Would you wait to have sex until you're married? Why or why not?

[straightmax12]

[NamerOfStars]

No. Marriage is, to my mind, a lifelong commitment; making that before you know if you're sexually compatible is just asking for trouble. Now I'm not saying divorce should be illegal or anything like that, but it should be entered into with the good-faith intention of being together for life. To that end, you really need to be able to make an INFORMED decision.

[summiter]

I definitely did not as I wanted to experience sex with a lot of wonderful girls before marriage and ( IO always used condoms) and I have no regrets at all. I have a great sex life and am happily married.

[ushagomez]

No, most certainly not. People have different libidos. You need to find out whether you are sexually compatible before you commit yourself to a long-term relationship, such as marriage and having children. Also marriage comes much later in our lives than our sexual maturity.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe that if your love is healthy, you can wait cause it will not be based on or about sex and will not need to be expressed through sex.

[LazerBean]

Of course. Skip the emotional damage.

[straightmax12]

What emotional damage?

[LazerBean]

The emotional damage that causes most people to have poor judgment and have perpetual relationship failure.

[OfMiceandMen]

I kind of did LOL, married the girl I first had sex with that is.

[call_me_scar]

Nope as their no point to that plus do you really want your first time to be awkward, you won't know exactly what to do and what if your not exactly compatible and both parties are fighting to be on top

[Twalli]

I won't marry anyone I'm not already having sex with

[Fromdusktilldawn]

no, because I am not religious and its old outdated tradition

[straightmax12]

Not having sex before marriage is a religious thing?

[Fromdusktilldawn]

its a christian tradition, premarital sex is considered a sin by them and brings you to hell. Although marriage exists also in other tradition but you get what I mean. When marriage is not religious or traditional, it just an official contract, nothing else. These nonesense rules about premarital sex are just superstition and mostly from religion

[In_Trance]

I would not have

[straightmax12]

Why?

[In_Trance]

I see no benefit to waiting

[Pterodon]

Hell no. Because you have to know if you’re sexually compatible

[straightmax12]

What do you mean "sexually compatible "?

[Pterodon]

What if you find out you’re really shy and will only do it in one position under the covers with the lights off and she’s into bdsm with whips, chains and leather or she’s into swinging. Yeah that’ll work

[straightmax12]

So basically you and your loving the same thing sexually?

[Pterodon]

Exactly. My current girlfriend waited till marriage and 31 years later he decided he was gay and left. I asked her what the sex was like. She said awful but she didn’t know at the time because she’d never been with anyone else

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Pterodon

This is all an Internet thing. No one in the real world is dumb enough to buy a car before taking a test ride. (except maybe Biden, AOC, and that Emily who's in head of the grand jury)
I know a woman who waited. She went 20 years without an orgasm from her husband, because she said only whores needed an orgasm. 20 years down the shitter, because she was trying to please society and do the right thing. But society doesn't give a rat's ass about you. They just want you to be the same as them, because it makes them feel more secure about themselves.

I'll give you a perfect example of this: When guys on here call a woman a slut, it doesn't bother me that much, because they wouldn't want to marry one. But when women on here call a woman a slut, what's their excuse?

I'll tell you why they do it: They do it because they are bound by societal rules, and they're jealous that the slut is free from that bondage. Sluts are like the honey badger; they just don't give a shit. lol
www.youtube.com/watch

[Gummy_Cluster]

He said the thing about whores, not her.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I agree but the Catholic Church tells them they’re going to hell if they masturbate or fuck before marriage all the while priests are molesting altar boys

[Gummy_Cluster]

But the priests ask God for forgiveness, and of course, he does. lol Stupid people think that us conservatives are all bible thumpers. Not true. I don't own a bible, I don't believe int the bible, and I would never attend a church full of pit vipers. I believe in a higher power, but I don't claim to know what it is. But if you go out and observe nature, it makes you wonder how it all works. But scientists say there is no higher power, it's all because of a big bang theory that happened years ago. Yeah, that's way more believable. lol

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I’m very conservative and grew up in the Baptist church. I’m a preachers kid but I have nothing to do with the church today. I saw all the hypocrisy as a kid

[Gummy_Cluster]

I know of a guy who raped all five of his daughters. They're grown now, and are fucked up beyond belief. One daughter stopped eating, another daughter spent money like it grew on trees, and another daughter had 13 personalities. She told me that one of her personalities, hated me. It was a guy. She ended up killing herself. But their father sat in the front row of church, so that made up for destroying generations of lives.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I can believe it. My dad was a diagnosed sociopath. He was so charming and charismatic no one would believe me when I tried telling others his true colors. He was very abusive and cruel to me

[Gummy_Cluster]

Sociopaths are very intelligent and charming. Just look at the Ted Bundy story. He could charm the pants off a snake. He murdered around 30 women from all over the country. He ended up moving to Florida, and the psychologists believe he did that, because Florida had the death penalty. And he got it.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I know all about Bundy. Anytime I meet someone with a winning smile and is charming my defenses immediately go up and I tell the person to get away from me

[Gummy_Cluster]

He went to a university in my state, and I think that's when the killing began. Some people are born without a conscience. But the left wants to abolish prisons.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I know. He only confessed to that many. They’ve predicted his actual body count to be as high as 100

[Gummy_Cluster]

I think that's always the case with serial killers. And they probably can't even remember them all.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster especially in his case

[Gummy_Cluster]

You can Google a map of the "Green River" murderer. It shows lots of locations, but I bet that's a smal portion.

[Pterodon]

@Gummy_Cluster I think it is too. He had his favorite hunting grounds where the hookers hung out

[Gummy_Cluster]

I think in those stories, the mother of the killer was a hooker. I don't know why else they would hate hookers that much.

[QuietRunner]

no sex before marriage

[Amur8711]

I would if thats what she wants to do. If she wants it before then okay, but I would have to be serious about her that Marriage is definitely in the future.