7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

When you think about masturbating, you probably think only about doing it on the solo. I mean, it makes sense since it really is “solo sex.” It’s a good way to get to know your body on your own terms, without pressure from someone else. On the other hand (no pun intended), masturbating with someone else can actually be a really good idea. I know it might feel a little invasive to have someone hang with you during your “you time,” but there are ways to actually make it not weird and pretty fun.

Masturbating with someone can be a bonding experience for you and your bae, or just an exciting and "new" sexual experience for you and a hookup. Regardless of who it is, you should really try it, since it can be super liberating to share that part of you with someone else. But there are some thing to know before you just get naked and start doin’ it in front of a partner. Let’s just get this out of the way first: if you aren’t comfortable masturbating on your own, won’t be comfortable masturbating with someone else. It’s just the way it is! You need to learn to be confident and comfortable on your own before you invite someone else into the picture. So try to masturbate just you for a bit so that you can feel more confident. Then, when you’re ready, try out some of these simple tips for masturbating with a partner. You’ll be hooked.

1. Talk About What You Want

There is no "correct way" to masturbate with someone else, and there are a few different ways to do it, but it's important to communicate this with your bae. You don't want to do anything you're not comfortable with, like sitting too close to each other, or sitting too far apart. You want to tell your partner exactly what you want, and you want them to tell you what they want so you can make the experience great for the both of you!

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

2. Show Them How You Do It

This is actually really important! If you show your partner exactly how you do masturbate, next time they are fingering you, they will know exactly what will make you feel good, which is super important when you're getting it on. Besides, who better to learn from than you, the expert of your own sex life!

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

3. Add Toys

You don't just have to use your finger, obvs. Add a vibrator to the mix for a whole new experience and Tbh, your partner will probably really want to watch you do it.Starting by using a vibrator on other parts of your body, like your lips or neck, then make its way down there.

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

4. Make Eye Contact

Eye contact with your bae when you're both getting it on with yourselves can be super hot. It will help you stay connected, but it can also help relax you in case you get a little nervous.

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

5. Orgasm At The Same Time

A lot of the time, you and your bae might not orgasm at the same time during sex. It happens. You might not be able to orgasm through intercourse, or maybe your bae takes a lot longer to finish. But with "mutual masturbation", you can give your partner a warning as to when you're going to finish so that you can finish at the same time

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

6. Use It As a Form Of Foreplay

You can also use masturbating with your partner as a form of foreplay. It can be a good way to build up the 'excitement' between you and bae before you actually have sex. You can even try edging, which is just a fancy word that means stopping right before you orgasm, then have sex with your bae. It could actually make your orgasm better

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

7. Dim The Lights

If you REALLY wanna try masturbating with someone else, but are not the most confident person in the world, try doing it with the lights off. Sure, you won't be able to see each other too well, but just knowing your bae is there will be a pretty intense experience. And if you do it enough, you'll finally start to get comfortable enough to do it in the light!

Enjoy Ladies and Gents :)

J.J

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  • My boyfriend loves when I touch myself in front of him, he's not comfortable doing it in front of me though. I think he feels awkward about it but I love how aroused it makes him to watch me. It's a nice foreplay before we have sex. He literally can barely control himself once we start actually having sex.

    • I feel awkward as well but working on it

    • Aww.

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  • We started masterbating together before we had sex for the first time. We still incorporate masturbation into our sex now, it's hot!!!

    When we first masturbated together it was more than a bit awkward and almost a little embarrassing to do right in front of your lover. Once we worked past that part the whole mutual masterbation thing became fun, natural. I mean I can't think of a bigger turn on than to watch him watching me, it just builds up until both of us just explode into huge orgasms sometimes together sometimes not! We don't get into the toys thing but we more than make up for it with our enthusiasm!

    • Toys are great.

