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I don't know about others, but I felt anxious about sex for a long time. That's why I was a virgin until just recently, and I'm already twenty-three. I had many chances but for some reason didn't want to do it. Then a few months ago I met a guy I clicked with instantly. We flirted and had sexual tension from the moment we met - perhaps that had to do with the fact that we met at a tango scene, one of the sexiest places you could meet someone. Things with him have flowed very smoothly and quickly, which is unusual for a girl to let happen, I know - I'll be discussing this matter in a second.
On that note, here are some tips for first-timers. I don't expect everyone to agree with all of these, I'm just writing from experience with the hopes that this guide will help virgins gain knowledge about and prepare for their first time.
1. Find a guy/girl, preferably human. Sex dolls do not count as a first time.
2. Develop sexual tension from early in the relationship.
You must be thinking, "hell no! What is this girl talking about?" But I mean it. Compared to my past non-sexual relationships, doing this built a stable base for my relationship. If you start getting physical right away, you can skip all the petty phases and unnecessary stress you have to go through - do I hold his/her hand now? Should I kiss her again, or is once in one night enough? Would she feel uncomfortable going to the pool for our next date? As for me, once I'd start to really like someone it would be completely pure and I wouldn't be able to imagine myself having sex with them - I don't know if anyone else has experienced this. Well, fuck all that. Make out, let him or her touch you, even let them touch you down there. If you want each other, just go for it. Stop worrying about "are we moving too fast?" I say there's no such thing. If the moment feels right and you're both in the mood, by all means go ahead. I actually recommend it because a sexy relationship is the best relationship in my opinion. If it's just a fling, then this first tip obviously applies.
3. Warn him or her that you're a virgin.
I don't say this for the advantage of your love interest, I say this for you. The reason is because I've seen guys who ditch a girl after finding out she's a virgin. I'm not sure why - you men probably know - perhaps they want someone who knows what they're doing in bed. But virgins can learn fast, so I think if someone being a virgin is a turn off for you then he/she's just a douche (yes, women can be douches too). Which is why you should tell them early on - just don't say it out of the blue while you're at a fancy French restaurant drinking posh rosé and eating escargots.
4. Make sure he uses protection and/or you're on birth control.
DON'T BE LIKE ME, KIDS. My partner and I have agreed that we'd do it without protection for a quarter of the way, then he'd put on the rubber hat. That's what we've been doing. My friends say he's an ass for doing that, but I want to give him the best sexual experience, which is why I let him do it. BUT DON'T COPY ME - especially if you're younger than twenty-one and/or don't want to get pregnant. But IF you plan on being reckless like me, if he's a guy make sure he doesn't have STD.
5. Have your first time with someone with sexual experience.
I almost lost my v-card with a virgin, but I'm glad I didn't! Who knows what could have happened to me! I think it's important that one person knows what they're doing because sex isn't a simple matter - it takes caution. Things could go wrong if you're both novices. It would be like learning to drive from someone who's watched YouTube tutorials about driving but has never actually driven before. How scary would that be?
6. Don't be picky but also don't settle for a random person.
I almost lost it with a random guy because I was so sick and insecure about being a twenty-three year old virgin, but I'm glad I didn't do it! On the other hand, when I was younger I was really picky with my men and wanted the perfect guy to have my first time with - well, that's also dumb. Don't under-think nor overthink it. I found someone I knew I could eventually like, or at least feel comfortable having sex with, and I'm really glad he was my first. Now I actually like him a lot and I plan to give him an answer about making things official (I put him on hold because my mom wasn't approving, but now she has).
7. Be open-minded about oral sex.
I never thought I'd want to do it but I did in that moment, and I think I'll really be enjoying it once I get the hang of it. So I ATTEMPTED to give him my first blowjob last time and failed miserably. He was nice about it but I know I kind of killed the sexual vibe at that moment, particularly when I started laughing and said, "I don't know what I'm doing." Anyway, I never thought I'd be comfortable with oral but it's actually not that bad if you're attracted to the person. So stay open-minded about it rather than completely shutting down the idea if it's brought up.
Lastly, I have an issue I'd appreciate some help with:
Can't orgasm. I'm still figuring this out. He tells me to relax, "let it build", etc. but I haven't been able to orgasm yet. I asked about this and people said it's on him if I can't, but I can't help but feel bad that we've had sex a couple times now and I still haven't experienced an orgasm yet. Any advice from people with more experience will help. Thanks!
Happy...sex life!
What Girls & Guys Said
29 46You shouldn’t have to have sex first with someone experienced. That shouldn’t be the determining factor. If you want to and it feels right it shouldn’t matter if they are a virgin or not. Everyone has to start somewhere. Everyone was a virgin at some point. How the hell do you think someone got experienced in the first place? Bullshit
I just feel like it could be dangerous if neither person knows what they're doing. Some guys don't even know how to put a condom on for god's sake.
also, how can it be hot if you're both awkward and clueless?
It doesn’t have to be hot the first time it isn’t always what you see in the movies
How about just do what makes you comfortable.
Interesting. I'm just waiting for marriage in sex, so good mytake
Nice
And lastly never do it remain a virgin for life men are dogs and woman are cats.
