Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Sadly, watching porn these days is about as common as going to the movies for young men. It's not only tolerated, it's expected and even encouraged by certain "experts" and other members of the community. But as many women will say, including those who have direct experience in such matters, porn is really, really messing with the heads of guys.
If you think porn is harmless, perhaps you should read this article. It's pretty explicit so if you're easily offended (or even squeamish), maybe it's a pass for you. But it's essential for most guys between the ages of 15 and 25, I think, and I'll guarantee that just about every woman will appreciate it. This isn't so much about giving men unrealistic expectations about themselves (the consequences being low self-esteem and anxiety about their sexual performance), but about completely false depictions of women.
Porn is highly stylized and directed; in other words, it's basically artificial. The higher level the pornstar(s), the more likely it is to be absurdly glossy, to the point of being so sheer it's comical. On top of which, there's that extreme focus on the women, and what they're supposedly enjoying. As an example, there's a mini story in that article from pornstar Jenna Jameson and frankly, it isn't pretty, and men should pay attention. Not that most men could actually do what that guy did (and I'm guessing that despite the story, many men want to), but Jenna's reaction to it should prove enlightening.
Right here on GaG, there's that Mia Rose interview, and she flat-out says people shouldn't watch porn, especially when they're younger. It screws up women and men, which results in legions of people who are so sexually dysfunctional that sex therapists and analysts are just getting richer. Porn has managed to eradicate the one element of sex that is most important: the human connection. It's all about being as close as possible to your partner, loving them and reading their reactions, knowing what they like and don't like, and experiencing pleasure together in the most intimate possible way. Porn is somehow the antithesis of that precept.
In general, the more people spend time removed from reality (i.e., sitting in front of a screen as opposed to real interaction), the more difficult it is for them to function in reality. So, when they're forced into the bright sunshine, they're hindered by whatever their brain has digested and processed and many times, that information is not only false, but dangerous. While claims of rape are of course at an all-time high, perhaps one of the reasons is because some porn depicts women who appear to enjoy pain or inordinately rough sex. It isn't hard to find porn where the woman starts by trying to resist the man but in the end, he basically just takes her and she loves it. Expecting that to happen in real life can - and should - lead to a rape accusation.
There are just so many reasons why an overindulgence in porn can be damaging to both men and women. But as the above article shows, porn is almost entirely about carnal desire and is incapable of showing how the mind is critical when it comes to sex, and why this act is supposed to be the epitome of closeness for two human beings. Sex is the ultimate perversion of that act, as it removes everything that's great and magical about lovemaking and focuses exclusively on that which is most disgusting. And in the process, humanity disappears and all we're left with is an illusion...but beneath that illusion is just a couple of grunting pigs in a sty.
What Girls & Guys Said
14 44Would LOVE to start my own porn company. Lol you know you serious when you bring the topic up with your SO and she says she will leave if you do ha ha.
"While claims of rape are of course at an all-time high, "
Actually, according to the FBI, reported rapes have been declining pretty steadily for 25 years, on concert with other violent crimes.
It's not, just makes living in a time where women get everything and men get nothing a little more bearable. I'll wait out the time with the girl I'm dating now because she doesn't vibe me as a user, and I'd rather be single watching porn than some bitch's bank account.
I have severe ED because of porn. no morning or random erections... fully flaccid 100% of the time... i barely get an erection to porn if it watch it enough over a few days.
Then don't watch porn. More traffic room for the rest of us.
It all depends how psychologically strong you are. If you are weak minded porn will effect you and it's possible to get a porn addiction which means getting a relationship will be tough.
But if you have a strong sense of reality and you psychologically know porn is not real life and it's pretty much all acting, then you should be fine. But I bet watching porn can still damage your imagination and fantasy about sex, but only maybe.
Thank you. Saved me from having to write this. All these weak people are going to be "screwed with" by something... But porn is vilified for their weakness? Give me a break.
@ProbablyTooMature no problem dude :)
I actually think porn is a problem. You say it's possible to get an addiction. Well I think most people who watch porn are alread addicted. Could you for example quit right now watching and fantasising about porn for a month? Just wanna let you know, people are faster addicted than one might think
@Dipsy I actually meant to cover that... Thank you. You cannot get an addiction to porn, sorry. Compulsion, sure. Addiction, no. And yes, easily. Terribly flawed counterargument.
@ProbablyTooMature i still think it's bad. But if you want to watch it, sure go ahead, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone
That first sentence already showed me this take is bs. Im a young man and i rarely go to the movies. Yet i watch porn almost every day.
Do I care? Will I ever care? No, I'm gonna watch porn anyway.
I can easily tell the difference between fiction and reality
Anyone who puts up IRL standards from watching porn is a dumbass
Porn is not the main problem, is the way it is been made, some categories encourage people with antisocial tendencies to cross the line, I am not sayin they make them cross the line, what I am saying is that they´re fuel of negative behaviors, other porn categories are able to create more insecurity in people who already feel insecure with their bodys. I believe porn can become educative, if it´s done for that porpouse, NOT THE CASE.
Good job! :)
I never liked watching two people having sex, or watching a women masturbate. When the guy enters the picture I get turned off. However, I do enjoy looking at erotic pictures of sexy women in various stages of undress as can be found on Google Images or even in some mainstream magazines like Stuff. Also, I do think that the availability of cheep online porn, along with the high divorce rate and the death of Christianity, has combined to corrupt the morals of many guys. Think about it! Could you imagine your great grandfather stooping so low as to email a picture of his schlong to some strange girl that he had been chatting with on Tinder? Probably not! I rest my case...
Porn gets my dick hard. But minutes later I think lwhy would I have sex like a animal with my wife, so I rather watch sex scenes, not porno
buying into fantasy and thinking, even going so far to believing it is reality kind of sums it up
Particularly when so many nuffies allow it to detach them from real life
Yep and every time I go watch the latest action movie, I go on a car chase on the ride home where I have guns and explosions to have a nice shootout with bad guys. If individuals can't discern reality from fantasy, that's on them.
nice
Tfw you know porn is bad but you're an addict and have been trying to quit for a long time
Women watch porn too, it doesn't mess with their head?
Men watch more porn on average.
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@RainbowFanGirl yeah but that doesn't take away the fact that they still watch it.
It doesn't matter which sex watches porn more vs the other. Yes, it does mess with women too. Very much so. It works on them differently. Men compartmentalize it while it can affect women on an emotional level. It affects their ability to nurture, to have sympathy, and so on. Also, women naturally are not as visually stimulated but porn has them much more visual now too.
@James1986 you know i have stopped watching porn a week and a half ago.
I am genuinely happy for you :) I want you to be able to enjoy your sex life for real, the way it was meant to be.
@James1986 I didn't say that I was trying to help
Worse still is guys are looking at this as the normal. When in reality it's all fantasy.
isn't it a better idea that porn should change and become something like sexual education?