Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Introduction
South Park wasn’t lying when they said that you give a blowjob with your heart. Blowjobs are a selfless act to show another person you care about them. The fact that they’re a sexual act allows people to dismiss those who celebrate them as perverts. But surprisingly, a person’s attitude towards blowjobs may have serious implications for a relationship.
Blowjobs are Plentiful
A big advantage of monogamy is sexual availability: being able to “play” with your partner more often than someone single. The major disadvantage, however, is that your partner has almost complete control over what sexual experiences you have. If your partner doesn’t want to do something with you sexually, then you’re out of luck. Your only options are to cheat or break up in order to get the sexual experiences you desire. Obviously, regularly considering cheating or breaking up with somebody isn’t ideal for relationship stability. Moreover, any guy would dread committing to a woman like that. Most guys would hate to marry a woman who balked at the prospect of fellatio. No man wants to have to beg every time he gets turned on. No man wants to be sexually frustrated until death do you part.
Blowjobs are Selfless
The thing that distinguishes oral sex from other types of sex is that the giver receives no physical pleasure from performing it. As a result, a lot of guys use a woman’s willingness to perform oral sex as a proxy for selflessness. In other words, a woman’s desire to give a guy head is superimposed into different contexts. For instance, if I’m running late to an event and you have time, would you pick up the refreshments for me? If you laughed in my face about giving me head, then probably not. If you’re unwilling to quell the bodily urges of someone you claim to adore, then you probably wouldn’t do mundane tasks for me if needed. Moreover, a lot of guys will be less willing to be selfless in return, generally speaking. For example, do you need a companion to your friend’s wedding far away? If you regularly balk at giving this guy a blowjob, he’s probably not going to go. If he decides to go, then he’s going to have a sour attitude the whole time. If you go down on him with enthusiasm, then he’s probably going to be eager to please you in a selfless fashion in the future. He’ll be begging to hold your purse. We’ll be more anxious to reciprocate your kindness inside of the bedroom outside of the bedroom. Give him a surprise blowjob and see what happens. Answer: only good things.
Conclusion
This isn’t to say that you should be anxious to give more head to random guys. It also isn't to say that you should feel compelled to give head on-demand. If you feel close to a man, however, and are committed to him, then balking at fellatio is counterproductive to your end goal. If you want him to be committed to you and be anxious to please you indefinitely, then be anxious to please him for ten minutes (if that). If you’re unwilling to please him for ten minutes, then a lifetime of him trying to please you is definitely out of the question. Men’s love for blowjobs is much deeper than physical pleasure: even South Park knows.
Reference
South Park season 15, episode 11: "Broadway Bro Down"
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