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Bisexuality Is a Myth

I don't believe there are any true bisexuals. Yes, each gender can have sexual relationships with both genders, but that alone doesn't cut it. Women seem to be the most receptive to bisexuality, and it seems a greater percentage of women experiment sexually with each other than men do amongst each other...by far.

Bisexuality Is a Myth

But at some point, that experimental phase ends and women usually choose a side (or a team) once and for all.

Men, on other hand, don't experiment with each other to the extent women do. If they are indeed having sex with both genders concurrently, it's most likely a hidden and furtive thing. I usually see this in situations where the man feels ashamed about his attraction for males (usually due to family upbringing or living in a conservative place) so he dates women and has sex with women just as a cover to appear 'normal' to everybody else in his community. But while doing this, he sneaks around and has a totally double life seeing men on the down and low. The man is actually gay, but for a period of time continues to have sex with women to "keep up appearances."

So, at the end of the day, people are fundamentally either gay, or they are straight, but not a mixture of both. You can't play for both teams forever, gotta choose a side.

Bisexuality Is a Myth
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Most Helpful Girl

  • "You can't play for both teams forever, gotta choose a side."
    So if a man is bi but ends up marrying a guy, you're going to say he's gay? Even though he's also sexually attracted to girls?

    Like... what in the actual fuck is this argument even lol. You do understand that sexual attraction isn't something you choose, right? Therefore you can't "pick a side", you're already on whatever side you're on, and that's that. That's like me saying you can't find both blondes and brunettes attractive at the same time, YA GATTA PICK A SIDE MAN IT'S EITHER BLONDES OR BRUNETTES!1!!1

    • How about Jodie Foster or Kristen Stewart, they used to be super straights and dated many guys, now suddenly they are lesbians, they finally picked a side, your logic is bullshit!.

    • @Xaviers They grew up in an era where it wasn't acceptable to be gay? And being celebrities they were under extreme public scrutiny? They didn't "pick a side", they just came out.

    • @cipher42 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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  • Why do so people feel the need to tell others they are wrong about their own sexuality?
    I'm bisexual. I find both men and women attractive. I enjoy sex with both. I think I know what I am. I think I know myself better than anyone else.
    it kinda pisses me off when people think they have the right to tell others about bisexuality when they aren't bi them self.
    So how about you just worry about your own sexuality? Instead of thinking you're an expert on other people's

    • You're only 19. Get back to me in a few years for a reaccessment.

    • Its not going to change. I've known i've liked both since I was like 12

    • Same

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  • hi, ooo this has ramped it up a bit... my personal favourite to go scientific is a scale from 0 to 7 straight to homosexual according to the study no one is at either end of the scale. All terminology is human made so therefore troublesome, I've known of girls had men whole lives, kids etc then gone onto females, getting more common in fact where im from, girls who experiment and enjoy other girls only date guys, some girls only ever girls, ONLY ever met guys whove always been into guys mmmmm xx

  • I'm curious the way you seem to phrase things. If I am in a relationship with a man I am straight, and if I am in relationship with a female I am gay. So I am bisexual if I am single?

    I have had realationships with both men and women. I have had sex with both men and women...

    Do you think that when a man settles down and gets married that he is no longer attracted to females who are not his wife?

    • Yes, the man attracted to females who are not his wife, but he less likely to have sex with them compared to his bi wife, who always fucks her other " bi friends" when husband is away!

    • @Xaviers See this is where I find the disconnect. Somehow you equate bisexuality with promiscuity. Heterosexual= sexual attraction to opposite gender Homosexual= sexual attraction to same gender Bisexual = sexual attraction to both opposite and same gender. Anyone of these people is capable of infidelity, and one of these people is capable of monogamy If I am fucking a man, I still find other women sexually arousing. If I am fucking a man, I still find men who are not my partner sexually arousing. If you find men and women sexually arousing and desire sex with both men and women, then that is bisexual. I don't cheat on my partners, wheather I am currently dating a male or female. My sexuality doesn't change change depending on who I am currently dating either. I am bisexual all the time.

    • Bisexuality doesn't exist, it's just an state where you can decide what is tastier, is it apple or is it orange, what tastes more, some prefer apple more some prefer orange more... some are lust to eat both at the same time , some even can't decide what to eat... If you are a girl 5%straight and 95% gay then I would think twice before marrying you...

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  • There's a much simpler explanation for the phenomenon you're observing. It's called monogamy. If you can only legally marry one person, that pretty strongly encourages bisexuals to at least consider which sex they'd rather be with if they had to make the choice. Because they do. We force them to make that choice. That is our culture.

    This, however, has nothing to do with orientation. Orientation is a matter of nature. It is who you are, not who you do.

    • We don't force anybody to get married or be monogamous. That's privately up to them.

    • True, but how many states allow multiple marriages simultaneously?

