Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So this Take arrives after having a conversation with some of my buddies this afternoon, and thought I should share it. The message is not unheard of, and you actually can find quite a lot about it on YouTube if you really care to, but I feel like bringing in some more to the GaG male community. So I’ll just cut to the chase here.
One of the things guys don’t understand and what they really need to is that you do not always have to say yes just because it is available, it is being offered to you, or because she’s good-looking and is showing interest in you. You can and you do have the ability to say no when you want to.
On the one hand I do understand that it can be difficult for most men to realize this because our culture teaches men that they “don’t have as many options” as women and that men can’t get sex as regularly as women, so it causes them to feel like they need to take what they can when it comes along, especially if it’s free. Women also play an enormous part in this mental conditioning and manipulation even though they claim they don’t: first they will brag about how they can get laid easier than guys whenever they want - and some even gladly tell us their stories of how it happens - but then, they will get upset if guys are actually doing the same thing, or get upset that a guy is so focused on trying to do it, yet it’s okay if she does it. If you want to understand more of what I mean, you can read about it in my old Take How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men . So when guys have all this toxic slime being fed to them with all these messages in our culture, it does make them feel like they should go for any opportunity at a fuck that presents itself. And you don’t have to.
The blood rush
I also understand that it can be very difficult when sex is offered to you as a man because all kinds of hormones and sensations go pulsing through your blood, your brain, and your pelvis when a female has actually consented to wanting to sleep with you, or is the one asking if you want to go back to her place. Literally! When that kind of thing is a big time green light for a guy, it can be very difficult and very crippling to want to turn that down. But guess what: you still can.
And I do understand how difficult that can be for the guys who are virgins. When an open opportunity for sex has finally come along for them, they want to take it and be glad to say they’re not a virgin anymore. That kind of thought is always desirable, I get that. But it’s not always noble to say yes to it either. Especially if it follows with you getting a disease, getting fired, or getting met by her boyfriend or husband that she may or may not have told you about.
Women get turned on by guys who aren't trying
My point with this message is that although a fuck can be great with a girl who is into you and the opportunity is great - and believe me I’ve done it, it doesn’t always have to happen, and shouldn’t. Instant sex can get you into trouble, or give a woman leverage over you, and many often will use it that way and have done it for ages.
In truth, men should not be easily saying yes to offered sex. They should be attracting it. And how do you do that? By not being eager. Women are oddly (and sometimes foolishly) attracted to men pushing them away. They are actually more turned on by men who aren’t that quick to fuck them. It makes them start wondering, “Wowwww, so he must want something or someone else more. What does he want more??????????” You become mysterious!
But it also really fucks with their psychology. Because women of today want all the power and control in being able to attract and choose a man. And they want this because they know that an enormous percentage of the modern male population - especially in their 20s - are beta simps who bow down and worship the prettiest things they see. They’re all the goofy pathetic dudes you see giving the same old goofy comments on Instagram to some girl’s picture - “You’re so beautiful (heart eyes)” blah blah blah.
Women of today know that men try hard to win them. They sit with them at lunch time trying to appeal to her. They cling to her by walking with her around the workplace or on campus, as if they’re terrified she’ll get another dude’s attention. And when they get her number they’re constantly texting her. Not realizing that all this actually makes the women bored. But also is how they end up having the control. So many women get used to this, and have become drunk off of it. And expect it. It means that any time they’re ready to have extra money or a quick fuck, there’s a guy there willing to give it.
You give women all the power
And this is why so many women of today walk around acting snobby and pretending that they don’t want guys to talk to them, when they are actually hoping you will so they can brush you off, which builds up their ego. They actually want you to keep trying, and they want to be able to brag to their girlfriends and everyone else about all the guys they’re not interested in but who are interested in them.
Having said all this, you need to be the guy who doesn’t regard them and doesn’t want to fuck them, even if they are game. But watch out: some will want you for it, but you shouldn’t want any woman back who is like that at all. They’re simpletons. Don’t let them have control. Others will actually hate you for not glorifying them. I know this is the case for me, and I love that they hate me for not bowing down. In truth, women hate it when you as a man can actually see that you will not give them attention and glorify them on a pedestal like other simps do, because you're not giving in to their expectations, and because you can see their bullshit. If a man can read women very well and has learned from his experiences, that frightens them, because it means there's no trick from them that you can't figure out. You're smart. You're intelligent. And you're also strong enough not to be bent by manipulative behaviors.
