacking. It can also add a little spice in letting her play with power and dominance without getting into the whips-and-chains stuff that's so off-putting to so many. There are probably a LOT more women who'd enjoy taking control (a lot more men who'd enjoy it, too), at least occasionally, than realize it, because porn always depicts things in their most extreme form. "Kinky" and "wholesome" aren't mutually exclusive.
Not all guys are going to agree with my perspective - which is fine - but here's my take on it:
Under ideal or near-ideal conditions, a HJ from a girl is better than jerking off. But such conditions, in my experience at least, are the exception, not the rule.
If the choice is a less optimal HJ or jerking off, I'd pick jerking off.
Here's why:
I view a hand job as the very lowest level of sex - to me, it only barely qualifies, and it feels like it's something that you do in junior high or high school, before you move on to "real" sex. I realize that not all people view it that way, but I do, and that informs my overall opinion. I definitely get more enjoyment out of other things, and I generally prefer a more active role.
Having said that, I've been with a few girls who are really good at them, and would also get naked, use dirty talk, put their boobs in my face, etc. while they did it, and that certainly made it better than jerking off. But it's been far more common in my experience for girls to be lousy at HJs, and frankly for them to be less involved or less enthusiastic, and that adds up to being worse than taking care of it myself.
Another thing: you need to use lube in order to give a good (or even safe) HJ, because even though a guy can jerk himself off dry, he also can keep himself from gripping too hard and chaffing himself. Girls tend to grip too hard and it takes very little time to chafe the thin skin on a penis if you aren't using plenty of lube (and a few girls have chaffed even WITH lube, because they gripped too hard and/or moved too fast.
If all girls had the skill and enthusiasm as the very best ones, I might like HJs a lot more, and have a different attitude about them... but that's just not been my experience, so I don't.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well here is the thing. Most women don't know what they are doing. They just hammer up and down on you, smashing your balls, and just grabbing skin and moving it around, rather than knowing how to cause the friction that feels good.
Sure, I like it if I'm attracted to them, but it's much better when I do it myself.
I've never smashed balls during a handjob 😂
Always better with the help of a woman’s touch
For the SAME underlying principle which PREVENTS you from being able to 'tickle' yourself.
#1 The element of unscripted spontaneous unpredictability;
#2 Self-less intimate massage by someone who's ONLY intention is to visit atavistic transient sublimated pleasure upon you, in return for nothing more than your frank and honest 'animal' response;
#3 Despite dogmatic orthodoxy, absolutely NO chance of ancillary unintended conception with it's attending accompanying long-term consequences~
Jerk off. I know what I'm doing a lot better than some random girl.
Why does she have to be random? Lol could br your girlfriend/wife
Jerk off. No offence, but my hands have far more experience with my penis than any others. They know what it likes.
Not offended since I'm not with you but id be very offened If my husband ever said that he'd prefer jerking off over my handjobs I'd probably tie up his hands and never let him jerk off again so he'd have to depend on my hands
My wife and I both still masturbate quite a bit even though we have a healthy sex life. Sometimes you are horny at 3 am but your spouse works at 7am and you don't want to wake them up...
Ah I just wake him up for sex in the middle of the night lol but sure we both masturbate too just usually more me than him
I prefer skinny... lean... fit... petite.. or slim women... they're absolutely awesome in bed and great to be seen with in public during daylight.
Here's the thing with that is I don't want either I mean if it's just starting out as a foreplay that's fine but I want to make love I want to have sex I want to fuck I want to get down and dirty I want to be able to please that girl when I get a hard-on I want to enter it into her slow motion and deep I want her to experience everything that comes with that I want to make it all about her she doesn't have to give me a handjob or blow job I just want to make love very slow motion and deep and then pounding relentlessly not stopping until sure eyes are in the back of her head
Some girls aren't good at handjobs, like sometimes my girl will grab it wrong, and use to much force squeezing it on the sides, ok imagine a guy stand and his penis sticking straight out, I'd call up is top, down near balls is bottom and left and right are what I'm calling the sides, squeezing it sideways with thumb on one side and palm on the other don't feel good and for some reason some girls do that. Or the rub the head to much.
Handjob or footjob all the way & if those two aren’t an option hump your fist.
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