Would you use a virgin girl for a hookup?

[Anonymous]

Imagine, you’re a player and cheater and don’t want a committed relationship but only a fling.
Why would you decline sex with her after she told she’s a virgin? What’s the responsibility men are afraid of? Is it a guilt that you’ll use her and ghost or some “principles” you can’t break?
IMPORTANT- the girl is extremely open to experiments, she won’t just lay in bed and she’s not shy and initiates a lot, you discuss BDSM and stuff you want to try, she won’t be clingy. You both want each other.

[Insaniacthemaniac]

Well i can imagine he's not a player, at least not as much as he seems in your head. What im saying is that if he chose not to sleep eith you then he's either just not attracted to you or he doesn't like taking girls viriginities, he may feel that he's looking out for your best interest by making you wait for that special someone. A virginity is sacrid to some people, maybe the guys just doing whats best for you. Hope this helps :)

Insaniacthemainac xD

[Asker]

Do you think he’d not left me that heartbroken and would love to be my first if he loved me?

[Insaniacthemaniac]

I'm not sure i understand the question?

[Asker]

I mean if he was aimed at serious relationship with me and loved me truly, would he be still afraid of taking my virginity or he’d be cheerful to be my first?

[Insaniacthemaniac]

Well its like i said i don't think he's much of a player if he didn't jump at the opportunity to sleep with you maybe he's not attracted to you? As for him considering a serious relationship I'd like to ask you, why would you want to get into a relationship with a player? It will not end well. Guys that are players aren't generally interested in anything serious. Thats why they call them players.

[Asker]

He’s interested in me enough to discuss things we both want to try, like bdsm, and other signals men likes a woman:) i don’t want a relationship with him, I clearly see his nature, I’m curious in general, do men who love truly their girlfriends want and happy to be their first?

[Berethor]

Not all players are totally evil, virgins are innocent unlike hos, so using them is an very evil act.

[Asker]

Why?

[Berethor]

Hookups are bad, virgins are innocent, hurting an innocent is bad, sluts are not innocent.

[Asker]

Do you think it’s a matter of respect from men to a virgin? And if he wanted to cheat on his wife with the virgin, but decided not to put her through this dirt, does it mean he respects and cares for the virgin more than he does for his wife?

[Berethor]

Even evil has standards trope, yes he consider hurting a virgin worse than hurting his wife.

[Asker]

Hilarious. Thank you for your help!

[Berethor]

Glad to help. :)

[Adititte]

I would tell her that i don't want something serious. If she is okay with that i wouldn't have a problem with takeing her virginity since she agreed that it won't be something long term

[Slingblade1126]

I wouldn't NOT hook up! If it's a clear understanding and she wants some fun with no strings, I would be a fool not to hook up. There are a lot of virgin girls on here that talk about finding someone just to hook up with. No pressure and just to see what it's like and grow from there. I think the guy would be under some pressure to make it enjoyable for her.

[Asker]

May you please explain me what he meant by saying he respects women too much not to do that to me despite I want it on these terms. Obv he wanted it too but he said his principles don’t let him to do that to me, because I’m a very good person and the way of mistress isn’t for me Please explain, is it because of guilt he’ll feel after using me and not giving fulfilling relationships?

[Slingblade1126]

It could be guilt, in a sense he wants your first time to be special and with someone you love. It could be ego. He would actually be under a lot of pressure to make it enjoyable for you. It's your first time, what if you didn't like it? He'll be responsible for that. It could also be doubt. You say "no strings", just a "hookup" but after it happens, you might or even he might want more and start to develop feelings. I would have to believe what he told you. That it's a matter of respect and it goes against his values... morals... or whatever. You seem like a sweet girl, so I would tend to believe he feels like he would possibly ruin that sweetness and innocence.

[Asker]

Do you think if he loved me he wouldn’t not leave me that broken and wouldn’t be afraid to be my first? Also he’s married (please don’t judge me), so does this gentleman act he decided not to cause me this pain means he respects me more than his wife, as he constantly search for girls to cheat with? Sounds crazy but looks like that to me

[lightbulb27]

I wouldn't be involved in that, but sounds like the guy got scared and reconsidered. Maybe it violated some value of his, who knows.

[spartan55]

Isn't that guy married anyway?

[Asker]

He is. But I want to understand his behaviour

[mrmonogamous]

I would never “hook up“. Sex is an intimate part of communication in a committed monogamous relationship. Besides, losing your virginity, happens once. That is something that should happen with a significant other, rather than some random person. At least that’s what I think. Anyone else?

[AviatorTom]

a woman's first time deserves more than a one-and-done hookup. She deserves at least the possibility of something meaningful.

[Asker]

Do you think he’d feel guilty after using her and not being able to have serious relationship?

[AviatorTom]

You described him as "a player and cheater". He probably doesn't feel any guilt... just do her and leave her... then do the next her.

[exitseven]

I always thought there was a lot more to a relationship than sex.

[FilmGuy93]

No chance.

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely not!!

[Asker]

Why?

[Jamie05rhs]

Because it's wrong.

[Wise4myage]

I would not use any girl for a hookup.