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5 Things Every Camgirl Gets Sick of Hearing from Men

Having been camming since I was 19, I can honestly say I've probably heard it all. Guys aren't shy about asking a girl in my line of work literally anything that comes to their head..here are 5 of the top offenders.

5 Things Every Camgirl Gets Sick of Hearing from Men

Can I watch?

So we're on a date. I'm sitting 2 feet away from you. I say I'm a camgirl and your first question is...can I watch? No. Because there's work and then there's play. When I turn on the camera, I'm working. When you ask to see that, I stop seeing a potential romantic partner and start seeing a customer..and out goes any chance you had of having actual sex with me.

Can I join you?

On the same strain as the last one, but even more grating. How would you like it if I came into your office and asked to help you with those feasibility reports? Just because you know how to rub one off doesn't mean you'll be able to put on a show my viewers would enjoy. And even if you could, it's MY business and I never asked you to be apart of it. Couples shows can be popular but I am strictly a solo act.

Will you satisfy (blank) fetish?

No. I will not sit on your face or let you lick my toes. Sex worker does not mean sex slave. When I'm offline, I'm offline. I have my own likes and dislikes like anybody else and being a camgirl doesn't change that. In my own sex life, I do what turns me on personally. Just because my job is pleasing men sexually doesn't mean I'm obligated to please all men sexually.

If I pay you will you...?

Learn the difference between escort and webcam model. It's apples to oranges. And to make this one short and sweet: even if I would, you couldn't afford it.

Do you enjoy it/does it turn you on to be on camera?

Does waiting tables make you full just by being in the presence of food? It's a sexual atmosphere but my arousal is not really important. It's a fantasy. I'm getting paid to serve others sexually. I don't do it to get turned on, I do it for the money. Simple as that.

Now you know what NOT to say if you ever meet or date a girl in my line of work. The best questions to ask are truly none at all! If she wants to discuss it she will. Otherwise it can be a very draining line of work. Some girls love it, but it's best to let her set the tone.

Like anyone, when you're out with friends or on a date the last thing you want to think of is work. And that's what I want to stress, camming is work, not play. So respect that fact and you shouldn't have any problems!

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  • Not even trying to be rude but those are pretty typical/understandable questions. People always ask stupid things about your employment, it's pretty expected. I mean it's not like you're a lawyer and they're asking you how much for a foot job.

  • Seeing as this is what you do for a living (and a pretty sad one), what can you expect? And I feel more like you're just trying to brag about what guys wanted with you or something. Talk about trolling.

  • Unfortunately, it comes with the job. Because too many guys, just can't handle the fact that you do what you do. Or they are just too damn excited about it. And way too many people look down on you for what you do as well. It's not like you walk the streets selling your body. You work online doing what you want, and not with a bunch of strange men. But yet, you will still be put into the same group.

    You will find a guy eventually, who will accept you for who you are, and not ask you any of these questions or anything else idiotic. And it does require a certain level of maturity. Well good luck.

  • Interesting, never would have imagined someone in your industry drawing such a sharp line between work and personal life.

  • it doesn't hurt for them to ask you to satisfy a fetish since that is technically what they are paying you for. doesn't mean you have to do but doesn't hurt to ask does it?

    escort thing i will give you..

    dont blame you not wanting boyfriend to watch or join

    do you enjoy it? i think that would be an important question from a viewer why would you want to pay for something that the person the perceive you to having fun. that could be a turn off while your supposed to be turning them off.

    • i meant why would you pay for something if the person doesn't seem to enjoy it... that could be turn off

    • I'm not talking about my viewers with the fetish thing.. I meant in terms of dating

    • ok well than i understand completely and dont blame you lol I think having separation of work and personal life would be very important in your profession.

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  • The idiots just keep up with more qs

  • Some people love their jobs and some people just hate it.

    Dentist loves his job "I make greater smiles for everyone!" Dentist hates his job "spending my days poking at rotten teeths and smell bad breath".

    It's an interesting take though.

    Work is work and a lot of people have problem separating the intimacy of sexual related work and life. Just imagine the rage of the husband when he watches his beautiful actress wife having wild sex scene in a movie with a really hot actor. Or when the wife look at sexy photos of models her photographer husband worked on (ESP the 'make love to the camera!').

  • Isn't this what you call 'an occupational hazard?'

  • I'm sure you are smarter than expecting to be viewed as anything else.

  • I dont know much about the sex industries. I am sheltered and my family is very strict. but as a person and a woman. I dont want to judge you because I believe everyone deserves respect unless you are some serial killer or whatever heinous crime you commited. lol not really good at words but dont let people bring you down because of their critism. I know its not the greatest job but I think if you have other options you will not choose this type of profession and I think you are saving for something that you really want to do in the future.

  • Lol. I feel about as much sympathy as I would for a bartender complaining about drunk people. You knew the line of work and who your market was beforehand.

    You get asked questions that annoy you, from a bunch of horns guys that can't get girls... kinda what you signed up for lol.

