Boyfriend cheated... and gave me an STD... Should I stay?

Question

So... I already know most people would automatically write this one and keep it moving but there's so much more to this story than the surface. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and he's overall everything that I've been wanting... to say the least, a fresh breathe of air. I have to admt when we first started dating, I didn't think it would become anything long term because he obviously had a lot of growing up to do, and with time he definitely stepped up to the plate. Eventually we made a huge decision to move in with each other. Everything fell into place. We had our arguements and diagreements but we still made it through the rough times. Recently, a trip to lthe clinic where I found out I was infected with trich and some girl he used to deal with popped up pregnant has tremendiously changed how I initially felt about our relationship. Recently, he just admitted he cheated on me twice. I'll admit we did'nt have the kind of relationship we have now, being that my focus wasn't on him but trying to set my life up steady. Once i got to that point, my interest was our relationship. Still, I don't feel thats an excuse considering I NEVER cheated and now I dont trust him and look at him with disgust at times. I have a tremendous amount of love for him but his drama and reckless ways are starting to wear thin with me. All his skeltons from his past have not only come to haunt him, but me as well because I'm dealing with him. In my heart I know he's a great guy, but I am truly troubled...

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

So why to stay:
He used to be a great guy and everything you wanted
You went through rough times together
You love him

Why to break up:
He cheated not only once, but twice
You haven't been together for that long and he has already cheated
He gave you an STD
You don't trust him anymore
You feel disgusted of him
He gives you a lot of stress
Instead of supporting you in a time you work on yourself, he cheats on you

So I guess the choice is pretty clear.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I say go. If he truly wanted to be with you, he would stop cheating. Cheating once is forgiveable, but twice seems to be more of a pattern. Plus some random girl popped up pregnant and he gave you and STI. Sounds to me like he doesn't have any respect for you. If he cared, he would have cared enough to use protection and not expose you to unhealthy situations.

vonasaurus · Accepted Answer

i say go~ he clearly has no regard for your health or well-being, and he can't be trusted. get as far away as you can from this guy, and don't look back.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

you say he has done a lot of growing up in the past year. and yet in the past year he has cheated on you twice, gotten girls pregnant and given you and STD... so what was he 6 when you met him and now he's about 12? that's a joke...

you're trying to rationalize reasons to be with a person. if you get to a point in a relationship where you have to spend time rationalizing reasons to stay with them then you probably just need to move on

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

I didn't read your whole explanation firstly but I didn't need to. If he cheated you can't trust him. It's that simple. The fact that he gave you an STD on top of that is even worse. Doesn't care enough about you to get himself checked or use protection.

NearlyNapping · Answer

This seems like a case where your emotional attachment to this guy is blinding you. You say he is great, but he doesn't seem great at all. As a matter of fact, he seems just the opposite. Wake up, this guy is bad news. Dump his ass already.

LittleSally · Answer

It's ridiculous you think it's fine to stay... The thought in itself is ridiculous.

ichot · Answer

Get in contact with a lawyer and sue that faggot.

Vitdom · Answer

Did he explain why he cheated on you? If he can't, he probably doesn't know why you two are together in the first place. Don't stick around with this guy, he doesn't care.

NatashaJ · Answer

Girl you just been with him for a year, that not enough to keep me staying if he did this to me.

sailorjupiter · Answer

once a cheater, always a cheater

Intraluminal · Answer

Next time it'll be AIDS.

SquireSquirrel · Answer

Leave that guy! Run for the hills and never look back!! 😂

OrangeBoy · Answer

I voted stay by accident...

Yesits_GalaxyHotChoc · Answer

This is a no brainer. GET THE FUCK OUT OF THERE.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

There really isn't anything below the surface, no matter what you tell yourself. Nothing about this sounds healthy. Cut your losses and find someone who respects you.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

now i want you to think about this one for a second... it isn't hard at all

Bobbybish · Answer

Get away from him he thinks too much with his dick. The fact he has an std means he had sex with someone easy which probly makes him easy as well if you get my logic. Find a man with self control/ respect