Asexual Awareness Week 2018: What's asexuality?

This year, asexual awareness week is October 21-27, 2018.

What is an asexual?

Someone who never experiences sexual attraction and never has the intrinsic desire to have partnered sex.

Rabger's Model
Rabger's Model

Asexuality is not a lack of a sex drive

Many asexuals do masturbate, but they don't think about having sex with others or inherently desire to share sexual activity with others.

Asexuality is not celibacy

Celibates have the inherent desire to have sex with someone, but they choose not to act upon it. Asexuals don't have that inherent, primary desire.

The difference between celibacy and asexuality
The difference between celibacy and asexuality

Asexuality is not repression or a result of medical problems

Asexuality is not the result of sexually abuse, level of attractiveness, never having had good sex, getting out of a bad relationship, hormone deficiency, being a loner, not meeting the right person, depression, or etc. There are plenty of ugly people who are heterosexual. Most asexuals don't have a hormone deficiency from the last time they checked. Asexuals aren't repressing a sexual desire that doesn't exist. They aren't secretly homosexual and in denial. Many asexuals, including me, would've not repressed homosexual desires if we had any. Being a loner is irrelevant to sexual orientation. Sexual people don't "turn asexual" because of bad experiences, they only turn bitter.

Asexuality is not a mental disorder

Asexuality doesn't cause psychological distress to self or others, doesn't cause physical harm to self or others, doesn't break any laws, and isn't strongly frowned upon by society; so it's not a mental disorder according to DSM-5 standards.

Asexuals can have varying romantic orientations

There are romantic and aromantic asexuals. Romantic asexuals inherently desire a romantic relationship with another person but without the sex part. So it's possible for a straight person to not desire sex in a relationship. It's possible for a gay or bi person to not want sex in a relationship. Those people may have sex with their partners only for the secondary benefit of keeping their romantic partner.

Romantic and sexual orientations
Romantic and sexual orientations
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  • There is not such thing as asexual. It's just another word for weird loser.

    • That's your opinion.

    • No shit

  • THIS IS SO FUCKING STUPID.

  • I've never seen people make a big deal about asexuality. Unless it was compared with the LGBT community. Then I would see it shouldn't be added or the mental illness comments.

  • Asexuals are the panda bears of our societies, you just got to hug me a lot.

  • Nice

  • lol what a bullshit orientation.

    • That's your opinion

    • Yep.

  • Asexuality is normal and goes back millennia, at least to the time of St. Paul where he talked about it as a gift for believers.

  • Thats an awesome take and it explains so much

  • Good take

  • Quack

  • Real question: why should we care? No offense, that's a real question.

    • Asexuals are oppressed and only a humane person would care.

    • No they're not, no one cares about them at all. No one even knew they existed, if they do, until recently. And having a "week" won't make me care about them more. They're nothing special to me, no more than anyone else.

    • If no one cares, that's already a sign of oppression and erasure.

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  • Polysexual = You're gonna need a bigger boat.

  • Things like this make me wonder if I am asexual.

  • Why fuck has this a week

  • Doesn't exist... Just like Santa, stop making excuses

    • It does exist and there are no excuses. Your opinion is wrong.

  • I'm asexual

    • Same

  • Incorrect. Asexuality is the ability to self reproduce reproduce (e. g. flat worms)
    A human calling themselves asexual implies either a belief they are the reincarnation of the virgin Mary or a severe lack of understanding of etymology (the kind of lack of understanding that indicates one shouldn't be coming up with names for things)

    • Definitions can change and one word can have more than one meaning. Your point is null.

  • nice one

  • Bullshit and it only trivializes those who actually are unhappily alone or desire romantic/sexual companionship even more.

    Sometimes I do wish that all countries in the modern west will break up so we can each have our own small areas of sovereignty among those of similar category.

    • It's not trivializing anyone. People who are unhappily alone usually find someone one day. In fact, they are more privileged than asexual people. If someone is unhappily alone and remains that way, then it looks like they need to lower their standards and their entitlement.

  • To be completelyltylyy honest

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