Your kinks are yours, so please stop telling me about it.

Thats a big ol oooof
That's a big ol oooof


#SexPositive Culture: Isn't it wonderful? Well yes, it is nice to live in a society where we are open about sex, abortion, sexuality and other basic things about human sexuality. In America especially, sex positive culture is new and blatantly rejected by certain groups of people. I will say, t's nice to be able to be candid with people more experienced so you aren't learning everything by trial and error. The horror of life before sex positive culture lead to many back alley abortions, superstitions and the female orgasm being a myth for a very long time.

You know what sucks though? People have begun to confuse sex positive culture with kink culture and it's just uncomfortable. I know, I just said it was awesome, but like most great things, the consequences are just are terrible. It's uncomfortable seeing people on leashes and being expected to understand. I'm so sick of ''#kink culture" being labeled as "sex positive", they are two totally separate things, and I shouldn't be forced to stare at something that gives you sexual gratification. It's rude, unpleasant and quite frankly, it's inconsiderate.

OMG WHO CARES?!?
OMG WHO CARES?!?

Before the kinksters are in calling me vanilla and telling me I choose to have a boring sex life, let me just say something: I don't, but my sex life is none of your business. Why? Because I don't need to force my way of life on you, at all. I don't think what I'm into sexually has to be publicized, and if I want it to be, I'll go to a kink convention where it is appropriate. Stop using the sex positive culture we are trying to cultivate as a reason to have public sex or force people to understand your sexual fantasies. Please, I beg you and your dirty little partner to just keep it to yourself.

Also, quit trying to equate people not wanting to see your kinks to some sort of discrimination. No one is going to tell you that you can't get Medicaid because you're into #BDSM, or #DDLG or whatever you want to do in your PERSONAL BEDROOM. How can you not see that is it unacceptable. It's not even remotely the same as a mixed race couple or a gay couple holding hands, love isn't a kink it's an emotion. You wanted to be dragged around on a collar isn't something that people have to accept, or that most people want to see. It's your personal business, and if you want to make it public, there's a craigslist section for that.

Imagine that!
Imagine that!

I get it, having sex in public is fun and exciting, but it's also disgusting. Calm yourself and have some respect for your fellow man. People shouldn't have to be exposed to your perversions just because you think it's okay. I hate wearing shirts, but do I walk around with my boobs hanging out? No, because it makes people uncomfortable and it isn't going to kill me if I don't. It's not the same as racial discrimination or homophobia because people can't change their race or their actual sexuality. You weren't born with a collar on, so we don't need to see you with one on.

To sum this up: your kink is your pleasure, not the rest of the worlds. If you are on a platform like FetLife or something, feel free to share it there. Don't just assume the rest of the world has to be okay with them, especially when kids are present. Your kinks aren't a personality trait, they are sexual desires that should only be shared with people who want to hear them. Please, keep them in that circle, and that circle only.

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  • I like this, I grew up in a sex positive country, where I knew about sex toys when I was six years old, was educated about sex at an early age and knew my own kinks when I was about 12 because I had access to tons of books and was able to have some good conversations with adults about sexual relationships.

    I enjoy this about Germany, people are blunt, open, honest and direct. But at the same time, most know that unless they're asked, they should keep their mouth shut.
    I hate it when girls my age tell their followers how they're into DDLG, it's ridiculous and gross.
    Thanks for writing this, kinks really have nothing to do with sex positivity, and should be in a separate box entirely.

    • Really glad you enjoyed it!

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  • Most people spent most of their lives not being able to talk about it, and now they can. It's not a big deal. You don't have to talk about it, but here you are, talking about it.

    Just accept that some people are open sexually and talk about it, move on if you don't like it.

  • There is a lot of closed minded people out there along with to he judgmental don't help

  • Well sex is fine unless you're not hurting each other

  • Ha ha ha! And there are those who would shame me for not sharing their kinks (like oral sex)!

  • 😂😂 it is the sexuality tab after all.

    • hhahaaha I know, I meant when in public!

    • Ooohhhhh 😂😂

  • 🇺🇸🇺🇸🏴‍☠️🇺🇸🇺🇸😎

  • I agree. Just because you do it doesn't mean I want to hear about it or have to be accepting. To each their own

    • exactly! I don't care what people do, I just don't need to hear about it.

  • Sex questions and discussion overrated.
    You just need to mention sex in your question or opinion and you will see likes and comments flowing in your post