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Alright, everybody prepare for an angry rant. I don’t typically do these all that often but today I had another experience that just tipped me over the edge and brought up a whole lot of past resentment. Before I start, I just want you all to know that this is NOT intended to be a “fuck men” bashing sort of take, this is a take that is specifically complaining about SPECIFIC types of men I have met, not men as a whole.
With that said, I can’t believe how often I find myself absolutely repulsed and turned off by some of the dudes out there. I get it, when you find somebody attractive, you want to tell them … but there are SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE WAYS DO SO without puking out: “Nice tits honey” or “Hey mama, you wanna ride?” or “Wanna know what I’d like do to you?”
No, no I would not sir. I’m also not your mother, and I know my boobs are nice but you can appreciate them silently like everyone else.
I want to meet the person who told these people that making remarks like that will get them girls. I also want to meet the girls who are into that kind of shit so they can help me understand just why it is that this is apparently just so kosher and normal to some folks. Literally, I do not understand the guys who think if they honk at me and invite me in their car (while I am dressed MODESTLY) that I will actually do so, or if they make comments about my body I’ll suddenly be so swept off of my feet that I’ll just hurl myself at them, or that if they tell me they want to do dirty shit to me that my pants will just hit the floor like magic and their fantasies will be fulfilled. What fairytale do these people live in? Tell me, please.
So, here’s just a recap list of things that immediately turn me off when being approached by guys on the street ... grab a drink and a snack for this one:
Sexual remarks about my body
If you think I’m beautiful, just say that instead of: Oh baby, your tits are nice. That ass! I’d like to hug those curves! Stop … just … stop. You may as well have just shouted at me: I’m a creepy, horny fucker who can’t stop ogling you and I severely lack social awareness and self control, so I am absolutely NOT the kind of guy you would ever go out with. Remember that the next time you want to make a remark about a woman’s body. Especially if pepper spray is legal in your state.
Staring at my boobs like I don’t have a face
And no, before anyone asks, I don’t wear revealing clothes. I get that you can’t always help but look, but you do NOT need to stare like you’re making eye contact with my nipples, okay? It’s rude. Stop it.
Asking me to get in your car when I don’t know you
I don’t know what kind of parents you had, but mine taught me to not get into vehicles with absolute strangers. To even suggest to a woman you see on the street to get in your car with you says three things about you:
- You’re probably a fucking rapist
- You’re wrongfully assuming I’m a prostitute even though I’m completely covered
- You’re yet again a creepy, horny fucker who is so naïve that he thinks I’m going to get in his car and show him a good time no strings attached. AKA: You’re poorly socialized and delusional.
Shouting at me to try and get my attention, especially when you refer to me as any of the following
-Baby
-Honey
-Red
-Mama
-Sweetheart
-Etc.
If I’m across the street, the bar, or wherever, you either come up to me or wave to get my attention. Don’t start shouting at me; its super rude and embarrassing considering it catches EVERYONE ELSE’S ATTENTION considering EVERYONE CAN HEAR YOU! If you can’t approach me just let it go, man.
Continuing to pursue me when I reject you/tell you I have a boyfriend
Buddy, I’m a nice girl. If you approach me and try to flirt with me I won’t immediately grow horns and pull out the mace, alright? But I am going to reject you or tell you I’m with somebody to try and end the situation, something you need to accept. DO NOT … under any circumstances continue to pressure me into giving you my number, social media, or to go out with you, because all that says about you is: “I don’t give a single shit about your comfort or your status because I am a self-centered dog that’ll probably cheat on you.” There’s persistence … and there’s being a total pest.
Trying to block me in/corner me
Worst places to get hit on are on buses, planes, and elevators. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been cornered by a guy on a long bus ride. Literally, I have had guys block me in my seat and physically put themselves in front of me with their arms propped up thinking they can box me in, etc. It’s fucking intimidating. You might think that by forcefully keeping me there or cornering me that your chances of getting with me are raised but they aren’t. You’re actually scaring me, I’ve labeled you a total creep, and the second I can escape I am going to and make sure I never run into you again. Just do not do this shit, please.
Refusing to let me leave when I said no
If I say no to your advances and I try to leave, don’t … ever … grab my hand or arm to try and prevent me from leaving. Don’t try to block the exit or beg me to stay, let me leave you clingy, desperate creep. It is NOT going to change my mind about you, period, so just knock it off, PLEASE.
Cussing me out, apologizing, and then expecting me to un-reject you
If I reject you and you decide that’s grounds to call me every dirty name in the book … well, all I can say is fuck you too, you self entitled prick. But if you plan on doing this, at least be a man and follow through. Don’t try to apologize to me later and then expect to be in my good graces, let alone expect me to reconsider going out with you. You weren’t my type to begin with, then you called me a: “Fucking stupid ass cunt and a cock tease” … yeah I’m not going out with you, nutjob.
Trying to guilt me into going out with you
Please don’t give me the poor me crap if I reject you. I hate to say this, but I don’t care. It isn’t because I’m cruel, but it’s because you’re a stranger, I do not know you, and you can’t make me pity you enough to go out with you. So don’t tell me: “Oh I’m a great guy, but no one gives me a chance, I thought you’d be different” or “You just won’t go out with me because I’m ugly. You really shouldn’t be so shallow. I’d treat you like a princess!” Stop. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, but trying to make me feel like shit is not going to light the fire necessary for me to be attracted to you enough to go out with you. It makes you seem petty and manipulative. Besides, you only approached me because you thought I was hot, hypocrite.
Touching me ... period
If I am not reciprocating your advances, don't touch me. At all. Period. Don't grab my waist or hip, don't try to hold my hands, touch my arms, brush my hair out of my face, none of that shit. If I am not your girlfriend, do not grab my ass, rub or touch my thigh, try to whisper in my ear, or get anywhere near my boobs. I will make the biggest scene if you touch me.
That’s all the rant juice I have in me. I want to reiterate that this does not apply to men as a whole; it’s likely a very small portion of men who are just ignorant, poorly socialized or just plain weirdos. Thanks if you read all the way through and you guys have a good one.
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