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Lets Talk About Anal... #FemalePerspective #Anal

This was requested by a friend, I thought this would be a great opportunity to make an ass out of myself for the online community to benefit others, as well as, to make it quicker to reference to my own advise as this answers multiple questions. I promote safe sex!

** Disclaimer: I do not speak for all men and women. and uh- speak with your doctor for personalized medical advisement?**

Lets Talk About Anal... #FemalePerspective #Anal

1) Why do most women hate/fear anal?

a) Not all men know how to correctly give anal and hurt the woman, which ultimately ruins it for her.

b) It has a "porn star" stigma.

c) STD's and pink sock strikes fear into many.

d) Fears of poo poo accidents.

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2) How could you correctly give anal?

a) If you are starting off going straight in for anal:

First, ask for permission. It requires patience, a lot of lube, slow/wet probing and a butt plug helps to relax and widen beyond the size of fingers.

b) If you want to have anal during sex:

First, ask for permission for anal (specifically). Now this version requires less patience depending on how pre-relaxed and aroused your partner is. Slab a lot of lube, spit, natural juices all over and really pay attention to the asshole and cheeks WHILE fucking the cunt, sucking a tit and flicking a clit with your other hand. All this stimulation are basic "warm-ups" and don't make the asshole the main focus, your girl will be warmed up and full of sensations that will relax her body enough to open up. You will feel it in her vagina as it loosens with arousal and in her ass as you keep your finger rubbing AT the entrance of her asshole and not probing inside (unless asked ofc). I'd advise to avoid: talking about switching to anal, as well as, slow dick insertion, because the fear or insecurity/attention can cause a person to tighten up and lose all your hard work. Dirty talking about all the things you feel and want to do to her will definitely help (unless you don't know how, but then if you didn't know how... I don't think you have enough experience to correctly give anal. )

When ya girl is really aroused, flip her around to doggy and continue giving her cunt the attention it needs. But now you fully expose her asshole to you and this allows you a good viewpoint. You will be able to see when her asshole is relaxed and be able to help keep it lubed and possibly lap it up. When she feels and sounds ready, you just shove your dick right in and just go for it till you are fucking her off the side of the bed. Now if she a noob to anal (and on birth control), take your free cum ticket and cum in her ass before she knows how shitty it is. It will be the best experience for both in the moment. The cum filling the asshole in that moment is a very sensitive moment for both. Enjoy!

- do not switch from anal into vaginal-

Lets Talk About Anal... #FemalePerspective #Anal

3) What is the difference between a vaginal and anal orgasm?

Vaginal orgasm:

A vaginal orgasm is a long and slow build of pressure and sensation. The vagina clenches and pulses. The release is quick, relieving and relaxing.

Anal orgasm:

An anal orgasm is a quick and instantaneous explosion of raw pulsing and intense waves of just orgasm after orgasm- basically a longer lasting huge orgasm that just blows your mind and then a wild and very noticeable sense of release.

Lets Talk About Anal... #FemalePerspective #Anal

4) The honest truth about why cum in the asshole sucks:

a) It feels like you have the wet shits afterwards.

b) Who knows if you got it all out the first time... The shits feeling can last a little longer than expected. All that comes out is little spurts of cum. grats.

Lets Talk About Anal... #FemalePerspective #Anal

5) How to better prepare for anal:

a) Butt plugs in multiple sizes. (sharpie, toothbrush and hairbrush handle work for beginners)

b) Colon cleaning methods: (not recommended regularly due to health effects)

- bowel-clearing laxatives, powders or supplements

- colonic irrigation or colon hydrotherapy

c) Shower before and after.

d) Practice eating out ass.

e) Enjoy watching some anal porn.

f) Find a new texture you enjoy.

g) practice having sex with a larger size butt plug inserted each time.

h) If guys really want to understand the sensitivity of anal, they should masturbate while doing it to themselves in order to really understand the joys and the pains of anal.

