Sexual Relationships 
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Sexual addiction can come in many forms. For me, it was like... a new year, a new addiction. And well, you know its bad when you set aside other activities. You know its bad when you dont care who you hurt. You know its bad when you dont care if you even hurt your damn self. You know its bad when you want to do risky things in risky places. You know its #ALowDownDirtyShame when you just like it straight raw... if you know what i mean...
I hate giving in to sexual temptation because its so hard to resist once the addiction has started. I guess fighting sexual tension for so long (by simply not thinking about it and doing nonsexual things to occupy myself) just makes it that much worse once finally giving into something sexual. It’s like... whats the healing factor ya know? Well, below are a few of the sexual addictions I’ve dealt with.
SOFT PORN ADDICTION
In late 2006, i had a softporn addiction after being introduced to the late night shows on HBO/Cinemax/Showtime. I’d stay up late nights on school nights, just watching the romantic scenes. Yes softporn films on those channels were quite romantic but dont show shit lol. I didn't know what “flicking the bean” was til like 3 years later when a friend taught me what touch. Anyways, I would accidentally buy PPV porn and then blame other family members in the house. I never got caught but finally told my mom the truth in 2020. Meanwhile, I forced myself to stop watching softporn after those 2 months of addiction.
PUBLIC SEX ADDICTION
In late 2009, I had a bit of an exhibitionist addiction. That year I was pressured into losing my virginity to my ex. After so many times of hating sex, I eventually learned to like it. Even worse, he kept making us do it in public places. We got caught by so many classmates, family, friends and enemies. Yet i’d deny deny deny. As a result, I got bullied at school because of it. But afterwhile, I started to like this new me... and so i started to own up to it. I wanted to get caught even more than before. I think part of it had to do with having to hear my mom get laid. It fcked me up in the head as I cried myself to sleep because i didn't want to hear her moans. I didn't want anyone touching my mom. I thought he was hurting her and when i tried to cockblock, she’d snap at me and put me out. So as a revenge plot, i wanted her to catch me having sex so she could understand how I felt. Instead, it was Her boyfriend who kept catching me around town. He’d tell my mom but she never believed him. Funny she believed me when i told him he bought the PPV softporn. But til this day, she has never caught me...
MASTURBATION ADDICTION
In late 2015, I grew addicted to masturbation. My first ex had always fingered me, but never teased my [SHUT THE FRONT DOOR] nor taught me to touch myself. So when i started watching hardcore porn, it helped me in terms of experimenting. Once i started to play with myself, I couldnt stop. I was addicted for I’d say 3 months straight. I couldnt stop no matter where i went. I was skipping meals, not sleeping, dodging family time. Even if i hung out with someone, i’d sit far away from them and throw something over my lap to cover me, then I’d go at it. I never even had to think about anything. I just enjoyed the feeling of being penetrated until it hurt. I don't know what came over me, but I was happy once i forced myself to stop. However, i then turned to nipple play and it was an addiction for about a good year. Now I've trained myself to have mentalgasms in which i orgasm just from seeing/hearing something really hot and dont even have to touch myself. Its much better than physical addiction and more easy to control.
SEXTING ADDICTION
In late 2016, i had a sexting addiction. No i didn't send nudes but i still made things worthwhile just using my words and a few seductive pics and gifs. It became about getting off to those who got off. Yet, After satisfying one, i couldnt just go on about my day. I had to go for another and another. I was just never satisfied. I forced myself to stop after i started to get caught up. It felt like cheating although it wasn't. But still, That “one crush” would feel hurt after realizing he wasn't the only. I just felt like an awful person and wanted to be better so I made myself stop.
HARDCORE PORN ADDICTION
In 2018, I had a hardcore porn addiction. No matter how good my ex gave it to me, i wanted to keep going and well, when he went to sleep, I’d sneak and watch porn. The one time i didn't was when I nearly killed us both by going at it from 10am that morning til 2am the next morning. I couldnt part my legs for a good 24 hours after and neither of us could hardly walk. I guess sometimes you just gotta tapout to not need porn after.