  • My ex and I tried this (first time for both of us) it was realllly hot. Definitely try people :) great tips

  • Great my take and good information

  • Up until a few years ago, I had only known one girl who ever asked me to masturbate in front of her. She was my SO. But then I met a girl who I could tell was different, and it was easy inviting her to my theater company parties. She was a self-proclaimed nudist, artist, free-thinker or whatever you want to call her. So when the second party died out and the last guest left, after a few seconds of silence, she said "Should I take my clothes off now?" Silly question, but then before getting fully nude she asked if I would too. The wine slowed down my thinking on that, but I went ahead and stripped. Right away, she said "You have a very athletic body", "You have a big penis", "You're penis has a nice size and shape to it" and such things. I thought we had kind of a platonic relationship going, and it still was, in a way. The difference was we were naked and she was more attractive without her clothes than I would have thought. So after a while she wondered how I could have an erection for so long and I told her that was the way I was. After still longer and I started dripping pre-cum, she asked what it was. I explained. She asked me if I masturbated and I said I did sometimes, but it wasn't the same for me as it was for her. I said it was more like tickling in that somebody else could always do it better. After a while, now maybe two hours or so into the night of nakedness, she asked me if it would be okay if she gave me a "friendly hand job". Another silly question. We spent the rest of the night and next morning naked and close to each other. I noticed that most of the time she had one hand massaging her crotch. I asked her about it and she said it just felt good. So I thought "Well, she can't object to me doing it if she's doing it". I was right. We ended up facing each other and masturbating for what seemed hours. That was a unique way of starting a relationship, to say the least.

  • I love masturbating together.. But most guys aren't into that..

    • I've notice that to.

    • I think it's fun to do

    • @Herbert_Hoover that's rare

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  • I think this sounds very sweet!

  • Sounds good :D

  • When the orgasm ratio is 100:1 it's hard NOT to time it

    • Hahaha.

  • Stop putting pictures with White men and White women together out there. That'll over soon, anyway. 90%+ of all White men don't approach, hit on and ask out women anymore; all women, White and non-White alike. Maybe it's 95% already.
    It's all over soon.

    • Hahaha shut up man! That's so utrue

  • This is very helpful and worked for me and my partner Jill.

  • Nice tips my friends. Masturbation by myself is really but with my female companion it's twice the pleasure. Instead of dimming the lights how about we try it with the lights on. Hmmm? Now that gives an arousing feeling. Lol

  • Nice take! Will definitely take into consideration more often :)

    • Thank you :)

    • Have you ever tried it? :)

    • Maybe :)

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  • Would I pay the possy to masturbate with her? I can masturbate with my friend and it's free. We fuck, or fuck off.

  • My ideal match likes to masturbate in front of her partner much earlier in the relationship than going all the way.

  • A really good and well written summary. Sometimes we go a little further and she will stroke my cock while I finger her wet pussy. And we do try, mostly successful, cum at the same time. Although when she cums she can’t hold my cock any longer and I shoot my cum all over her. A good leadin to fucking.

  • Humans are so disgusting. Masturbating is gross

    • You know you love it. lol

    • You'll learn, kid.

  • What's the point of masturbating with your partner if they're right there and you can simply sleep with them? Sounds stupid to me.

    • Read #6

    • People already do that. You wrote the rest of the this giving tips to simply masturbate with your partner. What's the point of that?

  • I LOOOOOOOVE masturbating 🥵 ughhhhhhhhhhh Drive me WILD 😜

  • It’s so much fun to be right next to her and start touching myself and have her talk dirty to me while I finish all over myself.

  • I have only been with one woman who was sufficiently uninhibited to do this. I always thought that watching my girlfriend masturbate would be the hottest thing ever and I would probably learn something about what turns her on. Yes, it was very hot and, yes, I did learn something. I then also realized that watching me might turn her on and teach her something, so I returned the favor. We did this together a few times and It was always a great feeling. Too bad that most women are too inhibited!

    • This is one of those things like anal sex or prostate massage. Many people will criticize you for simply making the suggestion and they will insist that this couldn't feel good, but if you ask, you will learn that they have never actually tried it. And I always reply: "Remember when you had never kissed a girl and you said it was because they had cooties?"

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