Most guys don’t realize it, but women who really do go out and get laid easy actually see those guys as bitches. It wasn’t too hard to nail him and get the one and done. So they see you as weak, and move on to the next. This is how you have a lot of women who hook up and then ghost guys when the guys start catching feelings, not seeing how as women they're just as worthless to live a life of getting sex like that.
Regardless, you can still do better by not being one of those guys. Do things the traditional way: meet women, form concrete connections, then friendships, and if it’s really going well then you can spear her through the hips. Otherwise, it actually is not necessary to just jump at any opportunity to sleep with a woman simply because it’s available. And you don't have to let your friends teach you to do it either.
#dontjumpatsex
What Girls & Guys Said
19 69Nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, makes a women more angry then when a man turns them down.
Hell hath no fury!
Facts.
I always jerked off twice before dates so I wouldn't be a fool and end up with a life full of regrets. Smart men don't screw until they know what she's about. That's low tier and while I'm not a Virgin I've only had 2:sexilual partners and shot downany over the years. I wish I still had my V card tbh
"Smart men don't screw until they know what she's about." - Very accurate. I never fuck until I can gauge her and I know she's safe. When I hooked up with the last girl, I was the one who talked her into it and she felt okay with me and was safe showing me her body that she said she never felt good about. Her body wasn't beautiful, but I didn’t care because her personality excited me much more.
It's fine. We've been sold so much garbage about looks and money defining the two genders. I started falling for a girl who imho was on the knifes edge of being a 5 in looks. But her personality and selflessness towards me turned her into a 10. Personality will always trump looks on the end. You will start looking damn fine if you have a kind heart. At least to me.
Right! That is exactly how I got so sexually attracted to her for the same reasons.
Women are losing their touch and m m are losing their spine. This just hurts us all
*men
Very true
But, I WOULD, if they'd EVER ask me!!
Incredible take.
Only few points I find disagreeable but they are very well presented, and overall I find this perspective unique.
About the disagreement part... Not all women play games of plucking rose petals thinking "does he like me or does he not". Nope. Man or woman, if you're interested please make it clear. Assertiveness and desperateness are different things. The alpha guide basically encourages guys into douche bag mode. The most you can do is have control on certain relationship decisions and feel more desired or even go through a series of one night stand by being mysterious stranger... But nothing more than that.
Guys who don't want sex do not excite women. At some point, they question if you're gay or asexual and in both cases, lots of women might respect your sexuality but chemistry is necessary both in terms of emotions and in bedroom.
Guys who don't want immediate sex with a woman who believes he does are what excites them. Not guys who don't want sex period.
With that you're implying no woman wants immediate sex which is not true.
Wrong. I'm saying that women who don't want immediate sex are impressed by men who are not trying to get immediate sex from her.
All right
I can understand that. Not all men are just after sex. Sex is not love.
@gag2021 True. I mean, not every guy out there is single. Men in relationships are more likely to say no than bachelors simply 'cuz they have something to lose, especially in a healthy, happy relationship whether they're a husband, boyfriend or fiancé. This dynamic doesn't change for most women in healthy relationships as well. One-night stands aren't representative of one gender or another. Man or woman, the definition's the same for both participants.
"Spear her through the hips." 🤣 love the word play
I agree with all of this, when it's easily attained, the thrill isn't there any more.
I'd enjoy the reward more if it's something I had to work for
I actually even made my own self horny when I wrote that part😂
I have never had any woman approach me wanting sex so it has not been a consideration.
If I was approached by a random woman I would refuse. I would want to have a relationship with and an interest in her first.
I just passed on baby mama drama this past weekend. She was hot as fire. But so are the pits of hell she was gonna throw me in to
Most guys will say yes to sex they are guys, If he saids no to sex he's a gentleman not some guy that wants to to be every tom and Jerry.
Yes, yes I must say yes, say yes to say yes, but what? Your mother smells of Elderberries, well pish posh.
What a bunch of hoo-haw.
I love how you have such strong opinions on the way women think and what is actually going on inside their heads lol
Lol.
Men deserve sex
I agree they totally deserve it
@PrettyPriyaHanma everything in this life must be earned. So go earn that P***y you want so bad.