<3 I hope this helped open up some minds to it, it truly is enjoyable. I'd advise not to do it too much, but it definitely is an experience worth trying at least once! (if done right and properly prepared). <3

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  • 1. Not spit or juices. Proper sex lube. Spit and "juices" dry too quickly for most anal, plus, the act of repeatedly dipping fingers into the vulva to smear juices around the anus introduces infectious germs to the vagina and urethral area.
    2. Colon cleaning? NO laxatives. Laxative are for people who need medical treatment of constipation. They are not for preparing for sex. Some people use an enema occasionally. Using them frequently is bad for health, but for most people, none of this is necessary. Just good bowel habits, making sure the rectum is empty and the anus has been washed of any debris are usually all anyone needs.
    3. The key to anal comfort is not stretching or widening, but learning how to consciously control the second (internal) sphincter. The easiest way to control it is to bear down like attempting to make a poo, and it will open naturally.

    You've got a lot here. Good work. You hit most of the major points.

    The only thing I always add is going back and forth between the anus and the vagina, either fluids mixing back and forth, or finger or penis going back into the vagina after being in the anus, gets feces into the vagina which causes infection. Once you move to the ass, stay with the ass until everyone has had a hot shower with soap.

    • 1. lol I promise I said, "Slab a lot of lube, spit, natural juices all over " combo. BUT you are right about it requiring specific and separate acknowledgement so thank you for pointing that out! 2. For all colon cleaning I made sure to say, "(not recommended regularly due to health effects)". I did not know about Enema. I should've mentioned good bowel movements. Again, thank you! These are fucking really good points I should've brought separate attention to. 3. I honestly did not know about the anatomy part. Again, excellent points! Thank you for reading and helping to inform everyone, including myself! <3

    • 1. About the lube, it's better an oil based lube, cause water based lube dries too fast. 2. Yeah laxatives are bad idea, also enemas are safe if you do them once or twice per week, after all nobody does anal sex very often. 3. Yup, it will take practice for begginers because it's the reverse, you push something inside not outside.

    • @CaptainLegal An oil based lube may NOT be better. Most men will want to use a condom when introducing their penis into a rectum, to keep fecal germs out of his urethra. In that case, oil-based lubes would be a problem. SILICONE based seem to work very well for anal play, but is still condom safe.

      Get Wet! The Ins and Outs of Good Sex Lube ↗

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  • A few more things...
    It's not for casual encounters - far better for committed couples.
    It's not for everyone. If you don't like it don't do it.
    It can be messy.

    And...
    About 75% of couples try this at some point.
    About 35% of women will tolerate it occasionally.
    About 10-15% of women like it and do it regularly - huge O's reported.
    About 50% of guys like it, the other half think it's gross.

    So there ya have it. If you're lucky to find one that likes it you're in hershey-heaven!! LOL

    And if ya got a huge dick yer never gettin' butt-sex. :)

    • Thank you for sharing this important information! Hershey heaven for some, not all, got it! lolol

    • Yeah, the 'wet shits' suck, eh? Just don't wear white pants. AKA squirts. You can always ask him not to come in there. ;)

    • Don't say never. It is about relaxation and expanding the anus.

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  • I love anal. A bunch of lube makes the big difference ❤️

    • Good girl.

    • @alexandra_ have u ever had an orgasm from it?

    • Watching her fart out the lube and cum after? Priceless!

