I'm kind of conflicted about this and I could use some advice. I'm almost 20 and have never had sex or a boyfriend before. I'm not feeling pressured or anything, but I do want to have a plan for how i want to approach eventually losing my virginity whenever that happens. I guess what I'm afraid of is regret.
Like: Either I lose my virginity to a one-night stand/casual thing and later when I've found my person, I regret not waiting for him.
Or: I wait for my person, and afterward feel regret that I've kind of locked myself down and won't be able to have more experiences. I don't know if I'm naturally kind of withdrawn not really out there, or if I'm opened up sexually I'll suddenly find out I'm a lot more of a sensual person who wants to have experiences.
Could use some advice, and some people to talk this through with who've maybe had this conflict before too. Also, I respect all people's choices, but I don't want to be just told to wait until marriage if you're religious because no matter what I do, I'm not into that. I also won't be responding to toxic stuff about girls losing value without their virginity.
My problem is that I don't know what kind of person I am. Some people know off the bat that they don't really care about having more than one partner. Some people know they want to have a few before finding their one. So the reason I'm conflicted is because i recognize both sides of that in me and i don't want to get it wrong. Regret is one of the worst feelings in the world.
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