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Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

Disclaimer: I'm not bashing anyone that does it or loves it or anything like that. I'm just giving a few reasons why I'm not into it. Please don't have a heart attack. Thanks.

Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

Oral. Fellatio. Brain. Top. Head. BJ. The blow job. There are many names for it. No matter what it's called, I'm not too fond of the idea of doing it. Yes, I said idea. As in, I've never done it before. And before the guys come in and want to crucify me, I'm NOT one of those girls that expects you to dine at Y with no intentions of using my brain afterwards. That's foul. There are three main reasons why I've stayed away from slobbing on the knob (seriously, how can people say that with a straight face? I laughed for a good 2 minutes here) thus far.

My Gag Reflex Sucks

Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

I have a HORRIBLE gag reflex (it's a wonder how I've made it almost 2 years here huh. Get it? No? Ok). It's so bad that I'm damn near throwing up every time I brush my teeth. Do you really want to play Russian Roulette with puke and your junk? Pretty sure you'll lose to my gag reflex every time. For all my lengthy Lenny's out there. Sorry guys.

I Have A Small Mouth

Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

Not abnormally small, but small enough that's it's difficult to get dental work done. My dentist always has to use stretchers, which absolutely kill my jaws. My mouth just won't open really wide. To give you an idea, here's a picture of a drink:

Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

I open most drinks like these with my teeth because my hand is messed up from RA and it's easier. I can't buy drinks with lids this size unless I'm with someone, because I can't fit them in my mouth. So yes girthy Gary's, this means you.

I Overthink Everything

Blow Me: Why I'm Not Into Giving Oral

Precisely. I live inside of my head on a daily basis. If you combine that with what I listed above and add to it the fact that I'm not comfortable with the idea of it giving head to begin with, and you'll have a recipe for disaster. I know myself. I'd be worrying about not using teeth, trying to relax my throat that doesn't relax, my face hurting after 3.5 seconds etc, and trying to be sexy while doing all of that. Not gonna happen.

I know I'm going to get the "how will you know if you never try" comments. I'm not saying that I'll never try. I'm saying that even if I do, I know that I won't be a fan of it. Too many factors that lean towards the negative. So for now the only thing I'll be sucking off is a blow pop. 🍭🍭🍭

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  • You could just mostly use hands and suck the head only. Or even lick certain spots, like if you goggle for the terms there's a spot or 2 on the dick that's almost like a clit.

    • That's what someone else suggested too

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    • Lmaooo whattt?

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    • Oh, this is just perfect lol

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  • I dont like if he always asks. Let me do it on my own volition, my own terms. I don't like being asked to do sexual things over and over to the point that I'm like "FINE, here take this vag/mouth/butt and do as you please just shut up and leave me alone already".
    But if it's on my own terms, I'm ok with it.

    • Lmaooo I totally get that

  • I feel you on the small mouth thing. You just work what you got, haha. I see you already have received some good recommendations to work around that issue, though, should you ever give oral, though.

    • Lol yes I have

    • I said "though" twice in the same sentence. 😱 Shame on me.

  • I always thought giving oral would be AMAZING. You know what? I don't hate it. I do like it, but it reality took it down a few notches for me. But my SO takes a while so my mouth usually gets tired, that's not usually in your expectation. I'm not crazy about the taste of semen, never thought it would bother me, I knew it wouldn't taste like candy... but I just REALLY don't like his. I know not every guy is like this but I don't like it.

    • Worrying about my mouth getting tired is for sure in mine lol. Guys put so much importance on blow jobs that I don't feel like there's a point on doing it since I know that I'm gonna be shit at it. And then there's that whole taste thing lol smh

    • See, my SO says I'm great at it, and it's kind of fun but halfway through I'm like... can you please hurry up? I never say it, but it's definitely what I'm thinking

    • Lol I can only imagine. Like bruhhh

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  • I don't like receiving oral either. No problem for a guy like me.

    • Unfortunately it's rare for guys not to like them

    • Actually, I've not tried it. My friends say, I'll forget vaginas after having my first bj. Let's see lol.

    • Lol oh man

  • I have no problem with sucking dick

    • Most women don't...

  • it is the little part of your brain that takes over with sex that enables you do things you normally wouldn't do. It squirts chemicals into your body that cause you to... well... give in. Then when you recove, r you are back to normal.

    I recall hearing about this stuff when I was young and thought was gross and didn't believe it was true. Things change as you get older and hormones change. It is still gross though:)

    I've heard there are "phermones" in the sweat around that area, so it may be that changes the equation?

    It's ok though, always thought it was odd. really, not a problem and its ok. It's your brain, your body, your sex life. noone should make or require you to do something you don't want to.

    • Thanks

    • That's not actually true. That has no scientific basis.