  • I always feel awkward talking about it because I swear to god I’m the only one of my friends that has done it.
    I think people make it out to be this big ordeal with a lot of preparation. In all honest I barely remember the first time I did anal, I was drunk and agreed to it because my boyfriend had really wanted to do it for a while and I guess I was cool with it lol.
    In all honesty it didn’t even hurt the first time because I was so drunk and relaxed. And he knew how to use lube, you have to have to use lube. But I remember after a while telling him to stop because it got really unfomfortable. All in all it was kind of fun and funny at the same time. I was just so surprised I agreed lol.
    But after that I have done it quite a few times because I love my boyfriend and every once in a while he’ll feel like doing it. I remember at first it hurt like hell and I hated it with a passion and it was ungodly uncomfortable. Like I knew I would survive but it was just not fun lol. I’ve never had any messy incidents or anything like surprisingly. Not once lol.
    Which is very strange, but I guess I literally am so terrified at that thought that my body just makes sure it doesn’t happen no matter what. As you keep doing it, it gets easier. But in all honesty I haven’t done it that much and it still hurts. But it’s bearable kind of now lol. I didn’t do any preparing of any kind which is probably not a good thing, but oh well.
    I think if you are planning on doing it a lot or a full long session of it, you are going to have to. The process I go through is pretty short because I don’t want it to go on much longer in all honesty. It’s not weird, gross or disgusting. It’s just anal lol. Like some people are a bit weird over it, I was one of those people believe it or not. But once you do it, your realize that it’s literally nothing too special and as long as you do it right nothing bad happens. I guess it’s just taboo is all.

    • Yea, it's definitely a taboo! It's interesting that you say you are used to it but never describe the orgasms that you get from it. DO you get orgasms from it or are you literally just doing it for your boyfriend and don't have any orgasms? I feel like after I orgasms from anal, then it starts getting uncomfortable, but the minute of insertion just has enough of a slide and slight enough pain combo that just pushes me over the edge and has my body full on orgasming because of it. Best orgasm to me.

    • I'll tell you something. I am 50. Had sex with maybe a 150 girls. Out of that, anal sex with maybe a 100 girls. I'm sure 90% of the other 50 have done it at least once. Out of the 100 girls, I would say more than half loved it, some did it to please me but we're more or less indifferent and maybe 2 did not enjoy it (maybe the first five). That gives you perspective when you say you are the only of your friend to do it. No way.

  • personally i dont like anal cuz it just feels like im taking a shit that truly will never come out and just keeps getting sucked in, if he goes down far enough it starts to feel good, but if i had a choice i wouldn't do it. if my nigga wanted to do it though than why not? sex is about compromise and pleasure, the ass is tighter than the pussy anyways so you gotta do what you gotta do lmaooo. ;)

    • How many times have you tried anal? That "taking a shit" feeling is what I love about it lol. I had my 1st anal 3some recently (one of my fuckbuddies fucked me in the ass while I blew my other fuckbuddy) and it was awesome. I've been slut shamed for having 3somes with my fuckbuddies but I don't care... How come a guy gets praised for having a 3some with 2 girls but when a girl has a 3some with 2 guys, she's a slut? Fuck double standards.

    • I downvoted you because you said "my nigga."

    • lol the ass isn't always tighter than the pussy. The ass is tighter if it isn't ready to be inserted... and that's when damage happens. Which is when you shouldn't push for anal. You should only do anal when you are ready or you won't have a fun time and your man won't be able to really enjoy the ride.

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  • Some really great points here.

    I'd just disagree with the shits after anal. It does not have to happen. I was able to get the head of my cock to reach her colon. (I am seven inches and she learned to push out to help her colon descend).

    This is the second sphincter -- the asshole within the asshole if you will. This is the one that sucks in objects, etc. (Always make sure you toy has a flange, or a wide base, for anal.)

    Anyway I would unload DEEP in her second sphincter and it would immediately suck my cum way up deep. I'd pull out, and not a spurt would come out. In fact, it would stay for hours if not until the next day. The beauty of that is, it would all come out at once. However, sometimes she'd say it never came out at all -- somehow her body absorbed it. The colon can absorb liquids so this is possible. Anyway, we solved the "shits" issue.

    • Also -- a lot to take away here. But girls, if you take one thing away -- this is brilliant. I can honestly say it has turned some "iffy" anal situations into pure bliss because it helped the girl so much. Awesome. 3. The key to anal comfort is not stretching or widening, but learning how to consciously control the second (internal) sphincter. The easiest way to control it is to bear down like attempting to make a poo, and it will open naturally.

