Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the beginning...
From a young age I was always quite sexual, I remember masturbaring as young as 5 or 6 years of age, I didn't quite know what I was doing but I knew that rubbing down there felt good so I did it.
I lost my virginity at 17; I was pretty good for a few years and only slept with guys while in a relationship. I jumped from relationship to relationship but a few years ago after a relationship breakdown everything changed.
I started to post on Craigslist for random hook ups; I would sleep with a new guy almost weekly, sometimes I'd meet someone I really clicked with and we'd become friends with benefits. I couldn't tell you what lead me to Craigslist, I don't remember how that part happened.
Although I was sleeping around I was quite picky with who I saw, there was one guy who kept contacting me who I kept rejecting, he eventually offered me $250 for an hour of my time, he lasted 20 minutes but I still got my money and that's how it all started.
The rules...
1. I will not meet married or attatched guys, even though I see this as a job I won't touch another woman's man.
2. I always use condoms plus I am on birth control, I also get tested regularly.
3. I don't see anyone under the age of 20, even though 16 is the legal age of consent where I am from I feel like under 20 is too young.
4. I will not take a guys virginity.
Whoring Around Town...
At the time I was struggling financially, I was behind is so many bills to the point where I was being sent to court if I didn't pay up, to me this was easy money to get out of a bad situation but now it's just something I do for fun.
It was easy to make the transition from casual sex with randoms to getting paid for my time, I do enjoy sex and I needed the money so it was a win/win situation! I work for myself so I don't have to pay someone else to get me clients, I have various ads on different local classifieds pages so I pocket all the cash myself.
by the way it's really difficult to keep explaining to friends why I always have a lot of cash on me, I'm running out of excuses lol
I would say I am still quite picky with who I choose to sleep with but not as picky as I was before. A lot of the time I get a bad vibe from certain men so I do not meet them. My instinct hasn't steered me wrong yet but I will not become complacent, I am always careful.
I see about 4-5 men a week, I have regular clients I see fortnightly and others I see a bit more sporadically but it's a consistent flow whether it's regular clients or newbies.
My sex life is never something I have been ashamed of but it's also not something I share with anyone because people can be quite judgmental and I don't care to deal with it.
I have been doing this for about 3 years now but I'm starting to think I need to end thhis life, find a good guy and settle down. I am not taking on new clients anymore, I am seeing my regaulars but have warned them that I won't be in this much longer.
Choosing this life was easy but stopping it proving to be difficult, I'm getting sick of leading a double life and I hate lying to everybody I care about. I'm slowly taking the steps to get out of the life and I know I'll get there eventually.
Thanks for reading, feel free to ask what ever you want, I am an open book.
Side note: I have been single most of the time I have been doing this and when I was dating someone I stopped, I have never been unfaithful.
What Girls & Guys Said
44 121Yeah, it seems the mentality of "get in, make money then get out" is really helpful.
It is important to note that you should be saving during this time towards a house or something that will greatly help you financially. A lot of people make the mistake of not saving when they have higher income.
I am an economist so I don't really differentiate the jobs you do. It's just another service and perform job like burger sales, in my opinion. The stigma is what weighting you down.
I would strongly suggest you invest and save for a house or towards a degree. Going from $300 an hour for part time to a 30/hr job will be rough. Buy a house and rent it out might be a better deal.
I have a real job, I was only out of work for a few months. I already own my apartment and it's fully paid off too. Thanks for the advice though.
Good read, I don't know a lot of sex workers but I've always assumed that they had their own circumstances in a variety of natures.
You keep doing you and I wish you the best in your future
Well it's good that you're getting out. But how are you going to tell someone while in a relatiinship that you've been this way.
sounds like your a decent girl got your morales in the right place it might be shocking and a turn off to most guys they may reject you because of this but if you find a decent guy he will accept you for who you are
you would have to tell him eventually though
As others have said I won't judge most escorts have their reasons for taking this job - Be safe on the physical side and careful on the mental side, think about how it is affecting you and if ever the cons outweigh the benefits of doing this get out.
Do you ever have orgasms when you are working?
No response I guess. I am genuinely curious.