So you never need to worry about if the girl has STDs if you aren't wearing a rubber. Got it thanks
Don't agree with 5, i think two virgins can have an amazing first time as well as eventually great sex. As for your last question i think you should explore some more and take time with foreplay and be adventurous.
Why, why do we want sex without commitment and love? We all have a gift we can only give to one person one time in our life. I was not a virgin when I got married, in fact I can’t remember all the girls or times though some stand out more than others… but it has been said, and in my case has been proven to be true, you go to bed with every one you have been with in the past, and every visual experience from pornography, with your lover. And in like manner he goes to bed with you will all this past too. If I had a time machine and able to do my life over this one thing would be top on my list of things to change. I would never look at pron and never have sex outside of marriage. I would also marry young and love only the one woman who would be my wife.
virgin and virgin would be better (for me)
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Try something different. maybe you haven't yet is because the way youve done it isn't good enough or is too good. every position is good at different levels so go find one thats perfect for you!!
Yea but #5 is a no rather do it with another virgin.
Same for me
Having sex for the first time is weird and complicated. Especially if you're both virgins. If you're both virgins you mostly try to copy what porn actors do in films. I've had quite a few sex partners in my life, plus I read many sex books, I learned many things. Every person is different, what works on you, might not work on someone else, that's why I find sex exciting and fun. My advice is for virgins is to masturbate, if you're a girl buy a realistic dildo and practice on it, find what your body wants, learn how to orgasm. If you're a man buy a fleshlight they are great and they are the closest to the real thing, practice on them and try to last the longest. In the end I would like to advise reading sex books, you can learn many things from them, from learning your body and your partner's body to sex positions to how to reach orgasm.
I like the suggestion of reading books! I read Cosmopolitan magazine but have yet to come across a good book. I might start searching for some. Thank you for your comment!
no chance in shit would i ever recommend buying a pocket pussy. maybe it's just me, but i value my dignity and don't want that shit on any traceable transactions.
@Other_Tommy_Wiseau Ha-ha Buy in cash?
@dragonfruitA you can download them from the internet
Good take. And I suppose I should file it under things I've learned but won't remember because I have no confidence whatsoever for meeting people and getting that far with them.
Thank you. Why don't you think you can meet someone and get far with them?
Again, no confidence whatsoever. Way too socially awkward and introverted.
This is retarded and a waste of your typing
Don’t warn them about you being a virgin inform them. Nothing ominous about virginity
Experience doesn't need to mean a shit!
To many no matter gender that has a lot of experience have no clue what they are doing and think they are the best. (personal have I noticed that a lot of experienced females have no clue what they are doing to their partner or themselves)
Some that are virgins appears they know what they are doing the first time, some of those already have a hunch how it works both ways.
Really? I feel like two virgins attempting to have sex is not hot and just awkward. Not to mention, some guys don't know how to put on a condom. A girl at my high school got pregnant because that happened...
I just feel like I'd feel safer with someone who knows what he's doing...
no you won't be safer, but you're a sl*tty girl who wants to feel that what she's doing is good, please stop ruining other girls.
With me I've gone ahead of time and because me and my girlfriend started talking about it i already bought condoms, line and other things because we're both virgins and it's pretty much guaranteed that the guy is going to be able to enjoy it but I don't want her first time even with another virgin to be horrible
Lube not line
@Kingofdiamonds foreplay, thats all i have to say, kiss, suck and lick her everywhere for a while
@3rdSrike Look, not all girls wait for "the perfect man" or wait after marriage. Not to mention, I'm not religious. I chose to have my first time with this guy because I like him and I felt comfortable with him touching me. That doesn't make me slut.
maybe not but you take indeed does not question about it
@3rdSrike Nice try, but I think you should look up what a "slut" is before you criticize me for losing my virginity to someone I don't have a spiritual delusional fairytale connection to.
You described everything that is wrong with women and it happens to exist in yoy
This is great but the problem is nobody is having sex today and who knows when.
How to orgasm? Firstly forget everything but pleasure and secondly focus on your labia a mans labia grows into a penis and that’s how we orgasm so thats how you orgasm. Lastly let it build get pleasure and then get more pleasure and go harder and harder until it happens dont stop for a second.
Nobody's having sex? Huh?
Well according yo research 78% of millennial are not having sex and were in a sex recession.
Really? Damn. I didn't know that.
I mean you must’ve felt it. Or wanted sex and tried but had no success? Your not alone there. Everyone’s in the same position.
I had several chances, but before I'd always freak out at the last minute which is why it never happened till now. So, I didn't realize we're in a sex recession. I bump into hungry guys everywhere. . LOL
Since girls are at first not attracted to any gender. Woman does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone. In general, Woman are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender, but if an emotional connection is formed with someone else, they may experience sexual attraction towards the specific partner (s).
I dont trust anyone that says "woman"instead of "women"
@BaileyisDarcy Since girls are at first not attracted to any gender. Women does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone. In general, Women are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender, but if an emotional connection is formed with someone else, they may experience sexual attraction towards the specific partner (s). Now trust?
No. cause you're an idiot.
@BaileyisDarcy How I am an idiot? Most women on GAG say the same thing by using a headline "we are not visual"
Just... Jesus. Go read a book. Any book. Written by a woman. Go read one.
@BaileyisDarcy I have read many. But why?
Good take