  • Good post. If done well anal is great.

    • Thank you!

    • @eurochick can you orgasm from it?

  • Well it's forbidden in my religion (lslam) because it has bad effects on both the man and the woman but that's the only reason i wouldn't do it.

    • Very solid reasons not to do it. <3

    • Thank you ❤

    • Do you realise that men from your religion always go for that?

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  • Well said. Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks for your support!

  • You forgot a main reason why some girls don't like anal. We don't have prostates. We aren't anatomically designed for it like men are. There are nerve endings in women's anal tracts but not ones designed solely for pleasure. Some women can orgasm from it, but many of us can't. It just isn't worth the effort for some of us.

    • I honestly didn't know that not all woman can, that's actually very critical information. Thank you so much for sharing!

    • @sugarchateau have you ever orgasmed from anal?

    • Well -- not exactly. A woman's clitoris is actually a wishbone shaped organ. The nub -- or button -- is at the top of the vajayjay. But the "legs" reach right down to the anus. So, physically, any woman can orgasm from anal alone. Of course, mental and social taboos are too hard for some women to break. But on a physical scale, it is impossible for a woman to never feel pleasure from her anus. Try this. Put one hand out in front of you, palm up. Then with your other hand, lightly trace circles in the middle of your palm using your middle finger. Go light, and use the soft pad of your finger, not the nail. Feel it? Now, your anus is 1000 times more sensitive. Are you telling me a soft, warm tongue gently exploring it would not feel amazing? Of course, some women just don't like it. But I would say, 99 times out of 100, he is either too clumsy -- or does not have enough knowledge -- to walk you through what it takes to orgasm from anal. Or maybe, he is just not the right guy. Or maybe -- you tried it a lot, and just don't like it. Anything is possible. And that anything includes lots of anal Os.

  • Well thought out. I particularly like that last part where you suggest men try anal on themselves to know how it feels. As it happens, I do that. I have a rather large dildo, which I'm using right now as I write this, and I've had the extreme pleasure of being fucked anally by a number of men. I love it. I prefer it when a guy pulls out before he cums. I like to finish him off in my mouth. There's nothing like sucking a dick fresh from my ass.

    • I'm glad you are so quick to follow a suggestion lol enjoy yourself!

  • "a) It feels like you have the wet shits afterwards.

    b) Who knows if you got it all out the first time... The shits feeling can last a little longer than expected. All that comes out is little spurts of cum. grats."

    Semi-titillated you've had this experience. 😈

    • lmao, I never even thought that someone would get excited about that. brilliant :)

    • 🥀🤘

    • Helps if you have a guy willing to suck it out after. I would -- and have. Butt -- funny thing. Not an issue for a lot of women. They try to keep it in as long as possible usually. Sometimes, the colon absorbs it, and any issue is done.

  • I think that often people think of full anal penetration as the only form of Anal sex. Often anal teasing is more acceptable and even more intense than penetration. Often a partner will enjoy a little finger teasing them during Vaginal penetration. Its the taboo the excitement the will it actually happen that highness the senses and makes orgasm so much more intense. Use a glove and lube and have a lot of fun teasing :)

    • Well said!!

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    Morality is most definitely subjective.

    Prevention is better than cure in my opinion but I guess there's no harm in advising people how to stay safe.

    Also poo is gross, but that's just me.

    • Poo is gross, for sure. Prevention is better, but just like casual sex... It's almost impossible to avoid that desire, for some. I'm glad you appreciate advising people to stay safe <3

    • It's the lesser of two evils. Similar to advising drug users not to share needles, in order to avoid transmitting diseases when administering intravenous drugs into their systems. I may object to drug use, but maintaining a level of safety is arguably the more sensible thing to do. But anything is possible, who would have known you can get pregnant from anal.