I have to admit that I find it hysterical that someone who trivializes the most intimate and meaningful relationship that human beings can have with each other by turning it into a cold meaningless financial transaction has all these "rules" about what you will and won't do because you find it morally offensive. Sounds like honor among thieves to me.
were you ever scared of being killed? Prostitutes are prime targets for serial killers
I'd say work on being transparent about yourself, you don't have to live a double life or be dishonest.
And when you do get to where you want to be, I hope that you'll never feel ashamed of where you were
You got to do what you got to do. Good luck getting out!
Interesting take. I just returned from Pensacola and I have never seen a place with so many prostitutes, and I've been to New Orleans twice. It made me wonder how some of them wound up where they are. Thanks for the insight.
I respect your decision and the life you've led, but the point about quitting and finding a guy to settle down with is not really resonating with me.
Unless you tell him about your past.
Are you planning on doing that?
So what is your answer on the question does size matter? Is there a minimum to feel pleasure as a woman? And any tips for guys looking to be good in bed
I guess size matters to a certain extent, many years ago I hooked up with this guy who had a micro penis, it was like 2 inches and thin as well. I honestly couldn't feel it in met, it wasn't much bigger than a tampon. So yeah size doesn't really matter as long as you know how to use it but in saying that bigger does feel better, that's just my personal opinion though, he still has to know how to use it. I feel like a lot of men with big cocks just think their cock can do all the work but that is definitely not the case. In terms of advice I could give anyone is to learn how to read body language, when you're with someone try different things and see how they react to it. If it's a positive reaction then keep doing it. Another thing that's important is to have good communication with the person, ask them what they enjoy, ask them to tell you when they like something or don't like something. I think that's the best sex advice you can get.
So what's the longest size cock you would say you had.
In inches.
My ex boyfriends cock is 9 inches long and thick as well, so thick I couldn't touch my thumb and middle finger together if I had my hand around it. In my opinion, girth is much more important than length.
Yeah, I knew this one girl and she said that she had this guy. He was like over 11 inches and really narrow. She said it hurt like hell because it was like he was jabbing her inside. I thought like wow that's crazy.
Yep, if it's too long then it will hit the cervix and that's not fun lol
Sounds like a very lonely life if you can't be close to someone.
I wouldn't say I'm lonely, I have never felt the need to divulge my sex life to anybody so I'm fine with keep it a secret. The part that gets to me is lying that I was home watching Netflix all night when I was really fucking bob for a few hundred bucks. I
why won't you take a guy's virginity?
I've never understood the appeal of prostitutes. Honestly, they take all the fun and excitement out of hooking up. Where's the sport in paying some guy at the marina 500 bucks for the marlin he caught? The thrill is in catching one yourself in the wild.
That's the thrill for you but some guys aren't looking for thrill, they just want the sexual release and some guys get a thrill out of paying for it. I have one smei regular client who pays me for a full hour of sex and just wants me to give him a blow job for a few minutes and leave. He is turned on by being used for money, I actually feel really guilty doing that but he insists it's what he wants and refuses to pay less.
How can you stand going to work at a normal job when you can make $200 an hour? Unless you've got a REALLY sweet "normal" job.
I don't understand why there is a market for women to be paid for sex honestly. I know there is a huge one, because I know a few people who are or were sex workers, it just blows my mind why guys would find it a good use of their money.
Your guy you gonna "settle down with" is gonna be in for a rough awakening. Shit's gonna come out earlier or later.
it always does.
It's funny, people say that but things don't always come out lol
Keep telling yourself that.
So you're saying that nobody has ever been able to keep certain parts of their past under wraps? Like that's never EVER happen in the whole history of humanity?
Not when those parts were for many people visible. You can keep your thoughts secret, but not your actions.
not a past like his. if say someone secretly used to watch porn... only you and god will know. for you... it's like dominoes-all it'll take is a little tap.
You do realise that most men who pay for sex don't exactly want anyone to know about it so they're not exactly gonna see me down at the shops and yell out to me that they fucked me for money lol Plus I'm not a moron, I take safety precautions. I have a very distinct tattoos under my breasts and another one on my side which I cover up with dermablend in any of my photos I post online and when ever I see clients. I never give it my personal phone number either and I have a fake name. So if anyone ever did try to out me, they wouldn't have a leg to stand on. They don't know my name, where I live, what kind of car I drive, they couldn't even identify my tattoos.
many guys'll brag about having sex with a hot girl. anyone could find out were your got your tats and then, get information that way. or, they could simply run into a picture on the internet. you should also realize that you have much more to lose in terms of rep... otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to hide.