    • No sug I mean guys in my PERSONAL life. My viewers can say what they want

    • Well, that's what I get for not reading the last paragraph lol. That's mildly embarassing. My apologies. That would be a pain I imagine. But I don't think you can blame some guys for assuming things about a girl in your line of work. Especially if they really have no experience with women who work in that field. I have several friends that are go go dancers. They all love to party. They all like to flirt and they all are kind of kinky in bed. That's the assumption most guys have and in my experience it's a justified assumption. Maybe with your line of work you should couch it in a way so that he knows how you view it. Or even pass I off at first and say, "eh, I don't want to talk about work. Let's just get keep it Us for now so we can get to know each other for who we are."

    • Keep it us*

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  • I just want to say it sounds to me like you have the right mindset about being a camgirl and it being just a job!

    The one thing I want to ask is... is there something else you would rather do someday than be a camgirl, perhaps something you are working towards?

    • I plan on being a personal trainer. I'm not one of those people who believes in looking for a career to be my life. I think personal training seems like it'd be good because it's active and positive and high energy and lets me focus on other things

    • Good plan, if you are a positive person then being a personal trainer would suit you well. Good luck :)

    • The only thing that my girlfriend said would be the thing that would prevent her from doing it is that it might effect other areas of her professional life and that means that she couldn't do these things because of it. In life she wants to be a yoga instructor and (Separately) start her own business. Do you have anything to say on that?

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  • Hahaha all these guys shaming cam girls while they're probably paying and jacking to them all the time! Such hypocrites! If you watch porn then you have NO say in slut shaming because you obviously want it!!

    • "If you watch porn then you have NO say in slut shaming because you obviously want it!!" Right?

    • No, if you watch porn then you're obviously supporting women and the porn industry you can't just suddenly turn that around and say "oh she's such a slut" when you jack off ten times a week to a whole bunch of different girls. Like if you want to slut shame, then you can't watch porn and support the industry.

  • I remember seeing a post a while back where a guy was talking about the struggles of dating a stripper. He said one of the top things was "managing expectations". That when a guy finds out a girl is involved in that line of work (porn, stripping, exotic dancing, nude modeling etc.) his expectations for the quality of his sex life goes up. They end up creating a fantasy image of you being this wild uninhibited girl and exect an above average sex life. Thats probably why they ask those questions, theyve created this fantasy of you and assume you will be open to thing ordinary girls wouldn't but are dissapointed when they realize the girl is only like that when she's working. That in private you aren't any kinkier than any other girl.

    Instead of the good girl who is naughty just for them in private, the girl is wild and slutty for the men that pay her and then more normal in private.

  • Honestly I'd have a ton of questions for you, my curiosity would run wild! I love meeting people who do things differently like this and would really want to find out what kind of person you are and what kind of experiences you've had and all that.

    • I think there's a way to keep curiosity positive and fresh without it turning objectifying and depressing but most guys can't do that. And I think at the end of the day you're expecting it to be an interesting job when it borders on tedious xD

    • "And I think at the end of the day you're expecting it to be an interesting job when it borders on tedious xD" That's exactly the sort of thing I'd want to know, along with a bunch of other stuff. This is another good insight "keep curiosity positive and fresh without it turning objectifying and depressing" I mean it's obvious but I guess for the askee it could seem like insensitivity if not careful, especially considering the subject matter. Asking "Can I join you?", "Will you satisfy (blank) fetish?" or "If I pay you will you?" Seems really dehumanizing though regardless of how it's asked, is this stuff you get asked while say going for coffee with someone?

    • The first 2 yes. The second 2 it depends. Usually it's after they aren't shy anymore but you'd be surprised how quick guys ask those. I guess really I don't want it to have a bearing on my dating interactions. There are a lot more interesting sides to me that contribute to who I am as a person. This is just doing what pretty much everyone does when they're alone.. except with a camera on and I get a paycheck for it

  • Yeah, not seeing an issue with the last question as that some girls can honestly be turned on by doing it even though it's their job. Even though you don't enjoy it, I find that it's not an unreasonable question. Also, not having someone asking questions about it? Seriously? You expect to get into a relationship and not being able to willing to answer some questions about it? I don't see any long term relationships for you. Even if you quit today, the longer you do it, someone might recognize you and it may come back and bite you in the ass at some point in your life.

  • I need to get out more. A camGirl? Damn seriously i need to go out.

    • Webcam porn

    • Ahhh i see... Well your gonna get lots of hate from the dude :/

    • ignore em

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  • I've done a little porn, and have dated both escorts and strippers. I don't understand how people don't get the difference between work and play. I know it sucks (ahem) but it's kind of how it is. My dancer friends have never danced for me, because that's work not sexy. Oh well, sounds like you're doing well this was a great my take.

  • Hmm, I have a friend trying to start doing this who hasn't really made any money yet. It sounds difficult.

  • Do guys ever get jealous and ask you to stop?
    Does your work make you view men differently?
    Does your work make you view relationships differently?

    • I think more than get jealous and ask me to stop the guys in my life question whether it's good for me emotionally and say I could have better options of I apply myself to something else And I mean of course, in some ways. Every experience with men changes my view on them. I tend to see guys as very 1 dimensional in general sense. But of course not all guys are like that. I've known some guys who are just beautiful people so I haven't lost respect for men. And on the last one, no. I still value love, sex and intimacy in a partnership. I think it'd shock people how traditional my views on relationships are

    • Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.

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