Guys, would you reject a BJ just because you feel down?

My "ex" rejected twice because he wasn't in the mood, he was feeling down and didn't want to see anyone... Yes, it sounds suspicious but I believe him, he isn't a douche really, not fully at least. And my bjs are amazing trust me. Is this something normal? Does sadness affect your sex drive? I think it was an excuse. This was after we stopped being something.
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  • Why do women constantly think that men are just walking talking fucking machines? Yes that is normal. I mean would you want sex when your depressed? "Hey your dog just died. Want to fuck?" isn't exactly something men want to hear. So if he is depressed that is going to affect his desire (so is being overworked, stressed out, being tired etc.). We are not machines, you have to respect that fact, just like he has to respect the fact that your not going to be in the mood for sex when ever he feels like it. If you guys broke up then yeah, he probably is going to be even more against it.

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  • Yes depression cause seriously lowered sex drive in males.. I've also turned them down before because i jerked off in the shower an no matter how good you are you ain't getting that second nut without neck problems so i'm not in the mood could also be i'm not in the mood to see you try that hard for nothing.

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  • I'm guessing it's related to the breakup. What caused it and how did it end, from your side?

    • You know how it ended. Haven't done anything about it yet, but i will.

    • I meant what caused it? Did someone cheat? Is he depressed by the breakup? Maybe you sucking his cock would just bring back too many painful memories. Maybe if he spanked you first?

    • I told you the story. This was just a chapter. It was a few days before the ultimatum.

  • Yes. If I'm sad, I'm not in the mood for sex. But also, I've never had a good BJ in my life, and I'm pretty sure I just don't/couldn't enjoy them, anyway. (So I doubt your "BJ's are amazing." Every girl says that.)

  • Reverse the roles for a second and think about it. Sex drive is affected by stress, depression, sadness, etc. Why does it matter that much if he doesn't want a succ? Becuase your horny and you want to give succ? If you cared, it wouldn't matter.

  • Severe depression can definitely affect the ability to experience pleasure. If that is the case, he might not want you to put in all that effort, knowing he might not enjoy it or be able to finish. Keep in mind that sadness is not always depression. Also, people experiencing depression may not feel sad (sometimes depression prevents a person from feeling any emotion).

  • There are no legal circumstances under which I would refuse a b. j. I would, however, feel obliged to inform her of likely complications. So if I was really depressed I'd tell her it could be a while before I get into it. But if that doesn't stop her then I guess I'm getting my dick sucked.

  • Completely possible.
    Ever since I've been having setback upon setback in my projects and career, I stopped being in the mood for anything sexual with my fiancée.
    She keeps making propositions, but I'm too down for any of that.

    • Yeah, this guy who I am talking about has finished college time ago but can't find a job, its a special degree so its very hard to find something near or even on this country so yeah he is very concerned about it, it takes a lot of his happiness let's say. Adding his breakup last year after 3 years of relationship. He isn't a happy person in general, I tried to help but he didn't want, he keeps saying he needs space and time.

  • Yes, even guys sometimes aren't in the mood for sex. That can happen, no big deal.

    No one would think anything about it if a girl would say she isn't in the mood for sex. But as soon as a guy isn't in the mood for sex, people think it's strange. It isn't.

  • I'd never reject a bj from a woman as gorgeous as you.

    • man, shut up.

  • likely to cheer me up a bit if it was my partner giving me oral pleasure.

  • Yes same with sex or masturbating

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