Would you stay in this relationship?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for going on 6 years in July and it’s been a sexless relationship not because of me all on his end. Tried having sex once he couldn’t stay hard. First guy I’ve ever had that issue with and he hasn’t tried anything since. Besides that, my boyfriend spends most his time on his phone all day long til whenever he decides he wants to spend time together mind you we live together and I feel like I don’t exist. We don’t kiss and there’s not even any foreplay nothing. And if I even ask him to spend time with me he gets mad and will call me clingy or just be an ass and say I always have an issue when all I want is his attention. I’m tired of never going anywhere and doing anything he just likes to stay home and he on his phone all day and never do anything unless it’s what he wants. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Like alone? Etc

[MTC29]

This situation isn't normal. If he's roughly your age: 30-35 (or older), he needs to have his testosterone level checked. I know that it seems difficult to believe, but he may have adjusted the same way a person with a missing tooth will only chew on one side of their mouth. Fine for him, but not so good for you.

[Asker]

He’s 28 about to be 29

[MTC29]

That makes it even more likely that his testosterone levels are low. I don't know if he's been your only partner, but there aren't many 28 year old guys who can't get hard, and since you've been together for six years... well, a 22 year old's dick is normally hard so often that ii can be embarrassing (BTDT). There's something defiantly wrong on his end (so to speak) which has nothing to do with you. When was the last time he had a full medical check up with bloodwork? Guys his age are normally in good health, at least physically, so they often skip those exams. Ask him to have full physical.

[Asker]

His mom told me I was his first girlfriend so not sure

[MTC29]

It's not normal for a man his age to have zero interest in sex. You must really love him to endure a 6 year sexless relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah but he treats me pretty shitty emotionally and mentally abusive. He’s also very self conscious about his body cause he’s real skinny

[MTC29]

The skinny part seals it. He has health issues which should concern you. The monthly abusive fits a pattern. I don't know you, but you seem like a nice young lady, so not going to sit here and tell you to break up with him. Even so, there is nothing that "you" are going to be able to do to solve the problems which face both of you. Right now, he's fine with the relationship, but you're disappointed. The course of action is up to you, but I'll tell you that there are plenty of guys out there who would be desperate to be in a relationship with a level headed young woman like yourself. My advice is worth what you paid for it. I hope that things work out of you.

[Red_Arrow]

You are not the problem. You can go to a couple's counselor to work it out. Or he may refuse to go or you may not want to continue. In that case get out of it and get with someone normal.

[NorthAfrican]

No sex + Emotionally abusive

why are you still with him?

[RachelBrooke]

Save sex for marriage. It’s how God designed it for what’s best for us and the good of humanity.

[Seppel]

That's so wrong. People had sex bevore marriage bevore christianity exists and no one was Mad. When do weak religious people wake Up and See that religion is only good for Controlking people and make them feel bad and of course wars

[Dargil]

Initiate a blow job while he is on the phone.

[Asker]

Tried couldn’t stay hard

[Asker]

And this was in the past

[Sam_The_Savage]

Pm me

[jahaims]

Wouldn't of even been with him from the get go

[Asker]

Didn’t know what I was getting into til I got with him

[Asker]

But he always makes it seem like I’m the problem

[jahaims]

You didn't know after a year? Plenty of red flags

[Asker]

I don't know kept giving him the benefit of a doubt that I was probably his first girlfriend

[jahaims]

Probably? You were with someone that long and don't know if he had ever had a girlfriend before?

[Asker]

He lies a lot

[jahaims]

Again red flag

[Asker]

True

[Batuthekhan]

you can pm me we had similar issues