Would you take someone's virginity if you knew that you would not have a future for your relationship? ....Or is MORALS still alive?

[Lachuks224]

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You are / were in a situation where you're about to have sex with a person and you find out that they are still a virgin! You know it's not going anywhere between you two...Would you look back at when you lost yours and over think it or would you just not care?

I think that it's something special and looking back I regret having sex with the wrong person but now I'm arguing over this topic with a guy friend and can't win him over with the fact that moral is alive and that you only lose virginity once and after you can have sex as much as you like; but you wil never get back hour first time...

All he says:

Nobody cares about morale!

No I think there is still morale!

[JuicyBrain]

Not everybody puts importance into such a useless thing as virginity. It's all in your head. What is so special about the simple fact that it's the first time? Why do you expect people to magically understand the special nature of that first time? I never expected the first time I shaved to be special or perfect? It was a bloody mess, but I got better at it. Why would I regret my first shave not to be perfect? What would be the point of it? Expecting a first time to be perfect is pointless and setting itself up for failure.

Morals mean nothing, again, it's all in people's head. Something that is wrong and frowned upon in a culture will be customary in another. Not so long ago, interracial couples were still immoral. So I don't judge my own actions on what other people think, no thank you. Fuck them, they don't know any better than me. You should sit down and ask yourself questions about those morals. What's the point of them. What do they really mean to you. Do you understand them. Don't just follow them blindly and think you are better than others because of it.

[redeyemindtricks]

When I lost my virginity, the only thing I regretted was having spent so long actually thinking it might be worth fretting over.

[Hot_Mess_Express]

I actually took my younger cousin's virginity. He was this foul mouthed middle school brat who was always cat calling and talking about sex stuff he didn't really understand. You know, trying to show off. I was a junior in highschool and he was always making lewd comments about me and my friends. So one day I called his bluff. He had told me to "suck my dick" so I told him to whip it out. He didn't know how to respond so I told him again, you really wanna do this?

So he dropped his pants and pulled out his... little buddy 🤣, and I gave him his first BJ. It really wasn't a sexual thing for me I kinda just thought if he got it outta the was he'd start acting like a normal person again, and it worked pretty well. I was a little surprised though, I don't know if it was his age or what, but his cum tasted way sweeter than any guy I've ever tasted. Not funky at all. It was surprisingly tasty.

Never did anything again, I just needed him to get through his phase lol

[BaileyisDarcy]

It's not about morale. It's about how much value a person puts on their virginity.

I held very little over mine. Now it's gone. Someone who believes in virginity being akin to purity and all that would probably regret losing it the way I did, but the way I feel, is that I haven't lost anything. I gained a memory and some experience. And a new friend.

[Berethor]

Sorry to hear that you lost your first time to the wrong guy. Virgins should be respected, sex is an very significant thing to most of them, it's not moral to take an girl virginity if you know that you don't going to stay with her for long, especially if you don't tell her the truth beforehand.

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[utopianromance]

Anyone who would do that is sick.

[AleDeEurope]

It all depends on how much importance they give their virginity. I didn't care about mine, to me virginity means nothing, just a way to describe someone who hasn't had sex, nothing else. If she views it the same way as me, then I'd proceed to have sex.
I've only taken one girl's virginity and she wanted it, even though we didn't even last a month together. From the beginning I told her many times that I wasn't too sure about being in a relationship, and even when we got serious, I told her I was having doubts about the relationship. The day we did it, I asked her like 5 times if she was 100% sure that she wanted to do it with me. She said yes every single time, so we did it.
I was always honest with how I felt, and she didn't say anything against it and decided to do it, even though she knew I didn't really see any future together.

[Bluemax]

I am sorry that happened to you.

You should understand that not everyone feels the same way about losing their virginity.

[johnmsk]

if both agrees why not

[GreatnessPersonified]

If both parties know the rules before hand, then it's no problem.

[AndrewTroy]

Morale means your strength of spirit, especially of an army or military force.
Morals are about standards of behaviour

I don't think morals are dead. But I don't see what's immoral about having sex promiscuously, or having sex in the scenario you described.

Also, just saying over and over "But it's wrong" doesn't count as moral argument :o)

[FirmSteam]

he's dumb then... as well as wrong

[Mishae]

Virginity is way overrated. Take it leave it put it on the shelf who the hell cares

[AndrewTroy]

@Mishae I'm with you. Sexual experience is a virtue, and it's the most underrated of all the virtues.

[Reflexy]

I think if theyre alright with it then its fine. Depends how much they value their virginity because i know some girls who have got to 16-17 and just want to lose it to get it out of the way.

[Anonymous]

It depends. I'd have to judge whether i thought they were having sex hoping for more, or really just wanting to begin to explore sex.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, almost the exact same thing nearly happened to me. The only reason that it didn't was because he met someone else who was nore experienced.

Sadly, I still think about him from time to time. Not so easy to forget when you care about someone...

[Anonymous]

I lost mine to just a one night encounter. Virginity really means nothing to me. It's just a word.

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity to my ex (at the time he was actually my ex) and I really loved him. I thought he loved me too, but after that he didn't even call. We talked about what happened a few months later and he apologized, saying that he feels bad and that that wasn't supposed to happen. The thing is that I broke up with him out of a really stupid reason. I was acting immature. And well that we had sex was not planned at all. But still he knew it was my first time and he still did it even thought he didn't want anything to do with me anymore... I don't know.. I think he just wasn't thinking straight at that moment.