Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
We all have fond memories. Maybe you had a very specific childhood memory that makes you smile from time to time. Maybe you had a favorite TV show that was cancelled, and you can't help to watch it years later when you find out that you can now watch it on Netflix. Maybe you had a pet back in the day that brought you a lot of joy, and even though the pet is long gone, you still cherish those memories if your pet. Fact of the matter is, we all memories that remember. Those memories shape and influence us, making us the person we are today. Sex can even shape the way we think about relationships and other people, and this is what this Take is about.
Our society has a long way in the past century. Back in the day, everyone was sexually repressed, and it was taboo to talk about sex in public. It was especially harder for women, because they weren't allowed to have sexual thoughts or be promiscuous in anyway. However, society has changed greatly over the last century.Think about it. With the introduction of technology, we now have instant access to sex, and it is easily accessible to anyone of any age now. People are having more sex, more partners and it is putting a strain on relationships.
In one article I recently read online, this 22 year old woman discussed how she had 5 sex partners in the past and the sex was good with all of them. However, after meeting a man online and having sex with him, her sexual preferences changed.
The guy she met online had the penis of a porn star, and he was really well endowed. She talked about how the sex was with him, how incredible it was and how satisfying it was taking a ride on a huge penis. She mentioned how she and the guy hooked up 20 something times and each time was incredible. They eventually stopped hooking up when she met a new man she fell in love with.
This woman went onto say that this new man was everything she ever wanted in a man. The guy was college educated, he owned his own business, he was very kind to her, expanded her horizons about the world around her and was very caring and affectionate towards her. While she was happy with him, she said that her sex life was terrible.
The guy she was dating was not as endowed as the previous guy she was hooking up with. In her mind, the man with the big penis was a much more satisfying sexual partner than her boyfriend. The guy with the big penis hit all the right spots, knew how to make her cum, knew how to satisfy her and she always thought very fondly of those memories. This made her feel that the sex she was having with her boyfriend wasn't as good as the sex she previously had. She just wasn't satisfied with her sex life.
This is a real issue in a lot of relationships, and it is damaging. We live in a society today where promiscuity is largely accepted, but at what cost? When we have sex with a lot of people, it shapes our sexual experiences. Sex allows us to form memories. Sex allows to become experienced and learn our bodies. However, at the same time, sex can ruin relationships.
A lot of men and women, find it hard to let go of good sex experiences. Admit it, you remember very fondly your best sexual experience. You remember how you felt in the moment. You remember the location. You may even remember all the positions you tried. You remember all the joy you felt when you had the best sex of your life and you remember the person. When people move on in life, get into loving relationships and start having sex with their partner, the sex isn't always going to be that great because you are still hung up on your best sexual encounter and you expect your partner to live up to that experience. This kind of thinking can damage a great relationship.
I am actually writing this Take, because this has happened to me as well. I am currently dating a girl who has had quite a bit of sex partners, but she is still hung up on her sexual experience that happened months before she met me.
Every time my girlfriend and I have sex, she never seems satisfied. I asked her to tell me what was wrong, and she told me she was not satisfied with our sex and that she was disappointed. She then explained to me a sexual experience she had months before she met. She told me she had a random hook up with a guy and she brought him back to her apartment. She told me that they had sex for hours.
She said that when the guy came over, they foreplayed a lot, kissed a lot, then he pulled out a condom and they had sex and he was able to make her cum. They would then take a break and go at it again and she was able to make her cum again. Then, after a few sessions of this, he took off his condom and started fucking her raw and she came faster. She said they did many different positions, he knew how to handle her and she loved every minute of it.
As my girlfriend told me about this one night stand, she started telling me about what she likes, what she doesn't like, etc. As a result, we have been practicing sex, but I have lost my confidence in the bedroom. It sucks to know that she is really hung up on this sexual experience and that I may never compare to that guy.
The take away message is this: It doesn't matter if you are a man or woman. We all will be sexual in our lives, we will all have various sex partners and we will all have fond memories of the best sex we ever had. However, you cannot let your best sex determine the sex you are going to have with your next partner. You cannot compare your best sex with your current partner. You cannot expect your current partner to be a sexual expert like the best person you had sex with. Even though sex is important in a relationship, people are not going to know your body right away and it takes time to learn. If you are going to compare your partner to a previous "best sex" partner and if you keep reminiscing about having that best sex session, you are hurting your relationship with your partner.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 32This take said everything that needs to be said.
Great take sir. I would drop any female that would compare me to anyone from her past life. That's why I only go for those who are worth it (which would be 2 sexual partners or less).
I would expect women to always think like this but majority of them keep stating "past is past" n stuff like that. which in return they get cheated on, still wouldn't change their minds up. Its pathetic that people will actually still defend these disgusting actions.
Like why are they proud of rubbing naked genitals with many people? why to they think its "freedom"... its just... gross..
Great take all in all. I really want everyone to see this take and actually understand enough to overlap their ignorance
Girl: your dick was small, and you came fast
Me: I still fucked tho 😎
Interesting mytake!