    • People have monogamy taught to them at a very early age. It's fed to them through literally every form of media. Not only that but polyamorous marriage isn't allowed. In fact, it's a crime. That's called adultery in the west, even if everyone involved is consenting. You're really blurring the lines between "forced" and "strongly encouraged" here man. It seems like a moot point to me.

  • I'd just like to point out that having sex with a man doesn't mean that you're gay, nor does it mean that you're straight just because you don't have sex with men.

    To be homosexual is to have the desire flit sexual relations with the same sex, even if you don't act on them.

    Bisexuality is no different. You have the desire for both genders.

    The act doesn't define it, it's the desire.

    • *For, not flit

    • But bisexuality is more than just being sexually attracted to both sexes. It's also being capable of forming EMOTIONAL connections with both sexes. To simply be attracted to both sexes is not enough.

    • @misstalia_95 Actually there are two terms to describe realationships. 'sexual' and 'romantic' you can be heterosexual and biromantic, meaning you find the opposite sex arousing and you can have romantic feeling for both sexes. It started as a way to clarify why asexuals could form romantic bonds without sexual desire then people realized it could be used to describe other realationships as well.

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  • This makes no sense. Just because male bisexuality is more stigmatized than female bisexuality doesn't somehow mean bisexuality is a myth. It's also possible to be attracted to both men and women and to settle down with either one man or one woman. Just like you might be attracted to both blondes and brunettes, and just because you marry a blonde doesn't mean you automatically stop being attracted to brunettes.

    • Being merely casually "attracted" to one sex seems to be setting a very low bar to qualify as Bisexuality. Anybody can be merely "attracted" to one sex or the other. It seems like there should be a more active impulse at play... being "sexually attracted " enough to want to fu@& their brains out on a 24/7 basis. Lol

    • By "attracted," I mean sexually/romantically attracted. Someone you'd like to have sex and/or a relationship with. Not merely acknowledging that someone is attractive, of course that is different.

  • Your logic isn't logical. It's subjective homophobic speech...
    I guess whatever you need to tell yourself to feel better.

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    • This logic is logical according to nature, but not for your mentality, homosexuals and bisexuals are "trick of nature", they are here for control the over population, I'm not sure if that trick even works, since they're trying to make babies with help of new technology (specially lesbians),... and bisexuals... they don't even have a specific "orientation" like straights or gays do, they play the both straight and gay side time to time being based on their preference!, since most women are like to play the gay side... you're no different either and hate this take is acceptable. lol

    • I'm not homophobic. I don't know where you're getting that information.

    • It's not homophobic, it's just a drastic misunderstanding. How could one expect a monosexual know how or what a true bisexual feels. To be fair to the author, there are some truly homosexual or heterosexual people who do claim to be bi to hide their sexuality/experiment. They are bicurious, not bisexual. Not that it's a bad thing either, they are just mislabeled.

  • lol no true heterosexuality is a myth. Its only because of Abrahamic religion that's shaped us to fear any same sex relations in any capacity and view them as disgusting.

  • It looks like your trying to redefine bisexuality to fit your argument

    Bisexuality is not based on who a person settles down with, but rather who they are attracted too.

    There are a lot of bisexual people who settle into straight or gay partnerships, but that doesn't mean they are no longer attracted to the other, unchosen, sex.

    • That would be like trying to say that men lose sexual attraction for every other female just because he was married...

    • @dragonfly6516 Bingo!

    • @dragonfly6516 But why would anybody "settle down" with somebody whom they aren't sexually attracted to? There has to be a difference between "merely being attracted" to somebody and being "I-want-to-bang-you-right-now-you're-irresistible" sexually attracted to somebody. I don't understand why people would waste their time settling down with the former rather than the latter. Seems like some folks just want to keep all options on the table for eternity. It's like... c'mon, folks, take a stand. Quit being so wishy-washy.

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  • I would disagree. The idea behind being homosexual as opposed to bisexual, is that you ONLY find your own gender attractive, as opposed to finding both genders attractive. You seem under the impression that everyone must only be attracted to one gender and that they just want to put on appearances so that they aren't judged. But then there are guys who are pretty openly bisexual. This is kind of where your argument falls apart. Besides that, you have made assumptions and judgements that MIGHT be true. However, you've merely made statements without siting any evidence to back your ideas up. Besides that, you can only know your own mind and your own desires. It is impossible for you to know exactly what someone else likes because you can't think exactly like them.

    • I think I address your concerns in some of my other replies. I appreciate your clearly written thoughts and keeping the tone civil. Cheers.

    • Cheers to you as well!

  • I can't tell if you wrote this to troll or if you're serious. You're logic is completely flawed. It is absolutely 100% possible to be bisexual. Just because you end up with one gender possibly for life doesn't mean you don't still find both genders attractive.

    • How is it possible to be straight and gay/lesbian simultaneously? I don't get that.

    • @Ashley234 By finding both genders attractive. It's really not that hard to get.

    • But how? You either end up being straight or gay/lesbian in the end.

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  • The experimental phase never ended for me. I'm bi and I have always been, and always will be.