    • And your brain doesn't squirt anything. Lol

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  • I always thought it was weird to put mouth on or insude genitals. I never knew people did it until I discovered p0rn. I was like "What the hell are they doing? They're gonna be sick". I've never received or done it and am totally fine with it. If I had a girl I would not expect her to do it. I understand the technical stuff. Makes sense. If your guy expects you to do it or demands you to do it then he is the wrong guy.

  • So most of it is technical reasons? usually people who are not into giving oral are not into in mainly because they don't like the idea of putting an genital in their mouth. :)

    • I mean I'm not jumping at the idea of putting a dick in my mouth lol, but it's more technical reasons, yes.

  • So you are completely against it, like it's disgusting a turn-off, or is it about how it's done.

    I have really never gotten a GOOD regular BJ (due to my girth)

    But, There are different/alternative techniques. that can give him pleasure.

    the lick:
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    The side suck or what I refer to" french kissing it"

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    3/4" of all the pleasure is at the first 1/4" of the shaft... exactly like with a girl.

    Paying attention to the tip is like a guy concentrating on your Clit.
    Tip sucking;-P
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    • I mean I'm not like

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      every time I think about a blow job or anything. I just know that I won't be good at it so it's like, meh what's the point.

    • Everyone is just SO-So when they first try it. You have to learn what your SO likes, which differs from person to person. It's a learned act.. just like having sex, etc. Everyone gets better at it overtime. I've never found a girl that can give me a Normal one or deep throat... I'm just too thick for it and it can hurt (teeth) when they try.. which kills the mood. A tongue and a pair of soft hands is more than enough to give me the pleasure I need from it.

    • There are people that can and a lot that can't deep throat... and I think it is over-rated anyway... because of most of the pleasure coming from the tip underside of first 3". Deep throating is just more Porn BS. that looks better than it really is. I don't think negatively of the girl if she can't open wide enough. I've tried to see what the issue was and tried to put an arizona Ice tea bottle's neck in my mouth "with out" my teeth touching and couldn't, and I'm thicker than that.

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  • It's okay. Giving oral is a choice, not a duty.

    • Indeed

  • You make really good sense, though maybe stop overthinking things! :-)

    Personally, I love doing and I think it's a lot of fun

    • Lol thanks. I know lots of girls that do.

  • Your points and reasoning are valid. And I think I would die if I were unable to give a beejy.

    But we all know how much I love sucking dick so, I'll leave it there lmfao

    • Lmao yes, we do.

    • Not all of us... ... LOL jk jk!

  • Such a shame. I was about to ask you for one

    lol jk, to each their own. Personally I would really like to give my future girlfriend oral, but I wouldn't be fond of kissing right after she gives me one.

    • So you want her to blow you, but you won't kiss her afterwards?

    • Yes, you stand correct. I have received plenty of hate for this here on gag. Before you get me wrong, know that it is not about me being unappreciative, or finding her disgusting, or anything of the sort at all. It's just me not wanting to taste myself, even if slightly. And no, I am not a hypocrite - if my girlfriend in the future said that she is highly uncomfortable with her own bodily fluids and said that she doesn't want to kiss after going down, I would still go down on her none the less. Because I don't see the correlation between oral and kissing - you can do one without the other. If she didn't want to kiss me after I went down on her then I would respect her discomfort and just not kiss her, but, as I said, I would still none the less eat her out.

    • So do you want her to brush her teeth after foreplay or whatever before continuing with sex? Or you just won't kiss her at all during the actual act of having sex?

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  • There is nothing wrong with that. Good for you for knowing what you are comfortable with and what you are not and being able to voice that :D

    • Thank you!

  • Mmmmm no problem, everybody has their preferences, but you don't actually have to swallow a guys cock to give great head.
    Ok, lots of guys enjoy planting their cock deep into a persons throat, and some people love it, but in reality, licking the head can be enough for many guys.
    Really well endowed guys know that their penis is unlikely to be able to be sucked comfortably, but still appreciate a tongue lashing.
    The main consideration for you should be that the guy is clean, pre-cum or vaginal lubricating juices are fine, they are natural and clean from a healthy person.
    I adore going down on a girl, it is such a beautiful intimate act and tastes divine, and I enjoy it if she licks my cock in a 69.
    As a bi guy I also love sucking cock, so I do know a lot about it, my older brother got me into it at a very young age, and I still enjoy a nice clean hard cock of any dimensions, it can get addictive! Enjoy.

  • That is okay. Frankly the entire concept sounds boring to me. I would rather be the one giving the woman the oral. In return I would rather have foot jobs and be allowed to indulge my fetish.

    • Nooooo!

  • I think men care less about technical sensation and mkre about arousal and enthusiasm then you imagine.

  • Many women feel the same way - It is not unusual - Old joke, why is a woman smiling walking down the aisle on her wedding day? - No more blowjobs.

    • Lmao

    • OMG this can be true.

  • I think it is hot when a girl doesn't like to give oral :) As long as she likes to receive it! haha

  • To each their own. I love it.

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