    • Such a respectable opinion! Wow! <3 You're so kind and considerate, it's very nice.

  • All you straight people are so adorable. Why not ask the people who know what we are doing with penetrative anal sex: gay men like me.

    For many bottoms (women in the cause of M/F anal) you will need to prepare. Douching, a healthy diet is all important especially if your man is well endowed. Otherwise there will be accidents. I have a process (I’m the bottom most of the time). Sometimes it’ll just be a bad day to bottom and you have to accept that.

    you need to relax and that takes practise to really master. That is both mental and physical. Part of this is you need a considerate man who will take things gradually as you get used to it. If he can’t do that then he doesn’t deserve anal sex.

  • I've always been curious to try it. Never had the opportunity though. My last sexual partner was two years ago and she hated anal.

    • Some girls are into it! i hope you are gentle

    • I'm a gentle lover anyway. I'm not into rough stuff in general.

    • Sorry to hear it. Just don't push to it and explain her all steps. My now-ex wife first said (Roman-Catholic) it is gay-sex, later, after I explained it to her and all precautions and "rewards" from it, like intense orgasms and super-intimate feeling, she later came to me shy (head done) and stroke my arm carefully to ask me more about it. She maybe was into it.

  • Thank you for the long guide, most is correcct in my view. But don't advice people into watching anal porn. Most is done harsh and that is plain wrong, gentle and slooooooow!

    And also silicon-based lubricant should be used as water-based dries out very quick. Simply remember what the rectum does? Yes, removing fluids from its interior. Silicon will stay much longer than water.

    And #Anilingus is okay with me.

    • And please don't be surprised if you visit the house of Mr. Poopy and actually see him on your penis! ;-)

    • Panic-making about STDs and anal cancer:
      Wanna try anal sex? First read this? ↗

      Oh, we will all die from it. I guess she never heard the word condom?

  • anal? some girl say daddy fuck me in the ass
    so i fuck her in the ass. she said my small dick is too big, it hurts her,
    but she wanted to be like asa akira
    so she keep doing till she love it
    now i fuck her there everytime.

    SHE SEE ASA AKIRA = SHE WANT TO BE ASA AKIRA

    • don't know whats the big deal. feels good to me/and her so.

  • You should write takes more often

    • I really appreciate your positivity. I just hope to be honest and inform as many people who needed it. Maybe I can save someone who might influence another to try.

    • Its actually amazing how you can give words to complex things, in the simplest words. easy to grasp , and soothing to read..

    • Yay, I almost successfully dumbed it down hahaha

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  • It's not always pleasant: Was I technically raped? ↗

    • So it looks like she consented beforehand, which throws it into rape greyzone. She was obviously in pain and her boyfriend should've respected her and pulled out as to avoid hurting her. BUT he was ignorant and thought it was supposed to hurt... and so he hurt her thinking this was how anal was supposed to be. Like adults, they should've consulted a little more about it beforehand. Like what to expect and how they can prepare. But neither of them didn't... It sounds like 2 inexperienced people who don't know what they are doing, the guy sounds like a really selfish fucker. When IT DOES become rape is when she verbally ASKS him to get out of her vagina after his dick was in her asshole. She is clearly disturbed, disgusted and hurt at this time.. Yet he continues in total disregard to her. That, my friends is rape. Because now he has received an actual verbal command and cue to get the fuck out and he didn't.

    • If he intimidates her to an extent that she really can't say no, that's rape too. I am not commenting on this specific situation, just rape grey areas in general.

    • @MlleCake @sugarchateau Both of these posts are accurate. No means no. . . not maybe. ~JSmith

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  • Wow I love your takes. Basically blunt honest talk. I am falling in love with a 23 yr old lol

    • Awe, I'm honored! It's all about honesty

    • 😍 honesty is the best policy!

    • Ya! I'd hate to waste anyones time

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  • haha funny post

    • I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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