Sexual Relationships 
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I don't know about others, but I felt anxious about sex for a long time. That's why I was a virgin until just recently, and I'm already twenty-three. I had many chances but for some reason didn't want to do it. Then a few months ago I met a guy I clicked with instantly. We flirted and had sexual tension from the moment we met - perhaps that had to do with the fact that we met at a tango scene, one of the sexiest places you could meet someone. Things with him have flowed very smoothly and quickly, which is unusual for a girl to let happen, I know - I'll be discussing this matter in a second.
On that note, here are some tips for first-timers. I don't expect everyone to agree with all of these, I'm just writing from experience with the hopes that this guide will help virgins gain knowledge about and prepare for their first time.
1. Find a guy/girl, preferably human. Sex dolls do not count as a first time.
2. Develop sexual tension from early in the relationship.
You must be thinking, "hell no! What is this girl talking about?" But I mean it. Compared to my past non-sexual relationships, doing this built a stable base for my relationship. If you start getting physical right away, you can skip all the petty phases and unnecessary stress you have to go through - do I hold his/her hand now? Should I kiss her again, or is once in one night enough? Would she feel uncomfortable going to the pool for our next date? As for me, once I'd start to really like someone it would be completely pure and I wouldn't be able to imagine myself having sex with them - I don't know if anyone else has experienced this. Well, fuck all that. Make out, let him or her touch you, even let them touch you down there. If you want each other, just go for it. Stop worrying about "are we moving too fast?" I say there's no such thing. If the moment feels right and you're both in the mood, by all means go ahead. I actually recommend it because a sexy relationship is the best relationship in my opinion. If it's just a fling, then this first tip obviously applies.
3. Warn him or her that you're a virgin.
I don't say this for the advantage of your love interest, I say this for you. The reason is because I've seen guys who ditch a girl after finding out she's a virgin. I'm not sure why - you men probably know - perhaps they want someone who knows what they're doing in bed. But virgins can learn fast, so I think if someone being a virgin is a turn off for you then he/she's just a douche (yes, women can be douches too). Which is why you should tell them early on - just don't say it out of the blue while you're at a fancy French restaurant drinking posh rosé and eating escargots.
4. Make sure he uses protection and/or you're on birth control.
DON'T BE LIKE ME, KIDS. My partner and I have agreed that we'd do it without protection for a quarter of the way, then he'd put on the rubber hat. That's what we've been doing. My friends say he's an ass for doing that, but I want to give him the best sexual experience, which is why I let him do it. BUT DON'T COPY ME - especially if you're younger than twenty-one and/or don't want to get pregnant. But IF you plan on being reckless like me, if he's a guy make sure he doesn't have STD.
5. Have your first time with someone with sexual experience.
I almost lost my v-card with a virgin, but I'm glad I didn't! Who knows what could have happened to me! I think it's important that one person knows what they're doing because sex isn't a simple matter - it takes caution. Things could go wrong if you're both novices. It would be like learning to drive from someone who's watched YouTube tutorials about driving but has never actually driven before. How scary would that be?
6. Don't be picky but also don't settle for a random person.
I almost lost it with a random guy because I was so sick and insecure about being a twenty-three year old virgin, but I'm glad I didn't do it! On the other hand, when I was younger I was really picky with my men and wanted the perfect guy to have my first time with - well, that's also dumb. Don't under-think nor overthink it. I found someone I knew I could eventually like, or at least feel comfortable having sex with, and I'm really glad he was my first. Now I actually like him a lot and I plan to give him an answer about making things official (I put him on hold because my mom wasn't approving, but now she has).
7. Be open-minded about oral sex.
I never thought I'd want to do it but I did in that moment, and I think I'll really be enjoying it once I get the hang of it. So I ATTEMPTED to give him my first blowjob last time and failed miserably. He was nice about it but I know I kind of killed the sexual vibe at that moment, particularly when I started laughing and said, "I don't know what I'm doing." Anyway, I never thought I'd be comfortable with oral but it's actually not that bad if you're attracted to the person. So stay open-minded about it rather than completely shutting down the idea if it's brought up.