There are a bazillion ways it could come out. And the more clients you had in your time, the more likely it is to come out. Maybe a former client recognises you, maybe a client tells his friend about you and he looks you up and realises you are dating an aquaintance of his, etcetc. You are fucking naive, if you think otherwise.
@Sabretooth I don't tend to post pictures of my private tattoos online and how will people fine out where I got my tattoos? Are they going to go into every tattoo parlour and ask "hey did a woman with brown hair and brown eyes get a tattoo here? One under her tits and another on her side?" Lmao please tell me a scenario where they can figure it out.
@Sabretooth If someone even claimed to sleep with me and tried to out me I would straight up ask them to identify any tattoos I have but you know what? They won't be able to do so, they also won't be able to identify the kind of care I drive because that's very distinct too. Who is going to believe them when they don't even have that kind of information?
Oh and what is the much more I have to lose?
I'm not naive, I have taken way to many precautions for this to happen to me lol like I said, anyone who may claim to have slept with me won't be able to identify anything about me so nobody will believe them.
the internet is a complex tracking system-if one really wants to find someone and has the technical know how-they'll have unlimited tools-why do i need to give an scenario when you just did?
@Sabretooth I gave you a scenario that's absolutely ridiculous lol Think about this, I see a guy and he claims he slept with me, he tells people this and I ask him "if we have slept together then tell everyone what kind of tattoo I have and where" he will not be able to answer this question and he will look like an idiot. It's not like he will investigate any tattoos I have beforehand right? He doesn't know that question is coming. So even if he manages to find out (which is pretty much impossible by the way because the tattoo under my breast I got while travelling) it would be way too late lol What aren't you getting about this scenario?
girl, he's seeing you naked-unless you're wearing a fully body suit-he's gonna know what you look like
@Sabretooth lmao I told you that in my online pictures and when I meet I cover my tattoos up with dermablend. All my piercings come out and my tattoos are covered. I told you that already so like I said, give me a scenario where I will be outed when any guy who claims to have slept with me can't even identify a tattoo I have had since I was 19.
He could easily say they were covered up-so it could go either way.
@Sabretooth He wouldn't even know it was covered up 😂
@Sabretooth dermablend is some amazing shit, you can't tell. What would be the point in covering up if it's obvious if ever covered up?
really? he's having sex with you and he's nt gonna know if something's covered up?
@Sabretooth Yeah, it's like make up. It's deigned to cover tattoos so once it's on and you put some powder over the top then you can't even tell. I wouldn't bother covering up if it was obvious
that puts you in a bind. than he could say you didn't have one... than what?
I've already explained this to you, why are you finding it so difficult to understand? Ok so this guy I've slept with tries to out me to my friends, future partner, family.. what ever. He says hey, I've slept with this girl! She is a prostitue, don't trust her blah blah blah.. Then I say, ok well if I'm a prostitue and we slept together then tell me what kind of tattoos I have and where? What colour are they? Then he can not answer these questions and nobody will believe him because someone who has slept with me should be able to see a massive tattoo right between and under my boobs, right? Do you get it now?
and i explained to you-he could simply say you didn't have any-whereas you can't prove anything either way without letting the truth slip.
Oh wow, ok so I'm not sure how else to explain this to you. Ok so let's say that a year from now I have a boyfriend and then an old client sees me in public or he is a friend of a friend and he tells my partner that he has slept with me before, ok? So let's say that my partner talks to me about it or I am there when he is making these accusations and I ask him to prove it, I say to him. If you have slept with me then tell me what kind of tattoos I have, where they're situated, how many, what colours? This guy is stumped, he has never seen any tattoos on me and claims that I have none right? Because he has never seen them. So then my partner will think that this man is either lying or has mistaken me for someone else because he would be able to tell us of any tattoos I have on my body. So there, someone tries to out me but it doesn't work and nobody will believe him. I will obviously deny it, pretend I don't know him. Do you get it! I can't dumb it down further.
okay, i'm done
@Sabretooth well thank goodness for that, I'm glad I finally found a way to explain it to you so you understand.