PHONE SEX ADDICTION
In 2019, I had a phone sex addiction. Saying those things were 10 times more powerful than texting them. At first, i was fine just making that one guy go nuts. When we ended, i was fine making another go crazy. It was good longterm stuff with people i thought i’d end up with forreal. But other problems started to overpower the sexual pleasure. So once i decided to just remain single that year, the sexual addiction came back. Once again, I just wanted to make as many bust a nut as possible. And i’d just never take a break. It was call Ted. Hangup. Call Ned. Hangup. Call Fred. Hangup. Call Ed. Hangup. No matter how much I came... #NeverSatisfied
I realized these addictions came about partially from not truly loving myself. Once i did, it became so much easier to resist temptation and sexual addiction. As of 2020 i was very proud of myself. I fought off all of these addictions and just stuck to being a minor tease. As of 2021, I nearly caved but thanks to rejection, I was knocked back into focus and will keep holding back until i feel i’ve met the right one. Sometimes you just gotta be turned down by a man of God to get it together. Lesson Learned: DO BETTER.
Now a lot of you will realize, when i turn down your PM’s, its for my own good. See, porn, sexting and phone sex are things that can mess with you mentally but i just wouldn't be able to live with myself if i had gotten physical and had actual sex with so many men. Anyways, if you’re dealing with a sexual addiction, try and fight it. Some need therapy, some need prayer. I think most just need time. It’ll die down on its own.
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What Girls & Guys Said
19 77My struggle is masturbation addiction. Before I had a soft core porn addiction but I was asked by a girlfriend to stop watching porn. So I simply did. That led to me getting off on pure memories without any aide at all. It took awhile to adjust but I wound up masturbating at the same rate and it felt even more intense.
This is my struggle still I use GAG and sexting to try to control my urges. Its tough. I am thankful that masturbation hurts far less people than sleeping around with strangers.
I appreciate this post.
Thanks and i agree GAG is good to release sexual frustration through our opinions and posts
Yes. I have noticed that you and I are very similar. I believe I stole your cover photo. I hope that doesn't offend you. But yes, sometimes I have to moderate and redirect my sexual obsession through hobbies like GAG or writing erotica novels rather than acting it out in an unhealthy way with sex with strangers.
It does bother me but i can't control what u do
I've never really gotten off on sexting but it's actually fun if you can get yourself and another deep romantic going. I like to try to insert some erotica into it and I'm liking the idea of sending pics like that one i recently uploaded. No body shown but like eyes, lips, etc. I'm getting some ideas in my head. I wonder if I could get someone comfortable enough from online to engage with it and practice. Its just I don't know its fun and it makes you feel maybe not horny (i mean it can sometimes) but makes you feel appreciated while not having your anxiety go spinning sometimes.
I prefer phone sex rather than sexting
I've only done it with one girl and it was corny af. Simply put... she was bad at it... so so bad it turned me off to it lol. Desi if you were able to listen in... omg it was cartoonishly bad. If there is one thing I can't stand it's an over the top fake lol. Please if you aren't feeling it stop! And she was breathing into the phone so heavy. I was trying not to laugh at the performance tbh. Its nothing like I envisioned it being. xD
I still struggle with sexual addiction for a multitude of reasons predominantly related to depression and loneliness. To save everyone from that and to stop myself from doing risky things, I moreso take it out on myself until I can get therapy and get over it because... It's easier to outrun drug addictions than it is for sexual addiction. I gave up marijuana for a long time and still battle with sexual addiction.
Well im glad you quit the drugs. i hope you overcome sexual addiction soon. I dialed back and now watch porn a few times instead of all day daily
I think I'm starting to make progress.
Good. Im proud of you
Brave of you to share this, hopefully it will help anyone else who has any of the problems above. I had a sexual addiction that I just managed to get rid of last year. Not a "sex" addiction but something within the sexual realm. Feels freeing to have overcome that.
Yea it feels great to overcome it. I didn't have a sex addiction per say but def sexual addictions
i dont think i brelieve in sexual addiction and im very sexual person i mean my sessiuon goes as far as 15 times a day well when i would get lucky. my girlfriend and i go add it when we see each other i mean nnonestop. yes in the past it got in the way jobs, school, and family. some people go as far as picking up a hooker not because he's desperate but for the thrill clearly there's a problem but its not a sex its something elseb at work here and sex in this situation is used as ac release.