Lastly, I have an issue I'd appreciate some help with:
Can't orgasm. I'm still figuring this out. He tells me to relax, "let it build", etc. but I haven't been able to orgasm yet. I asked about this and people said it's on him if I can't, but I can't help but feel bad that we've had sex a couple times now and I still haven't experienced an orgasm yet. Any advice from people with more experience will help. Thanks!
Happy...sex life!
What Girls & Guys Said
29 46I don't agree. Move at your own pace. Slow and steady. Also It's great to learn together and not everyone wants oral sex and must be open for it. As long as you are both happy you can have sex like you want to have.
I was a virgin until I was 25, and I agree with a lot of what you said here.
I agree with everything else but #5 👌.
Thanks for the take😊
an advice to all girls reading this, dont listen to anything she's saying, basically this girl is telling you to f*ck a random dude who has a of girls under his belt instead of finding someone who you love and loves you and is willing to learn and grow with you.
you really think a guy who f*cked dozens of girls will give two shts about you? you think if iam a guy who's been with plenty of girls i will care about you? even worse how will you explain it to yourself afterwards that you let some dude take the most precious thing you have just cause he has some experience, iam always shocked at how dsgusting this world is becoming.
If you are a girl, and "the most precious thing you have" is your virginity, that's pretty fucking sad.
@Wally48 you're 63 but from the looks of you wasted 63 years being a dumbf*ck , sad really
@Wally48 Exactly. People make too much of a big deal out of it. It's understandable if it's against your religion though. I don't mean to disrespect any religions.
I've been with women who didn't know wtf they were doing down there on me and they had the worst smelling vaginas because they had poor hygene and when their breath smells and they drool to much or pull on your tongue to much it shows a huge lack of experience from them and they have no clue wtf theyre doing and whats worse is when they just lay there like a bump on a log and expect the guy to do all the work it leaves me thinking uh why tf did i bother with this bitch for when i could be jerking off to some online porn instead which would be more fun and entertaining than this lazy ass bitch.
But my best advice is to get really good at eating a woman’s pussy out know all the parts of a vagina ie clitoris, labia major, labia minor, finding her g-spot, licking her whole vulva and perenium if the bitch is into that sort of thing going that low, and know how to move your tongue and twirl it inside a womans hole and how to suck and kiss the bitch’s clit, once you do that your golden (at least half golden) the other half would be read karma sutra and get familiar with different positions besides the useless and boring missionary
Also to preheat the oven take her dancing use that as an excuse to touch her body and hold her close then learn how to give her a full body massage and know where to kiss her hot spots ie side of her neck, collar bone, inside her upper thighs, wrists and hands, ankles calves and possibly feet (maybe if she's into having her feet kissed), and always look deeply and heavily into the bitch’s eyes and show her you love her and let her know she’ll always be your top and only bitch but make sure you own her pussy and after wards make sure she straddles the fuck out of your cock and rides the shit out of it like a fucking cowboy (and the cowboy hat would help to in that case) so would handcuffs and blindfolds later on when you really get to know each other & safe words and sometimes video recording it helps too ie making sex tapes
Bitches?
LOL Thank you for your long comment!
Sweet, love
This is gross!
why?
I am not so sure about the guys ditching girls because they are a virgin part. Honestly I think the thought of a vagina untouched by another penis is ideal since mine is the only penis needed. Not to mention the fact a guy does not say to another guy that his woman is not a virgin because of another dude unless he is ready to fight; either that or the guy is just a mix between asshole and retarded.
great take on this...
Thank you very much.
Just do it
LOL. Wow, okay then.
Lmaooo
I'm still struggling to find a girl to fuck. I think I suck at texting and am not bothered to deal with the bullshit girls offer so I just don't care.
Maybe you should go to more social gatherings where you can meet girls who don't offer bullshit :)
Orgasm is a mind thing , so once you develop feelings for the other person and comfortable enough it will happen just do a lot of relaxing and let go
So, does that mean I might still be a bit stiff and not completely comfortable?
It's a pretty good take..
Thank you!
You are most welcome
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Lmao bullshit
Awesome..
Sorry sis , but you sound like a THOT
Thanks for the helpful opinion
Sex is a moment which how much u enjoy is lesss
Most women are bisexual so no tips needed
Well done
Thank you.