... you didn't
Wow, you seriously don't get it? Basically people can accuse me of being a prostitue and having slept with me but nobody will believe them because they can't even identify that I have a massive tattoo under my boobs. I'm really struggling to understand what you are failing to comprehend here?
he could say you didn't have them-and you won't be able to prove otherwise without the truth slipping out
ommmggggggggggg
nonody is going to think that I cover my tattoos up just to fuck guys, that is such a far fetched train of thought that almost nobody would have. He would just look like a liar or like he has mistook me for someone else.
how can he lie if he didn't know the truth? and you can't prove he's lying.
Most people don't even realise it's possible to cover up tattoos without it being super obvious, you are the perfect example of that.
insulkts? you're hardly one to throw insults at me-that also doesn't argue my point.
''insults''
How did I insult you?
you basically called be stupid-twuce
my lord, this is actually painful. I could go up to anyone and accuse them of anything but without proof those accusations mean nothing. He would have no proof, he would look like an idiot coz he knows nothing about me.
@Sabretooth basically called you stupid or did I call you stupid? No, I didn't so I haven't insulted you, maybe you feel insulted but I haven't called you anything. All I've done is remark at how annoying it is that you fail to understand something so simple.. if you think that makes you stupid, well that's your opinion.. not mine.
''Do you get it! I can't dumb it down further''. ''Most people don't even realise it's possible to cover up tattoos without it being super obvious, you are the perfect example of that.'' and you can't prove he's lying.
@Sabretooth yeah, most people don't know.. you didn't know and I told you lol how is that calling you or even implying you're stupid? You didn't know... As the for the dumb it down comment, that's what I was doing. I explained it, you didn't get it so I broke it down (dumbed it down) again and again AND AGAIN and you still don't get it lol I didn't call you stupid, I said I dumbed it down and you didn't get it. You're the first one to mention stupidity.
defiantly sounded like it. i did get it but it doesn't change the fact that you can't prove him a liar
sweetheart, it's not about proving he is a liar. He will look like a liar or like he has mistaken me for someone else. THATS THE POINT!!! Nobody is going to belive him coz it doesn't make sense that he wouldn't see my tattoos, fuck even the guy himself would probably be confused but it.
that's very doubtful. again, you can't prove he's wrong... there is no way to prove him wrong without proving him right. you don't seem to realize what a thin and fragile tightrope you're on-deception will only go so far-and once you fall off-no lie will be enough to save yourself-you WILL be found out... and your rep... well-say goodbye.
@Sabretooth lol you're not getting it sweetheart, the point is not if I can prove him wrong. The point is that he already looks like he is wrong so nobody will take him seriously.
but he isn't wrong-he'll know it and so will you
@Sabretooth lol yeah, what's your point? To everybody else he will just be the crazy person who accused me of being a prostitute when he doesn't even know who I am.
Don't you get it? That's the point, nobody will figure it out.
keep on telling yourself that-as i've said before ''a thin and fragile tightrope''.
you just want to be right so badly that you can't think logically.
I know i'm you're the one who's in denial. You say you're not ashamed-yet you rely on such fragile deception to stay hidden. I am rarely wrong-when i am-it's never for a good reason-take this mytake for example-i thought it was to warn other young girls-unfortunately, it was only to make yourself feel better while you encourage it. Mock me if you will-but don't say you weren't warned the dominoes start falling. I end this debate hoping you open your eyes before that happens,
" i know im right"
@Sabretooth I don't rely on fragile deception lol wtf? That was an example of the worst case scenario. I have no fear of anything like that every happening to me because I take precautions to avoid such things. You haven't opened my eyes lol I hve my precautions in place. Your attitude that you're never wrong is just arrogant and makes you seem like an douche 😂
If a guy is over 20, contacting a prostitute and he is still a virgin, I don't think he is going to regret anything. He probably just wants to get it done.
Favorite my take ever.
i don't even know why people look down on women who choose a path of consuming other mens pain and sadness! in exchange of a little financial support, its not like you are robbing a bank of millions of dollars
and nor committing a crime like killing someone
i would personally like to know you, get the quote about life, from your experience! and when you choose to end this life! move to a new place, culture should change so your past does not follows you.