I didn't believe it either til it hit me
I believe it now. I mend I was very sexual but I never fell into temptation or chest on my girl a person with addiction goes as far as paying for sec Just for the thrilll
Tmi.
Well its meant to help not harm. But now you can move on from it
Thanks for sharing with us, I went through my own porn addiction
when the very first time I got on the Internet in the year 2006 and I joined
these penpal anonymous websites where you could be anyone you
wanted to be Kupika / Yahoo Chatrooms/ AOL Chatrooms yes I
would find someone to chat with who could be naughty as me but
I had to be careful of their age also I did watch the soft porn on
Cinemax and loved dirty movies from there and I had one saved
Vintage porn it was about this Woman had a Maid and when her
Husband went out to work, she and the Maid made out and the
Maid ate her out and she pulled the Maid down on her and
they fucked wow talking about a good porn video I feel bad
I deleted it cause some of Christian beliefs is why I gave up
I have a porn video of this brother who caught his sister flickering
her bean she has her hand down in her pants that teases me
so your not alone growing up as a teen I was age 13-15 had no
shame to be at the friends house and show my hard dick in
my pants you could see it hard in my shorts
Yea Christian beliefs stopped me as well
@dizzydesii I overcame a lot of the addictions since I first got it I try to pray to help me out
It's always the quiet ones...
Lol like who? I’m definitely not quiet 🤣 but i’m just glad i didn't have a physical addiction that led me to sleep with a bunch of people. i wouldve never forgiven myself
I know, I am just kind of overwhelmed with this. You just seem so demure.
Yea well my first boyfriend got me all sexual. Outside of him and my other ex, i’ve only used my words. I've never done nudes and never slept with more than 2 people so im not too ashamed
Thanks for sharing this. You've gone through a lot, you're strong. And on GAG there are so many people here looking for nudes or to sext. On one hand I feel like it's crazy, but on the other, you've overcome so many obstacles, I'm not worried :)
Thank you 🙏
When I was a teenager I thought about sex a lot it's normal I experience it at 13 I lost my V card it's was great me and my ex where together for 8 years we did everything together we graduated high school she went too a community college and I went too tech school I became a electrician she became a teacher our sex life was really great she brought another woman in too our bed she was our best friend we always talked about what we could do too spice it up at the end we broke up on good terms I'm still friends with her 17 years later ... And I'm sorry what happened too you sweet heart no lie my heart just broke for u when I read your other post another man taking advantage it's not your felt u was traped u was scared your young I wish I wish your friend because I would of took the law in too my and our hands that dude would of got the beat down that scum bag BUT hun your still young I think right just take your time pick the right man that would die for u before hurting your feelings and experience the spicey crazy passionate sexy lovings that you been waiting for u can be a addict with your soulmate you still have plenty time that scumbag took nothing from u just block that past out of your mind your still in charge of what you want too experience out of being in love with another you will be able too let loose do what you want that day will turn in too years/ the rest of your life just be patient and live life well enjoy it my friend and thank u for sharing I know I was talking about your other post and this one just what happen too you was wrong just remember it's your life you charge you super woman ok you got this❤️🙏!!!
Can you believe that ex is now a father to a daughter? And thank you for the words of encouragement :) im definitely trying to hold back for the right one
I can never get that gif of that phone with a tongue out of my head now... thanks.
You’re welcome. Just dont get addicted. Battle it out 🙌
Only thing I'm addicted to at the moment is alcohol got to fight that urge everyday.
Please please please fight it. I dont wanna see you go down that path
Don't worry I've been sober for almost a year. I made a promise to someone and to myself to stay that way. Otherwise I'd be in real trouble.
I'm proud of you for being able to self reflect and beat down your demons. One things for sure your husband is going to be a lucky man. Just remember sex isn't bad and being kinky isn't bad as long as you're not hurting anyone including yourself. You have a strong will and can accomplish anything you put that mind too
Thank you :) i dont view sex as bad but i think its better to wait for that special someone
In the end how did you overcome all of these addictions so fast?
haven't gotten over the exhibitionist one. I grew bored of the sextinh after a few months. I narrrowed porn down to twice a week. I only do phone sex after at least a month of talking. Sex after like 6 months+ of dating. I stopped masturbating and just have mentalgasms.
