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If a woman enjoys being submissive, or views her man being dominant as a turn-on, that basically means she wants to be raped, right?
Wrong. Very wrong.
Submissivenesss- When an individual allows their lover to take control in bed. The feeling of willingly submitting to the control of someone you care for or are engaging in an intimate act with is found to be thrilling by those who choose to engage in such a role.
Rape- Intercourse that occurs without consent being given. In other words, when someone forces themselves upon you when you're resisting or not being a willing participant. You lack the power or ability to stop the situation.
There's a huge difference between someone forcing themselves onto you as you resist by either saying no or physically trying to push them away and submission.
Dominance/submission or BDSM is a pretty popular fetish; moreso after 50 Shades of Grey gained a following. Rape-play in BDSM is carried out by a submissive and a dominant, often a couple who engage in this type of role-play willingly. Establishes boundaries for themselves, sets safe-words to be used should either party be pushed out of their comfort zone and wish to end activities. Hands may be used on an individual's neck or to pin them down as a sign of their partner having power over their pleasure, not having their body and entire being at someone else's disposal.
If you are raped, you don't have the luxury of a 'safe word'. Something to safely get you out of harm's way, out of having to participate in granting sexual pleasure to the rapist at your expense. The psychological trauma of your body having been used by someone for this very purpose, then left as if you were completely worthless can psychologically scar an individual for life. There's no glory or glamour in being used as a piece of meat to unwillingly fulfill someone's selfish desires.
A true Dom/Domme doesn’t rape. That is called a rapist. A Dom/Domme is someone who exerts power/pain/punishment/discipline/etc. over a WILLING submissive partner.
This is for the physical/sexual pleasure of both partners.
What Girls & Guys Said
5 19Thank you. There is a world of difference to wanting to be dominated by a guy with whom you have CONSENTED to having sex with, and having sex forced on you by someone you have not consented to have sex with.
Regarding the consensual fantasy, I have never understood why chains and handcuffs are part of many women's sub fantasies. For me, the reason I like being dominated is that I get off on knowing that there is a huge disparity in physical strength between me and the guy I am sleeping with. If I am being held down with handcuffs, that's the handcuffs restraining me, not him, so it just really doesn't do it for me in the slightest.
But anyway that's just to point out that my own sub preferences do not stem from wanting to have violence inflicted on me, I just find it hot if a guy can hold me down during sex.
You are right of course, but that really goes without saying.
No one in their right mind doesn't know what rape is.