  • You are wrong, I am not gay. I like both but prefer men because I want babies and a family, I would give up women in all their sexiness for a traditional life, not ashamed of my urges I just know I am not gay because I like dick... a lot. I have never met a girl I don't think would get with another girl, most of them don't get along because they have sexual urges for each other, I know. So this would mean according to your article, all women are gay.

    • Ummmm. I never said you were gay, I just said there is no such thing as a bisexual. People are either gay or straight. So it sounds like you're straight. Bravo. We're on the same page. 😊

    • all women are bisexual

    • @daveses Then I guess I'm gay, dude.

  • Women are bisexual because they are designed by evolution to remain in harems with other women. Only the modern era tries to stamp this desire out with the princess fantasy where they all get one handsome rich prince. Deep down in reality women are designed to lay naked with other women waiting for a master to come and impregnate them. Once pregnant the other women act as the handmaiden who assist the pregnancy. That was the true role of women for generations and it is also why women seem to clique more often than men, even going to the bathroom together. They are designed to assist each other in pregnancy.

    As for bisexuality. I will say homosexuality in men is not common because it offers little evolutionary advantage. Additionally most male "homosexuals" are actually bisexual, they will have sex with a woman if the opportunity arises. It simply doesn't arise that often because they don't seek it. Homosexuality exists as an after affect of war however. People forget that women rarely were found on battlefields, so some men would develop attachments to each other due to the long stretches wandering the forests. The ancient Romans did describe romances between warriors which would improve their fighting spirit and cohesiveness. Rare and considered a necessary evil (feminine cabin boys were used for these purposes too) these male buggers weren't really exploited by many other men and the few who did wouldn't often talk of it. Over time these rare few individuals would survive due to their battlefield lovers protecting them during battles and although they would be less likely to reproduce since they were homosexual, their sibling families would get access to their finances so the gene that produced their type would be sustained. Over time as war changed their type became more and more of an archaic function and less and less tolerated by most.

  • No.
    They don't always choose a side A.
    B. even if they choose a side sexuality is attraction to sexes, not who you are dating at the time or end up dating.
    C. Poly relationships are a thing.
    D. Open relationships and threesomes are a thing.

    • Who in their right mind would date somebody they aren't sexually attracted to? That would be like me "dating" a man but being sexually attracted to women. Who wastes their time like this? Yes, Poly relationships obviously exist on paper. That doesn't make anybody in that relationship automatically Bisexual. Same thing with part D. above. I would like to see where the whole Poly thing is at in 10 years. People just have too much time on their hands these days. Smh.

    • @MoveLikeJagger You didn't refute anything I said except try and saying "Poly relationships don't last" as some sort of factual argument. It's not. So I'll take that as you understanding and admitting you are wrong. Lmao. I don't even know what "Who in their right mind would date somebody they aren't sexually attracted to?" refutes since that has nothing to do with what I said at all.

  • 😂 Thanks for the laugh. I needed it

    • You should be laughing a lot at your age. What's funny is how it's always the youngest members who are the most firm and stubborn in their convictions.

  • This take includes no evidence for what it is claiming...

    • My evidence is twenty years at least of real-life observation out in the field. Add to that a little bit of intuition and common sense.

    • Add all that up and mix it in a bowl and you've got... a bowl full of fuckall.

    • @HungLikeAHorsefly Lol ! Well you can say this in response to just about anything. Non sequitur.

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  • Lots of hot takes here but no supporting facts. A real GaG shocker. LMAO

  • Hahahahahahahahahaahaha *snort*
    Now that I have composed myself, there isn't any scientific evidence for your claims. And if you claim "observations" then let me take a minute to thank the universe that actual science has a lot more to it, than observing.

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    • Uhhhhh... science is all about making repeat, testable observations. If you're not observing, you're not doing science.

    • That's why I said science had more to it than observing. Once again, the key words we are looking for are, "more to it." We need more readers in the world.

    • Okay, after we 'observe' our science experiments, what do you say we do to make it even more science -like? You have some hidden steps to the scientific method that the rest of humanity is ignorant of? Please we would love to know!!!

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  • Haha bruh. Man some people believe the world is just black and white. Nothing in the world is always black or white, there will always be some grey in between somewhere.

    • Good and realistic answer!

    • @Vanjasper This is not an answer to anything. It's a non sequitur. This answer can be given to virtually any question that was ever asked ever. It shines no light.

    • While your general statement is relatively true, it gives us no information on anything and I don't see how it answers any questions. Please cite particulars.

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  • For males, you are probably right. The gay guys I know who thought they were straight, then thought they were bisexual, were just gay all along and didn't realize it.

    For women, it isn't the same thing. According to some lesbians who have studied the matter (and my bisexual girlfriends of the past agree with them), in the context of women, bisexual means they desire physical relationships with both sexes, but that does not mean they desire emotional relationships with both sexes. They tend to want their primary relationship to be with a man, but they still enjoy being with women.

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