@t-8900 no earning things are for suckers like you and @subarugirl who get robbed by people like me 😂
@Rachel420Hanma nah people like you tried that before. When i pointed a gun to their face they gave up pretty fast. :3
@rachelspiks @nicolettexo
@t-8900 every house is treasure chest
@Rachel420Hanma because you are a nasty self centred troll of the worst type. You are abusive, a stain on humanity. It’s not just us either, Mods are and Admin.
@BetaCuckLordHanmaXO what TF is wrong with you?
@NicoletteXO Seems to be having conversations with his nuked accounts. 🤷♀️
@nicolettexo I think when Admin pulled the legs of its last account, it lost a few marbles or straw,
@ChrisMaster69 Oh man it's too early for this
@subarugirl I've brewed enough coffee for 4. Pop a squat while i go make some eggs! ^^
@t-8900 yeah I need some caffeine, ooh ill make apple cinnamon muffins. We'll make it a brunch.
@subarugirl sounds good. You okay with me going half and half on the Colombian and French Roast? Gives it a unique body. Not too mellow, not too bold. Oh and Whole milk or Creamer? I usually just go black.
@t-8900 mmm sounds good! I'll take it black
@subarugirl i got you! ^^
@PrettyPriyaHanma What the hell? You've taken someone else's name for one of your fake accounts?
@BetaCuckLordHanmaXO "... don't get no..."? That's a double negative you MORON!
@Rachelspiks yep, yea he has. Because his accounts keep getting banned
@NicoletteXO Everything is wrong with that creepy loser.
@subarugirl @rachelspiks I prefer the term “nuked”. Just had a nice ring to it.
@subarugirl 😱😱😱😱 his accounts get banned, how is that happening, shocking
@ChrisMaster69 right? I’m shocked lol
@ChrisMaster69 😶🤐 Have no clue how?
Oh yea, because you know us women!! We totally want to spend our time chasing a dude who doesn't want us. It's not like women who are "into men who hate them" is totally hinting at something completely different than "girls like rude dudes". I hate that whole thing so much 😒
I've turned down a lot of b-tches lately, they all seem to be overweight in America.
If you travel all around the world, most women are skinny and very feminine. What happened AMERICA?
Bruh, why would you have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with? Can you even get it up for that? Sounds like a waste of life.
If you are physically attracted to her go for it but don't make it anything more than having s*x with her and that's the problem men need to understand if you want to do every women go for it but don't take them all or a majority seriously just treat it as a transaction.
Awesome read! Thank you for sharing that. You saved me from posting nearly exact same thing. Only thing I would like to add, is I don't believe it's an issue of being difficult to say no as it is to not having many options. Once you can build a solid roster of women, it's a lot easily then people think to say no. I was fortunate to figure this out about 12 years ago, and it has had the exact desired effect that you mentioned in your article. Also if you've ever wondered what a furious woman looks like, turn down a woman that is offering to have sex with you. Look forward to more terrific content from you.
You bring up some strong points. It's like you said by rejecting them, they'd want you more. Some women may take that as playing hard to get, so if a guy really wants nothing to do with a girl romantically, it has to be communicated with no ambiguity. Same with girls to guys.
I know but I want to... What guy gets offered sex from random girls anyway? That's never happened to me
You have women that are daring and women that are not. It'll happen to you soon and you'll be surprised at how subtle or direct it is.
@CallmeTheKnight I don't think I go out enough for that to happen. The most I go out is 2 hours a week max... And when I do it's usually jus to the skatepark or to the shop... And no girls ever jus stop me on the way to the shop to ask for sex... Wish they did tho... That's a world o wanna live in... I need to hang out with you more
Facts. When you reach a certain point in your life, woman will be a lot more open to wanting to get to know you and of course, hooking up with you. They think by virtue of being a woman and you being a man that they can get you. But the kicker is, if they have bad habits you don't like then some might expect you to just look past it because "haha pussy feel good". Wrong. Of course, that doesn't mean you reject her in cold blood (unless you're just a sociopath) but you simply don't pursue her and keep amicable relations. If she can't deal then alright. I'm someone who is personable and likes to talk with people so just because I dont want to fuck you doesn't mean I see zero value in you.
With that said I've never seen a woman I've rejected handle it well. In fact, they keep trying. It's kind of ironic.
EDIT: I want to edit the first sentence of "when you reach a certain point in your life" and wanted to change it to "when you reach a certain level in your life". Physical attractiveness, confidence, money, career/ambitions, etc...
yes, it good mytake. this why I want a virgin men. i don't find sex importment at all.