Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I am in the very early stages of dating but we do go really well together.
So I am wondering can you declare that you are official and not have slept together yet?
I am a person I don't want to sleep with someone I am not commitet to, so I would prefer it if we became boyfriend and girlfriend first, then slept together afterwards.
I know you should kinda test out if you enjoy it first, but I wouldn't be opposed to making out and other things. Just not sex.
Can you be official without having slept together?
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27 61If you're below the legal age of consenting adults then sure its perfectly acceptable to say that your official together if you both are exclusively dating each other
For two adults if it not against your Religious beliefs concerning 1Premarital sex and or you're not still Virgins then it's kinda not official until you have had sex with each other
Yes. Sex is important but relationships without it can still exist, some people wait for marriage.
I don't see why not.
Yea, it's called being exclusive. It's very possible without having slept with them
Obviously, yes. If you're rushing sex like that to make it official, then you're not treating sex with the respect it deserves.
Yes one can, but it IS nice to try the fit out.
But that sounds not nice.
I've found it to be VERY nice.
Yes you don't have to sleep with one another to be "official" that's just bullshit people say to brag.
Sex is not a requirement to make it official, but common sense should tell you that sex should come naturally and if it doesn't happen after more than 6 months (assuming your SO is a virgin), then an evaluation of the relationship should be done. If you are Ok with it, stay, if something is not right, if things are fishy, remember that life can go in a second, don't waste your time.
The initial attraction should be intense. It can last up to 1y½, 3 years. If you are intense and your partner gives mixed signs, be aware.
He's not a virgin, but I am. So I don't want to have sex untill I know he is ready for something longterm. It's cliched but I will probably get a bit attached so I need to be sure first he won't drop me imediately after doing it.
Look, only be honest, don't act like you are ready if you are not. Dishonesty can seriously kill a relationship, and it does it slowly. Also, if you are having jealousy problems and deep insecurities with yourself, better work on that because I am not sure your potential partner is gonna be able to handle your inner problems. He is not a band-aid, much less your superman. Look, I had a 3y LDR. My ex told me she was a virgin, I believed her. During all those years the two of us screwed up the relationship. How did she screw it up? She was a fort Knox when it comes to having sex cam, she was, but what drove me nuts was the fact that the relationship was supposed to be serious and she was like "I am shy, sorry". Only after I cheated on her with online girls and confessed it, she agreed on doing a video call (A simple video call, all I ever wanted. Not sex cam, a simple video call). I waited almost 4 months for 1 video call when we had to be seen each other, at least from month 2. What I mean to say is first, be honest, second, don't be a fort knox or a shell, you'll take him to the limit and either he is gonna cheat or he is gonna leave.
*Is not like I didn't beg for a video call from month 1-2!!!
What? I have no idea what you are trying to say? You're text is all over the place. Did she cheat? Did you cheat? Was she not a virgin? Did you wait years for sex? I can't decipher what you're saying sorry.
That's not relevant. Just take into account this advice: 1) Be honest at all moments (with yourself, with the guy). 2) Don't close yourself, open up to new experiences (constructive experiences), or at least be clear about them.
Absolutely. The terms of the relationship are between the two of you, and NO ONE else.
The definition of being official is what the two of you decide between each other. It definitely does not have to include sex.
Of course! Sex should make the relationship bond greater but it certainly shouldn’t be the basis.
Too many girls these days sleep with a guy straight away and “hope” for a relationship later which usually doesn’t happen.
You do you.
Yes, and if the two of you are not married you should be able to be.
Of course
You're basically asking "can guys and girls be just friends"
And I guarantee you, unless you're gay, they can't be
Yes of course you can
Yes, some couples wait until marriage to have sex
Yah why not
What a silly question born of a sick world. Ofc u dont need to sleep together to make it official, its official when u both agree it js
I am official if we set up a third date. So after a successful second date I won't consider anyone else. I won't have sex until 3 months in which is after the third date. So basically, I won't have sex before we are official.
Yes. Being official is a decision made logically, not with genitals.