Can a man achieve mentalgasms too? How do they feel? How should I practice them? Thanks in advance
Its hard to explain without actually beinf sexual. I taught my exes in person or through phone sex. At least 4 achieved it
Porn marathons and having sex till you tap out is fine. Your only issue is when you dragged public voyuerism, and multiple phone sex partners into the mix, and also trying to cockblock your mom (or even being upset over sex noises) isn't cool.
I don't reccomend giving up porn of you are that horny all the time, porn is literally the best way to safely tap out without negative consequences, and if you deprive yourself of the amount of stimulation that you need, you will have stronger urges to do the actual risky negative stuff on that list.
The voyuerism was more so exhbitionism because others were watching us. The phone sex addiction was literally a 2016 month thing and its not like nudes were traded so i dont feel too bad for doing it but more so for seeinf people as disposable at the time. I think cockblocking as a kid is absolutely fine. 🤷♀️ I’m hardly horny. I watch porn for entertainment. I haven't even regularly masturbated since like 2017. I just do it when teasing whoever im dating now and since I’m single for most of this year, that isn't often. Masturbation just doesn't do it for me. Porn is more of a way to distress. Its my guilty pleasure. Im not depriving myself. I just dont want it. Of course i want hugs and kisses and maybe even other foreplay but i just dont crave oral and sex that often and feel theyre overrated. Im more mentally and emotionally stimulated rather than physically
I meant exhbitionism. And ok, your post didn't make it seem like that though.
I was describing my past. The majority of the stuff im referring too happened between 2007-2018... the ages of 12-22. In 2019, i started to revert back to my 2016 ways but caught myself early. I’ve grown a bit since.
good stuff here
Thanks i think
it is a compliment. informative.
That explains a lot.
Thank you so much for sharing.
Sounds like you're getting this under control so I've got nothing else to say other than kudos to you for owning it and fixing it.
Well done.
Yea this is what i wanted to tell you yesterday
I just saw something you posted a year ago... I guess ur not feeling like that anymore
Which post?
Cuckolding... you responded that you weren't into that but liked the idea of a bunch of guys watching you fuck and jerking off
To me, cuckolding is wanting someone yo watch your spouse do someone else. I wanted someone to watch me and my man do eachother. I like an audience and thatspart of the public sex addiction. But i dont want to do the audience. I want to do my man only
*to me cuckolding is watching your spouse do someone else
Yup..
Why just “yup”? Did you read the first part i wrote to that before the star correction
Sorry, I was dozing off. I've never had that relationship officially... I mean my first wife cheated, I caught her in the act twice but didn't know what to do about it. I watched through the bedroom window both times. And I know she cheated a lot more. We got divorced after 2 years.
Im glad you left her. But no im bot a cuck. Im too jealous to share a partner or myself. I just like having an audience. Its more of an exhibitionist thing
And with my current wife, while we dated she fucked around a lot and I just told her to keep doing it if she wanted. I'd wait for her to come around. She did. I wouldn't recommend that approach to everyone. But we made the most of it. Got kinkier until we finally got married.
Oh yea i won't ever say that. In my other mytake qhen he asked me if randoms could suck his dick while we dated, i never said yes. He just snuck and did it anyways. If im dating someone, i just want us to focus on eachother. They need to get all their playtime out before they try to get with me
That's what she did. We've been faithful for 17 years but we talk about all the crazy shit we did before. On occasion some stories pop up that we'd forgotten all about and we share all the stories in bed. Keeps things spicy.
Lol whenever i tell a guy my stories, he gets insecure 😂 so thats why i prefer to share them on GAG and tone down my experience when dating. Like i’ll tell them i’ve been with two people which is true. But i won't tell them how many times me and those two people had sex. I’ll let em think it was a one time mistake
Oh wow
Yepp
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, Dizzy Desi!
Anytime
i never thought of it as addiction more of a need
Yea i dont “need” it. Mine was more of a want and tease
Hahahahah the duck
Loll thats how people reacted when they caught us
Oof I bet
Most were voyeurs so we didn't find out til a day later when they told us what they saw